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TheĀ  'Loving Despite' Concept Is Great As Long As You Are on The Right Side Of It

The flaws in thinking about loving them despite.

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TheĀ  'Loving Despite' Concept Is Great As Long As You Are on The Right Side Of It
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One of the newer romance movies on Netflix was honestly adorable and heartwarming. If you haven't heard of it, Set It Up is a movie about basically being your bosses cupid. I loved the movie and the story is great. The conviction that is shown through the characters also makes you think, 'what would you do?' Everything is great and the love story is amazing to anticipate.

The thing that really gets me is that 'loving despite' is a dangerous concept. This movie is superb about it when 'despite' means that he snores or she snorts when she laughs. 'Loving despite' is great for these small things and if it weren't for loving despite, my boyfriend might have been halfway out the door, but loving despite is a thin line you only want to be on the right side of.

Think about it! You may have the problem of loving him despite him not loving you back! I did when I was in high school. My first love was a year ahead of me and didn't love me. But I loved him all the same! Heck, my heart being broken was a weekly event but I loved him despite the fact that he didn't love me and it tore me apart.

Loving despite may also take a more serious turn. You may love him despite he is married. He loves you but his wife doesn't know that. His wife's lawyer can never know that. And for everyone's sake, his kids can never ever think about him loving you! And yet you love him despite. Men this applies to you as well!

"Despite" could be even as serious as abuse. It's hard to face it when you love the person and you have loved this person but loving them despite them abusing you in any way is a dangerous thing as well. You may love them because they take care of you and they treat you well when they know they've done wrong but loving them despite the abuse is dangerous!

Finally, maybe you love them despite the fact that they aren't the right one. The two of you are head over heels but your lives are going in two different directions- which is okay! Loving them despite that it's a bad thing but there needs to be the knowledge that you need to let them go.

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