How To Find My Prince Charming

I'm Just Like Every Other Girl In The World Who Is Chasing Her Prince Charming

Have you found your prince, or are you still waiting?

Taylor Hopeck
Taylor Hopeck Jan 11, 2019
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Just like every kid, when I was younger I loved a good fairy tale and a happy ending. Maybe not as much as some girls who dream about the exact wedding they want someday, I mean obviously I have thought about it but if and when I find the right guy, do I even want to get married. Growing up watching those movies, reading those kinds of books, and most likely seeing your grandparents, or your parent's relationships gives you an idea of what you may want someday. But not me I have had to come up with that on my own, I'm sure I'm not alone no family is perfect and I know that. I'm not sure if I will ever know what I truly want out of a relationship or if I want one at all.

Do I want the super serious one where we count every day, celebrate every anniversary, know each other more than we know ourselves, and just plain enjoy each others company? Sure, that sounds pretty great but also like a lot. Do I want my best friend to be the one that I love and every moment that we do get to spend together is the absolute best, sure sounds great too? Or do I want to stay single with my truck dog and horse, and just live it up. I want a relationship in which we love each other no matter what, in any situation, in all the hurt, and fights, and insecurities. Someday I wouldn't mind being swept off my feet, but honestly only want that to happen if it's the real thing.

I do what I can, and feel I have to right now to get by, trying not to cry every day just like every young woman growing up. Getting older just isn't easy, times are constantly getting harder, along with the people we deal with, and we allow ourselves to love someone who may not always love us back which is another thing that has to be dealt with. Like it isn't already hard enough to put ourselves out there in the slightest way. We constantly worry are we good enough, he deserves better, how could he possibly love me. I'm sure we love a lot of people throughout our lifetime, but those words get thrown out probably too easily at times.

When you do find that someone that you actually see yourself falling for you get scared s***less. How can we not? This guy is good to you though in every way, you like being around him, you enjoy your talks and jokes. He makes you laugh and you love him, but then again he is most likely using you. because in the end, we all use each other in one way or another, must be human nature. But do you care if you are happy when you are with him? We go through every day trying to avoid it, running from it constantly, the "IT" I am referring to is our freaking heart ladies. It makes us do some wild stuff, and sometimes we can't stop it. Let's be honest, which one do we say okay to more? our hearts or our brain? In the end, we are all messed up, I don't care how much you think you have your life together, because it's true we are all messed up in on way or another and that's okay. As long as were all messed up together right.

We are just waiting for that one guy to fall in our path that will be the one we have been waiting for. Our prince charming. The man who is going to care and take care of us when we need it. Who will give us a strong shoulder to cry on, cuddle with us when we're in the mood and tell us everything is going to be okay. That's the guy we all want. the one that is always honest with us even if it may hurt. The guy that actually cares about our feelings and wants to help. The one who will go on crazy adventures with us when the mood strikes, the man who pleases us in so many ways. We are just chasing our prince charming and there has got to be one out there for all of us. I suppose I should now say, don't settle for anything less than what you think you deserve!

As women we struggles to love ourselves just as much as we struggle to love anyone else. Just think to yourself right now what would your prince charming be like? For me, I am probably chasing that love that is the hardest to find. I want that unconditional love, the kind of love that we can just look into each other's eyes and fall more in love. WE laugh and joke all the time together. He is constantly putting a smile on my face, and always wants to give me a kiss or hug and hold my hand. That little kid stuff we used to get so shy to do. He would never be afraid to tell me how much he loves me. He would remember what I was wearing when we first met. He would always be there for me and be my #1 fan in life.

I may be throwing out a bunch of BS that no one has, I guess in the end we just all want someone to love us. We can be patient and wait for it to happen, or go out there and find it, or maybe it's right in front of us and we didn't realize, maybe your prince charming is your best friend and you knew it all along. In the end, this prince charming is just a figure in the shadows, what we all want is someone who will love us and only us, doesn't always have to be charing but knows unconditional love, and how to be true and faithful to us.

Taylor Hopeck
Taylor Hopeck Jan 11, 2019
At Albany, NY

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13 Movies Every Couple Needs To Watch Before They Get Married

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories.

Emma S. Callihan
Emma S. Callihan May 20, 2019
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These 13 movies are the foundation of any long-lasting relationship, and I'm not joking. Each movie will show you something new about your partner, and make you ask each other the hard questions. How many kids do you want and how are you going to raise them? What would happen if you got into a horrible accident? Some are less serious though, like what if you could time travel?

I promise that not every one of these movies is a Nicholas Sparks classic, and I also promise that not every movie has Rachel McAdams in it!

1. "The Time Traveler's Wife"

This movie is both heartbreaking and amazing.

2. "About Time"

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories. It's on Netflix right now, so grab some snacks and turn it on!

3. "Like Crazy"

This infamous Tumblr gif came from "Like Crazy." It's about a couple who goes long distance and build their life together. I used to cry every time I watched it, and I'm no crier! It also has the (now famous) Felicity Jones in it.

