Ladies, this might be the most important thing you read all day. This is a wake up call. It's time to stop the negativity, the self-hate, the shaming, the fat talk, or anything else bad that you might have to say about yourself. It's time to lighten up and talk about something more important: how to love yourself.
It scares me to see women of any age genuinely hating themselves or being depressed because of society's constant quest for "perfection." Pop your head into any conversation between a group of girls and you'll hear it: "I only have a 3.9 and I NEED a 4.0. I'm a size six but my thighs touch so I really need to starve myself. I'm not going out in public because I'm so ugly right now." It's sad how quick we are to judge ourselves and others these days based on each person's individual perception of what the ideal woman looks like. If I could kill one person, it would be that "ideal woman" because she is poison to the female brain and leaves us feeling unworthy and ugly. It's time to toss that idea out. Every one of us has something to offer and the best way to show that is to work with what you've got and LOVE yourself for it. When people see you feeling yourself, they will have no choice but to fall in love with you too.
Let's look at an example. Why do women love and look up to Beyonce as opposed to Adriana Lima? Sure, both are beautiful, and I'm sure anyone would want to trade bodies with either of them to look that hot walking around half-naked on stage. Yet we'd rather trade lives with Beyonce because she LOVES herself for who she is, and you can tell by the way she exudes confidence with every man-eating and female anthem she releases along with her presence as a feminist. If you want people to think you are as **flawless** as The Queen, then you need to first believe it and start acting like it!
We ALL know Beyonce isn't walking with the likes of the models for Chanel and Dior runways with her curves. You can't put a size on beautiful, so don't let the magazines and fashion ads fool you. If you want proof, check out the absolutely perfect women that tried on Victoria's Secret bathing suits for Buzzfeed this month and read how they felt. My favorite quote from the article came from Sheridan, who said, "I think it’s obvious that any size can be sexy, whether you’re a 0 or a 20. I didn’t feel 100 percent comfortable rocking a suit so tight my nipples were calling for mercy, but I was hoping that by doing so, I could at least show people that it’s OK to bare your body. You don’t have to look like Behati to wear a swimsuit. Do what makes you happy and you’ll be OK in the end." This is how we need to be!
You think men don't see this too? Take it from the guys in any dating column that nothing is sexier than a woman who's comfortable in her own skin. If you're guilty of asking lines like: "Does this skirt make my thighs look fat?"…stop asking now. Men wrote to Fox News Magazine saying that if you're constantly needing a man's reassurance that you're beautiful, he may start asking questions himself. Even think of it in the reverse, if you were looking for your perfect match, wouldn't you rather someone who is sure of themselves and walks with the highest self esteem than someone who constantly hates on themselves?
If you take away one thing from this pep talk, make sure that it is this: loving yourself is in and s**t talk is out. Having confidence and building yourself up when you want to talk yourself down will make you radiate happiness, and that is the most beautiful look on a woman to anybody. Break time's over ladies, let's start doing this today.
