I remember growing up thinking that girls were gross with their cooties. I remember the girls in my class thinking that all the boys were dirty and nasty, and then one day it all changed for us one by one. We began to get funny feelings that made us attracted to whomever we may have liked. Maybe it was the Disney movies we grew up watching, where the good always overcame evil and everyone lived happily ever after. Now we all know that we don't always find our perfect prince charming or princess on the first person, but we always have a comeback story. I mean we read blogs all the time of someone being hurt and always rising above the hardship. We all love the underdog story, but this isn't that type of post. People are heart broken all the time and choosing to move on is a great, but sometimes people don't get that miraculous overcoming. This post is to the people who haven't had their, "I'm better off without you" type of perceptive to the people who may have broke their heart.

When someone has left you, being anyone from a romantic relationship, friendship or family. There is always that infamous question, what did I do wrong? This is a normal question and we always have an answer, which could be true or false. You think that maybe you should changed and that this was your fault. Now I know everyone will always tell you, "You should never have to change for anyone." I wish I could live in a world where everyone is perfectly good and wonderful and never have to change for anyone, but that isn't always the case. If you treat someone badly, don't you think that you should change to treat that person better? I am all for expressing who you are as a person, and I don't think people should change themselves completely, but if someone can be more aware of themselves and swallow their pride, then maybe some change could be a good thing.

With that being said, we need to understand that you could be the world's greatest person and someone will still leave you. You have a million reasons of why that person left you, but in the end they are gone. I'm not going to write telling you, the reader, to just deal with it and move on. No matter what happens all I can is that I am sorry, I know how this feels and you're not alone. Everyone gets over someone being gone in their life, and I know you want to one day tell that person that you are better off without and them and that this was the best change in your life, but I hate to say this, but that won't be for everyone. You may not ever have that revelation for someone leaving you, but overcoming the loss of someone that was good to you makes you stronger than most people. Sometime your overcoming will not be a victory as some people may feel when they are over someone. Someone once told me that anyone can take victory, but only the strong can take defeat.