You're An Idiot If You Think I Can't Be A Feminist And Date A Man

If I had a dollar for every time I have been told: "If you hate men so much, shouldn't you be a lesbian?" I would have enough money to educate you idiots. I don't know where the idea came from that you can't be a feminist and date a man, but it's stupid.

Feminism isn't hating men. We don't say "men are trash" because we hate them all entirely, we say that to bring light to many issues, such as structural oppression, the effects of the patriarchy on both men and women, catcalling, sexual assault, and so on. We say that to bring attention to what the narrative is and in a sense encourage men to work to change it.

So how the hell does that affect my love life? It doesn't. I am attracted to men, I love dating and being with them. I have a boyfriend. My boyfriend and I agree politically, so even he understands and supports me when I say those three little words that piss off so many online. Obviously, I don't hate all men, and if you think that's what feminists mean when they say "men are trash," again, you've missed the point.

I won't even begin to dive into the sheer ignorance of the people who say I should be a lesbian if I "hate men so much," because that just means you're stupid and don't understand sexuality, too.

Taking a stand for women doesn't mean I can't be happily involved in a relationship. I can, and I am. Hell, I've never been happier. So you can keep your little jokes and jabs at feminism to yourself because the movement is growing and only picking up speed. You're just a tiny little bump in the road on our radar.

I'm sure the fact that there are male feminists and allies hurts your brain too much to think about, so I'll just leave you with that.

If you think I'm going to be upset or bothered with your sad attempts to poke fun at my feminist beliefs by trying to criticize who I'm attracted to, you've thought wrong. Anyone who actually takes the time to be educated understands the true meaning behind the catchphrase, and if you'd rather be stuck in your own Trump-esque style of thinking, that's your funeral.

I'm thankful for the men in my life who are incredible role models and friends, who therefore are not offended when I say "men are trash," because they understand what it means. I'm thankful for the man I love. So, thanks for your trash of an opinion, but I'm just fine with him.