Society tends to frown upon things that aren't mainstream. Many people seem to be unable to fathom anything that isn't done or accepted by the majority. Since they can't understand it, they criticize it. This is the case for many things, including virginity. People don't shy away from talking about virginity, but many have a tendency to misrepresent virgins.
Here are five myths about virgins.
1. They are prudes
If someone hasn't had sex, it's because they don't want to... Right?
Not necessarily. Not all virgins have an aversion to physical touch. Most of them don't lack sexual desire. What sets them apart is the self-restraint that keeps them from acting on that desire. There are many reasons people decide to remain virgins: religious belief, personal preference, self-improvement, etc. Whatever the reason, it most likely doesn't fit your stereotype.
2. They have no opportunities
"You just haven't slept with anyone because no one has wanted to sleep with you."
First of all, what a rude thing to say! Second of all, it's probably not true! That implies that the second someone shows interest in having sex with them, they'd be down. It's important to remember that a lot of virgins are virgins by choice and not by circumstance. For example, the other day a guy on Hinge said he likes to have sex, and I told him I wouldn't be willing to do that. That conversation ended real quick.
3. They aren't qualified for relationships
For a lot of people, virginity is a turnoff. Some guys won't even consider dating a girl who's a virgin. People place a lot of importance on sexual experience. Someone who isn't experienced in that area is somehow less desirable. Why? Does that mean they have a bad personality? No. Does it mean they don't like to have fun? No. Does it mean they have nothing to offer? Of course not! Being a virgin doesn't make someone any less qualified to be in a relationship. There are more important things than sex, people. Get your heads out of the gutter!
4. They are selfish
How dare virgins withhold sex from their partners? That's not fair! People have needs!
You're right, we do. That's why virgins are actually incredibly selfless. You never hear a virgin complain about not having their needs met. Why not? Because they have already accepted that truth. They have no expectations from anyone. If they want their needs met, they have to do it themselves. It's actually quite efficient.
5. They are teases
"Just because they're a virgin doesn't make them innocent. They're such a tease!"
Flirty virgin is not an oxymoron, but you shouldn't mistake flirting for interest in something more. It is possible for a virgin to like you without wanting to have sex with you. If you think they're teasing you, you're probably wrong. Even if they are, that doesn't give you permission to make a move on them. Chances are they don't have any ulterior motives (unlike you).
I hope I've been able to clear up some common misconceptions about virgins. We get a bad rep, but we're pretty great. Take the time to get to know us, and I'm sure you'll agree. Also, you'll know that if we like you, it's not just for your body. If you don't want us to like you just because of your body, then please don't dislike us just because of what we choose to do with ours.
