40 People Describe Their Ideal Significant Other, Anonymously

I Asked 40 People To Anonymously Describe Their Ideal Significant Other, Here's What They Described

We are all looking for that one person.


We are all looking for that one person to spend our life with. For me, I just want someone who is kind hearted, will have my back, and is willing to try new things with me. To get an idea of just how similar and different peoples preferences are I asked 40 people to describe their ideal significant other. The results ranged from what they were looking for in personality to their significant others ideal looks to lifestyle preferences.

Check out the compilation of results below:

19-year-old female

Tall, blue eyes, freckles, athletic but musical and artistic.

74-year-old female

Someone trustworthy, honest, and dependable. Who knows and accepts you as you are with all your faults and shortcomings but still appreciates the strengths you bring to the relationship without trying to change you.

19-year-old male

Someone who will care about me as much as I care about them and will go out of their way to support me. And I could do the same for them.

23-year-old female

Someone who cares for me and loves me more than anything else in this world. Someone who would make sacrifices for me since I know I would do the same thing for them.

25-year-old male

Smart, attractive. Funny, quick-witted. Independent. Up to date on current topics. Lovable. Active. A leader. Big old titties.

20-year-old trans-man

Someone I can be myself around and can trust not to turn away for being too weird.

19-year-old female

My ideal significant other would be a man that is caring, intelligent, tall, and most importantly family oriented. If he's handsome that would be a plus but honesty looks isn't everything's so someone who I can talk to easily isn't goofy at times and I think that's all.

20-year-old female

Tall (but not too tall), funny, kind, smart. Knows exactly how to make me feel loved and important. The type to wrap his arms around me when he knows I'm sad. Isn't afraid to argue with me when he knows he is right.

17-year-old female

Funny, stubborn and emotional but also very loveable and amazing to be with; also, best cuddler ever.

19-year-old Two Spirit

Another Native American person with similar experiences in the world as me (or the ability to empathize), someone who shows they care about other peoples feelings & humanity, someone intelligent, witty, humorous.

19-year-old male

My ideal significant other is a tall girl but shorter than me, with blue eyes. She will put in as much effort as me in the relationship and love me.

15-year-old female


19-year-old female

My ideal significant other is someone who makes me laugh. He can appreciate the things I love and visa-versa. Also, someone who can bring me back down to earth when I get emotional and let me know that everything is ok.

20-year-old male

Someone who is willing to love me for who I am. Won't make me compromise on what I care about the most. A person willing to give me some freedom at times, but also willing to spend a lot of time with me. I want someone who will be there to celebrate with me when I accomplish things in my life. I want to be with someone that I feel like my life is set with.

 20-year-old female

There are a few things that I consider ideal regarding a significant other. But, two of the most important things to me are trust and reliability. Some other things that are ideal is a similar sense of humor, and physical attractiveness and compatibility.

19-year-old female

My best friend, someone who doesn't think that all of me is "too much". Someone that doesn't need to do anything in particular but just enjoys the time shared together.

13-year-old female

A boy with brown hair, blue green eyes. He understands me and won't try to hurt me. very funny, nice, has a great personality.

50-year-old male

Your mom.

18-year-old male

My ideal significant other is outgoing, loves to travel, and doesn't care about their own personal experience. They also don't put up a fake persona to impress others.

18-year-old female

Emo af. Also loves animals because they're cute. And is nice because mean humans aren't good.

41-year-old female

My ideal significant other is funny, kind, patient, likes some of the same things I do, wants to spend time with me, my partner in crime, communicates and is loyal and honest! Has manners and treats me with respect, someone I can see myself growing old with and living life together!

20-year-old female

Someone who is kind, intelligent and communicative. He or she has goals they're working towards and is willing to support me in working towards mine.

18-year-old male

A woman. Tall, darker complexion. Someone who is unafraid to be herself, to stand up for what she believes in, and to be sincere. Someone who is passionate and loving, but independent and focused on her own dreams, ambitions, and goals.

27-year-old female

My ideal significant other would be willing to go away for a weekend on a moments notice. They would be willing to help out with small tasks and have the patience of gold. They would also be respectful of me and I of them.

19-year-old fale

Hippy vibes, kind, funny, and attractive qualities.

