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Stop Looking For Him

"Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love but don't put your life on hold waiting for love." — Mandy Hale

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Stop Looking For Him

With Valentine's Day recently passing, it's natural to feel alone. You are divided into one of two groups: single or in a relationship. Clearly, if you're in a relationship, this "holiday" holds some sort of significance to you. However, if you're not, you don't really care.

I'm a bit indifferent when it comes to Valentine's Day. I think it's nice to have a day dedicated to the person you care about. Although, I do think it's unfair to only have one day specifically dedicated to them. Obviously, for many people, this is not true. I'm sure a lot of days can feel like Valentine's Day, but a lot of days probably don't. That's why I think it's an unneeded holiday.

However, if you are one of the people who spent this holiday alone, don't question why. We go through times in our life when we have someone, and we go through times when we don't. It's normal. When we don't have a "someone," it's easy to constantly be looking for one. I think the times when we don't think we're going to meet someone, is often when we do.

So, stop looking.

I know it's hard to. You see people all around you in relationships, and sometimes you just want what they have. You hear about people meeting someone at such random times, and you think to yourself, "Why doesn't that happen to me?" The truth is, that's just not what's in the cards for you right now.

A lot of people believe their happiness depends on being with another person. They believe being in a relationship is everything they need to feel more fulfilled. It's easy to think about this. When your relationship is going well, it feels like every other part of your life is going well. However, when the relationship suddenly turns sour, it feels like every part of your life is falling apart. I was one of the people that didn't know what it was like to not be in a relationship. When I suddenly wasn't, I felt like something was missing. That wasn't the case, I just wasn't used to it. However, that's just how life goes.

It's good to have time on your own. You can feel fulfilled without someone else. As cliché as it sounds, you have time to work on yourself. You have time to experience things on your own without constantly putting effort into something that you don't know will work out. For me, this was so hard to grasp. I didn't know what being on my own was like. For a while, you feel weird. But after a while, you get used to it. More importantly, you start to like what it feels like. This is when you will randomly cross paths with him. This is when you'll find what you weren't looking for.

And when you do, enjoy every second of it. But until then, keep working on yourself.

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