To girls who are always willing to do anything for guys they love. To those who try to stay up a bit later waiting for a text every night, who check their phone for a message as the first thing when they first wake up. To girls who have been doubting whether their other half is cheating on them or still loves them. To those who are left or betrayed...
I guess all girls are the same in this matter: We care too much about someone who never cared for us in the same way.
First of all, most boys are carefree. They think more simply than us. They don’t focus on little details, and they might spend more times on video games than responding your text. But that does not mean that they don’t care or don’t love you. Different people have different ways of expressing love. Our fathers must be the men who love us the most and are willing to sacrifice everything for us, but they won't text us every hour when we go out or notice each of our emotional changes like our mothers do.
If he loves you, he’s always there for you.
However, if your dream man is not meant for you, let him go, out of your life even when you think he's the "right" guy. Sometimes you have to learn to let go because we deserve a man who we are happy to be with. You don't need to chase after anyone. If he breaks your heart once, he does not deserve you.
Don’t wait. Don't depend. Make your own decisions. Enjoy yourself. Don't devalue yourself for anyone. And always remember that “If he doesn't want you, someone else will.” And even if there’s no guy around you, your girl friends will be.
To girls who have always been so insecure about their body shapes. To those who suffer from eating disorder, who weigh themselves multiple times a day and think they are fat every time they stare at the mirror. To who are called fat and are tired of hearing "Are you gonna eat all of that?” or “You’re eating too much!”...
First of all, how you choose to look is no one else’s business. People love you for who you are, not how you look. They should be proud to be with you regardless your appearance. Those who call you fat are just ignorant because your true beauty is not defined by the number on scale but your personality and moral. Secondly, being skinny doesn’t mean you're healthy and not looking skinny doesn’t mean you’re not healthy. You're fine to diet and exercise but don't do it in an unhealthy way like starving yourself.
Adele once said “I like having my hair and face done, but I'm not going to lose weight because someone tells me to. I make music to be a musician not to be on the cover of Playboy.”
So, eat and be happy.
To girls who always try to meet other society “beauty standards,” who always think they are ugly and can't go outside unless they have makeup on, who are told “you look so short” as if being short is a crime, who try to catch up every new fashion trend so that they won't be called "old-fashioned," who think they must have double eye-lid, V-shape face, pointy nose, smooth soft skin, collar bone, thigh gap, etc...
You're not a media entertainer. Change the way you view things, not the way you look. You don't have to look like anyone in order to be "cool" because we are cool ourselves. Each of us are created different in a unique way. You’re flaws make you unique. You might not like the way you look but there are people who are looking up to you. In addition, people you see on social media are “selected” people, over seven billion people in the world; the images you see on media are photoshopped, and covered under layers of makeups. Sometimes advertisements appear in certain ways for certain purpose, because they want your attention and your money. Beauty “standards” change from time to time so just be yourself and be confidence!
To girls who are trapped under the concept of "femininity," who are expected to act like a lady and to follow certain dress code, who would probably be rejected if they have tattoo or body piercings. To those who are expected to be submissive, to know how to cook and clean, and to keep their virgin until marriage. And to those who have to live under a girl “shell,” who can’t live with their true gender and have to be who they aren’t...
It's twenty-first century and we're talking about equality. There's nothing wrong with being ourselves. They can't block someone's mindset in the frame.
People who judge and ask you to be in a certain way are not open-minded enough to come to realize that each of us is created differently and we have own right to choose the way we want to present ourselves. It's your life and we need to be happy. Speak up for what you want and what you deserve. If you want a tattoo, go get one. If you’re sick of long hair, don't hesitate to get an undercut. Do things that make you happy now otherwise at the end of your life you will just regret the past time you have been wasting your lifetime reluctantly trying to satisfy the society with countless expectations.
Remember that, whatever belongs to opinion is never right or wrong!
Finally, to girls who cut because it’s the only way to release all these stress, to those who suffer from bipolar, depression and other disorders. To those who always overthink at night then end up crying themselves to sleep, who use substance to forget about their sadness and who always tolerate so much for a better consequence.
Remember this. You're pretty, intelligent, and talented. You are strong and independent.
You can cry whenever you fall but you can also stand up after that. Forget about anything, anyone that makes you unhappy because they are like an iceberg trying to sink you while you’re trying your best to float in the ocean of life. Holding back the sorrow and harming your body, your health is the way to sink yourself deeper and declare the victory for those who purposefully harm you. Even when you think that you're alone, there are always people who love and need you in their life. As long as you're not doing harm to anyone, just be yourself and live your life the way you want.
Start a day with positive thoughts. Forget about the sad yesterday. Call a friend when you feel down. Go out, go shopping, spend money, eat, find a hobby, travel to places. As you're still young, be a little more selfish, think more for yourself and less for others. Afraid nothing and dream big!
A short message to those who judge
