Make The Choice To Finally Love Yourself

Make The Choice To Finally Love Yourself

You are perfect the way you are.

Now that summer is here, all anyone talks about is how they need to go to the gym and start eating healthier. They need to get in shape for that dream summer bod so that when they go to the beach they'll look great. I'm here to say that is not what life is about.

I have had my fair share of struggles. Days where I counted calories to lose weight, didn't want to eat, looked in the mirror and hated what I saw. The self hatred I had was the drive I used to go to the gym. I figured if I went to the gym and ate healthy then I would lose weight and finally be happy with myself- which was not true at all. There is no workout plan or diet plan in the world that is going to get you to start loving the body that you have. Loving yourself, starts with you and your mindset.

Hating your body gets you nowhere. We currently live in a society that tries to tell us how we should look, act, talk, think, etc. But in reality, once you get to a point where you can love yourself, you start to realize how our society has nothing to do with how we should look. We spend so much of our time trying to live up to these false standards of someone that we were not meant to be and we lose sight of the beauty that is in us.

Learning to love yourself is a long difficult road that sometimes takes years. But when you finally get there, you start to see life through a new set of eyes. There will be days that you do not feel beautiful or enough — but you need to tell yourself you are. And you also need to believe it. Become your own biggest fan. Once you start planting the seed of confidence and beauty in yourself, it will be hard for you to ever doubt your beauty again. You will no longer care about the little things that once were big things.

Embrace all of your flaws. You are perfectly made and that's that. Who cares if you are not a size two? Who cares if you are curvy? Everyone has flaws and that is life. Learn to love them! Once you start loving the body you were given, you will lead a happier and healthier life. Everyone at some point in their life gains weight. Our bodies change overtime as we get older and it is time you stop comparing yourself to how you used to look. Hating your body everyday just gets tiring. You make yourself sick and miserable. Love the body that you have and rock it because no one else is made the way that you are, which is what makes you so wonderful.

Loving yourself is one of the greatest things that you can do. When you love yourself, then the world will love you back. Encourage yourself and give yourself more credit. You are beautiful just the way you are and you should never let anyone tell you otherwise.

I hope that this reaches someone out there who is struggling to love themselves because they are listening to what society is telling them. I assure you that society is wrong because beauty comes in all different shapes and sizes. Never let someone tell you that you are not beautiful- because you are. Let go of your insecurities, love your flaws and stop letting a scale control you. Just love yourself!

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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7 Ways To Calm Your Mind, Body, And Soul During An Anxiety Attack

It is OK not to be OK.


Everyone gets anxiety attacks whether you will admit it or not. Seven little things that help me find my inner peace are ones I feel everyone should be aware of.

1. Try the "5, 4, 3, 2, 1" grounding exercise.

Answer these five questions out loud for sensory awareness:

What are five things you can see?

What are four things you can feel?

What are three things you can hear?

What are two things you can smell?

What is one thing you love about yourself?

2. Try out this breathing .GIF.

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3. Listen to a song that reduces your anxiety.

4. Use some lavender oil.

Rub it on your temples.

Put some on your wrists.



5. Tense up your muscles (and then relax).

This may sound counter-intuitive, but just give it a try:

Start tensing at your toes and move up through your body — legs, abdomen, arms, neck, and jaw. Hold it for four counts. Then, relax your muscles. Feel the tension melt out of you.

6. Download an app on your phone.

There are my top apps for helping with anxiety (and they are FREE):

"Recolor" (a coloring book app).

"Wordscapes" (like a crossword puzzle).

"PicrossLUNA" (kind of a play-off of sudoku).

"Words With Friends 2" (just like Scrabble).

7. Reach into your freezer and grab an ice cube.

Just one of many distraction methods.

Reach into the freezer and grab an ice cube or an ice pack.

Hold it firmly in your hand.

Place it on your toes.

The idea is to distract your mind from anything else.

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