4. "The Notebook"

Every girl wants this kind of love.

5. "The Last Song"

Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth are literally married now so if that isn't good luck, I don't know what is.

6. "Safe Haven"

You guessed it! This is another Nicholas Sparks classic. This movie has a dark twist as well, which men will love.

7. "Inside Out"

You may be thinking that this one is a bit weird. Well, this movie will help both you and your partner understand each other's emotions better.

8. "The Choice"

This movie is great because the female lead is feisty and extremely intelligent, which usually doesn't happen in love stories. How do you keep the love alive with a woman who is hard to get, and even harder to keep entertained?

9. "The Longest Ride"

Originally I could not stand the main female lead (Britt Robertson) but now she is in one of my favorite shows (For The People), so I have no choice. This movie had me on the end of my seat, and as a rom-com it is a must.

10. "The Age Of Adaline"

I began loving the name 'Adaline' thanks to this movie. This unlikely love story and self love journey really gets me.

11. "The Vow"

Imagine falling in love with someone and building a life, but an accident forces you to start all over?

12. "Titanic"

If they don't have any sort of reaction to this movie, they are probably not the one for you.

13. "Yours, Mine, & Ours"

Yours, Mine, & Ours is a true classic. Are you Helen or Frank Beardsley? You should figure that out before you tie the knot!

You're welcome!

Emma S. Callihan
Emma S. Callihan May 20, 2019
At Eastern Michigan University

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Being A Military Wife Is Not The Same As Serving In Active Duty

It's about balance, and it's hard to find a happy medium between serving and supporting your spouse.

yahairas
yahairas May 22, 2019
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I enlisted into the United States Air Force as a fresh-faced 18-year-old. I had just graduated high school and never experienced life on my own, away from what I knew and my loved ones and friends. The military was my first legitimate job. Thankfully, I knew independence since I had parents that ensured I knew how to handle myself. That does not mean I joined knowing everything there was to know. Far from it, actually, but that's OK.

My first and only duty station was Malmstrom Air Force Base. Before you think that Malmstrom is some exotic and foreign land, it's definitely not. My first base was in Montana. A very cold and unpredictable climate where you could experience beautiful summer sunshine one day and the next, find yourself running back up to your room to escape from the unexpected blizzard.

I was stationed in Montana as a security forces member (military police) for six very long years. During this time, I met some wonderful people as well as some people I know I would not mind never seeing again. I did a lot of my growing up at this location.

There were hard lessons that needed to be learned and experiences that I had to have in order to know what and what not to do in the future. Security forces is not the easiest or best job in the military. There are more challenges as a security forces member than most careers in the Air Force. There is the very likely chance of deployment into hostile locations where the member will face life and death challenges and have to make quick and ugly decisions and the schedule and duties are not ideal.

However, the good often outweighs the bad. The rewards for surpassing these challenges that seemed insurmountable at the time are some of the best in the world. I can say that the life lessons during my time in the service, no matter how uncomfortable it was at the time, is an experience of a lifetime. These challenges are unknown to the military spouse.

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Not long after separating from the military, I got married. We met while I was still in the military. My husband is still active duty in the Air Force, turning me into a military wife and dependent. It was a different role to take, knowing how many people in the military viewed military spouses. I found myself in a different bracket or tier than a lot of people. I was a military wife that was prior military. I understand the challenges my husband still undergoes in his enlistment because I knew the military life at one point. I did not have to be introduced into the military and the way it works blindly.

Throughout my enlistment, there were stories and jokes regarding military spouses, with emphasis on the military wife. Even now that I am no longer in the service, I still see memes on social media where military wives serve as a running joke. The jokes involving weight, attractiveness, infidelity or wives wearing the rank of their military spouse while attempting to utilize what power that rank may hold. Due to the stories I heard while I was in, I had a pre-conceived idea of what to expect as a military spouse. Some of the stories and jokes came from a center of truth. However, the stigma for a military wife would follow any and all military wives no matter the validity or lack thereof.

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When I became a military wife, I wanted to make sure I did not fall under that stereotype. Becoming the dependent gave me something else to consider. It gave me the unheard side of those military spouses. There are so many challenges that we also face while being married to the military.

For example, we pick up and go at a moment's notice and often leave our careers behind if our spouses get moved. This makes it really hard to make friends and connections with other people. Plus, there's the reality that our spouses could lose their lives serving for our country.

A lot of the time, we become a single parent when our spouses are deployed. If we do go with, finding employment is really competitive and hard to do at all. It's hard on both of us because neither party will ever truly understand why things are done a certain way. Some things just aren't fair and that's a hard reality to deal with.

So, yes, the service of the military member is the military member's service, not ours. That fact does not mean we do not have our own sacrifices we made when we decided to marry into the military family.

The experience of the military member and the military spouse are two different sides, but they're both equally important.

yahairas
yahairas May 22, 2019
At Aspiring Journalism Professionals

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