Go Love Yourself

Go Love Yourself

Remember that you matter more than you realize.

In college, there are many things going on in your life. You're preparing for your future, you're making new friends as you involve yourself in campus life, you're making time to go home and spend time with your family, finding love in a relationship, and the list goes on and on.

However, there's one thing that many people fail to remember to think about when they are in college: themselves. They lose themselves in trying to do anything and everything to keep everyone else happy. This is where things often can go wrong, and will go wrong, if you let them. However, I ask only one thing of you: do not give up on yourself.

That is the one thing that as I have grown I cannot stress enough: don't forget about you. Do not forget that it is okay to go buy yourself that cup of coffee, to treat yourself to that comfort food when you're sad, to have someone take photos of you that are the most candid and genuine. You deserve the world, and then some, in meanings of happiness.

Go talk to someone when you think that is best for you. These conversations will allow you to learn a lot about yourself and a lot of the things that you have gone through. Call your parents a little bit more. They will literally do anything to make you happy, whether it be giving you an app to help you relax mentally at the start of your day or just telling you how much they love you. Your parents will be your biggest cheerleaders if you let them be. I'm dead serious.

There's this phrase which was made by a famous drag queen named RuPaul that I think about a lot. She often says,"If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love someone else?" This phrase reminds you that you are still the most important at the end of the day.

I know that you have probably heard the phrases, "Love yourself," "You are so special and important," and so on. Although they are cheesy, they are true. In this day and age, we often get so wrapped up in what we are told we should be and how we should look that we forget we were made in a unique shape and image to be our best selves. We see that social media tells us women are supposed to look and act a certain way. However, a large portion of the population disagrees with those statements and wants to support people as they are, which I absolutely love.

If that means you want to work out more to make yourself your best self, then do it. If that means you sit back and relax with your best friends, do it. Do everything that you want and need for yourself.

Please don't ever forget about you. You are the most important thing at the end of the day.

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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Get Healthy Again

"I see you eating whatever you want and not exercising" - Pants

Dear girl trying to get back in shape,

I know it's hard. I know the hardest thing you may do all day is walk into the gym. I know how easy it is to want to give up and go eat Chicken McNuggets, but don't do it. I know it feels like you work so hard and get no where. I know how frustrating it is to see that person across the table from you eat a Big Mac every day while you eat your carrots and still be half of your size. I know that awful feeling where you don't want to go to the gym because you know how out of shape you are. Trust me, I know.

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The important thing is you are doing something about it. I'm sure you get mad at yourself for letting your body get this out of shape, but life happens. You have made a huge accomplishment by not having a soda in over a month, and those small changes are huge. I understand how hard it is, I understand how frustrating it is to not see results and I understand why you want to give up. Being healthy and fit takes so much time. As much as I wish you could wake up the day after a good workout with the 6 pack of your dreams, that just isn't the reality. If being healthy was easy, everyone would do it, and it wouldn't feel so good when you got there.

Remember how last January your resolution was to get back in the gym and get healthy again? Think about how incredible you would look right now if you would have stuck with it. The great thing is that you can start any time, and you can prove yourself wrong.

Tired of starting over? Then don't give up.

You are only as strong as your mind. You will get there one day. Just be patient and keep working.

Nothing worth having comes easy. If you want abs more than anything, and one day you woke up with them, it wouldn't be nearly as satisfying as watching your body get stronger.

Mental toughness is half the battle. If you think you are strong, and believe you are strong, you will be strong. Soon, when you look back on the struggle and these hard days, you will be so thankful you didn't give up.

Don't forget that weight is just a number. What is really important is how you feel, and that you like how you look. But girl, shout out to you for working on loving your body, because that shit is hard.

To the girl trying to get healthy again, I am so proud of you. It won't be easy, it will take time. But keep working out, eating right, and just be patient. You will be amazed with what your body is capable of doing.

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Numbers Are Just Numbers Until You Make Them More Than That

If you really think about it, they're just symbols.

It’s come to my attention how obsessed our world is with numbers.

We have some kind of scale for everything, a way for us to measure anything and everything and thus a way for us to judge one another. Although this is super helpful in more ways than I count, sometimes it can be consuming constantly putting ourselves in these categories and seeing how we measure up to the people around us.

We’ve created a world where numbers are who we are to one another.

GPAs. Body weights. Height. Attractiveness. IQs. Social media post likes. Clothing sizes. Salaries. Age. Car value. House value. Social class. Race. Gender. Sexuality.

All of these things are related to numbers. They rank people and create certain stereotypes among people. Lower grades create the assumption that you’re stupid. Body weights and clothing sizes correlate with judgments of being too fat or too skinny. Salaries go along with how well off you are money wise.

We’re constantly ranking ourselves and putting ourselves down for not being on one side of the scale, whether it’s higher or lower. Although I know we need measurements to survive, I’m here to ask: At what point did the scales define us as human beings? When did how much we get paid for our jobs or what size clothing we wear make us who we are?

Okay so someone who makes $100,000 a year has more money than someone who is on welfare but are they happy? Are they a better person? Regardless of how you answer those questions, think about why numbers mean so much to us and why we feel the need to be superior to others.

Equality is a difficult topic.

In the eyes of the law, it should hold true. In terms of everyday society and people in general, I do not think it’s possible.

The thing is, everyone will always be different and that’s beautiful in itself. The differences that we each have are the most important parts of ourselves. These differences make us all more cut out for certain things. Some people are destined to be doctors while others are more accustomed to being fine artists and that’s amazing! But each person should be given the same opportunity to do each of those things regardless of how they measure up on a scale of social class, race, gender, sexuality, etc.

It’s hard not to look at the numbers all around us and feel something towards them. Whether that means being upset about a B on a test you really wanted an A in or gaining 5 pounds instead of losing 10. If there’s anything I want people reading this article to know is that these numbers are just numbers and although they are meant to be informative and uses to simply create definition to our world, do not let them bring harm to your visions of yourself.

Let them motivate you, allow them to fuel you and remember you are more than the values they represent.

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