19-year-old female

Kind, funny, will show me new music, has goals, wants to meet my family and friends and will let me meet theirs, loves animals (especially dogs), stands up for human rights.

20-year-old female

Someone who loves every part of you, even the bad ones. Someone who remembers even the littlest of things. Someone who makes me smile and laugh. Above all else, someone who makes me feel beautiful even when I don't always see it myself. Someone who I can grow with.

68-year-old male

She would be female with a beautiful attitude, loving and kind heart. A good sense of humor is important, and necessary for a relationship to last. A person with strong family ties and even stronger morales is needed. A Christian with a unwavering love for God. Physically appealing both to look at and sexually desirable.

19-year-ago female

Taller than me, loving, and MUST be funny. Supportive of me in every way and must have a killer smile.

18-year-old male

A best friend, a lover someone who will be there for you whenever and however you need.

65-year-old female

He is a Godly man, full of faith, patient with me almost all the time, gentle spirited, kind, loving, funny, full of life, caring, loves to play jokes on people and laughs at himself, hard worker, good provider, has the heart of a king, and courage of a lion, slow to speak, snazzy dresser, playful, snores like a freight train, loves to read, prayer warrior, willing to help others, considerate, full of life, loves the Lord with all his heart, he is my knight in shining armor, he is my everything.

20-year-old female


25-year-old male

Someone who is kinda and sweet. Up to try new things and always exciting.

19-year-old female

Taller than me, good sense of humor, can handle me at my worst and my best, likes to try new things but is also okay with just staying in for the night, not focused on sex, smart (enough), loves music, somewhat fit, puts effort into the relationship.

20-year-old female 

A man, not a boy. What I mean by that is someone who is selfless, he knows what he wants and he's going to fight to get it, he's not the "oh a light bulb is out time to throw out the whole house" he fixes his issues.. someone easy to talk to about issues in your relationship and sees the error in ways on either party. Someone who always makes time for you, not someone you have to fight for time.

73-year-old female

He hast to be tall, handsome, a gentleman, loves God, trustworthy, a good worker, and a good provider.

19-year-old female

My ideal significant other chooses to love me. Always considering me in any decisions he makes; big and small. My ideal doesn't focus on making the present luxurious but saves for a magical future. My ideal doesn't look me in the eyes and lie but looks at me and reminds me I'm beautiful. Anything less... isn't worth my time.

20-year-old female

Thoughtful, loving, funny, thinks I'm funny, likes cats, enjoys getting good food, similar movie tastes.

22-year-old female

Someone I can be myself around and can trust not to turn away for being too weird

20-year-old male

... I love working, and my SO needs to be able to not just make time for me but my make time for my work. Ideally, he won't feel like he has to spend money on things for them to be nice. Ideally, my SO loves to just kick back and be a guy... I cook, he does the dishes... Ideally, I do the laundry, he makes the bed, and we both fold the clothes. Ideally, we both work from home because I'm most productive when I know he's right there and has my back.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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I Am Not Anyone's Second Choice

I'm not just here as your last resort.


I always see those inspirational quotes/pictures going around on social media about how it's okay to cut toxic people out of your life. For the longest time, this wasn't something that I related to at all. I had my friends and I didn't have any problems.

But throughout my time in college, I've had people in my life that I realized only cared about me when it was convenient for them.

This has proved true in my relationships and friendships. I never really realized it until I started thinking more about it, but since I was younger, I've always been taken advantage of. Like I've said before, I have such a big heart and I always forgive people, even when they don't deserve it.

Most of the relationships I've been in, I came away feeling like I was just being used. I also had a friend that made me feel like that way as well. All of these people only reached out to me when everyone else wasn't available. They only reached out to me when they just didn't want to be alone, and they knew that I would text them back, hang out with them, be there for them.

It got to the point where these relationships all made me feel like I was just people's second choice. Like they didn't care about me unless they had no one else to hang out with.

But I'm not anyone else's second choice.

I've finally gotten to a point in my life where I've realized that I do have toxic people in my life. And I've finally come to the realization that I have to cut those kinds of people out.

I'm not the kind of person to say that I'm any better or any worse than those around me, but I definitely don't deserve to be taken advantage of or used. No one deserves that.

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