Go Love Yourself

Go Love Yourself

Remember that you matter more than you realize.

In college, there are many things going on in your life. You're preparing for your future, you're making new friends as you involve yourself in campus life, you're making time to go home and spend time with your family, finding love in a relationship, and the list goes on and on.

However, there's one thing that many people fail to remember to think about when they are in college: themselves. They lose themselves in trying to do anything and everything to keep everyone else happy. This is where things often can go wrong, and will go wrong, if you let them. However, I ask only one thing of you: do not give up on yourself.

That is the one thing that as I have grown I cannot stress enough: don't forget about you. Do not forget that it is okay to go buy yourself that cup of coffee, to treat yourself to that comfort food when you're sad, to have someone take photos of you that are the most candid and genuine. You deserve the world, and then some, in meanings of happiness.

Go talk to someone when you think that is best for you. These conversations will allow you to learn a lot about yourself and a lot of the things that you have gone through. Call your parents a little bit more. They will literally do anything to make you happy, whether it be giving you an app to help you relax mentally at the start of your day or just telling you how much they love you. Your parents will be your biggest cheerleaders if you let them be. I'm dead serious.

There's this phrase which was made by a famous drag queen named RuPaul that I think about a lot. She often says,"If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love someone else?" This phrase reminds you that you are still the most important at the end of the day.

I know that you have probably heard the phrases, "Love yourself," "You are so special and important," and so on. Although they are cheesy, they are true. In this day and age, we often get so wrapped up in what we are told we should be and how we should look that we forget we were made in a unique shape and image to be our best selves. We see that social media tells us women are supposed to look and act a certain way. However, a large portion of the population disagrees with those statements and wants to support people as they are, which I absolutely love.

If that means you want to work out more to make yourself your best self, then do it. If that means you sit back and relax with your best friends, do it. Do everything that you want and need for yourself.

Please don't ever forget about you. You are the most important thing at the end of the day.

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All You Can Do Is Try The Best That You Can

And when that's not enough? Try again.

“Sometimes I forget how many times I’ve picked myself off the floor, how many times I’ve washed away smudgy makeup and put myself to bed. How many times I’ve said no to something unhealthy. Said yes to something good. How many times I’ve treated myself with kindness and patience. I forget how many times I’ve tended to wounds and made peace with my own anger. If I was taking care of a body that was not my own, I’d believe I was doing everything I could. So here’s to remembering that I’m doing the best I can.”

- Pigmenting

The most we can do in life is try. Try to be a good person. Try to be a better daughter. Try to be more accepting of others beliefs. Try to be open-minded about what other people are going through. Try to volunteer for our community. Try to make it on time to meetings with people who may not even know your first or last name. Try. Try. Try. And when you fail? Try again.

For the longest time, I would blame myself for things that didn’t work out, even if I knew they were beyond my very control. Of course, it’s not rational to blame yourself for rain on the day of your big presentation, but you can’t help it. Sure, it’s become prominent in American society to promote the idea of self-love, but it’s also been ridiculously common to blame ourselves for things that are unreasonable… things that we completely have no say over. It is true that we are our own worst critics, but it is important to remember that we are doing the best we can.

I often refer to this quote when I’m feeling down because it reminds me of how many times I was able to pick myself up again. We have all had those collapsing moments when we’ve had to pick ourselves up off the bedroom floor and force ourselves into the shower. Or force ourselves to eat something for dinner even though there was a huge pit sitting in the middle of our stomachs. These moments of weakness actually turn out to be some of the strongest moments in our lives.

You will always be a love-hate relationship with yourself, no matter how much confidence you carry. Some days are truly a struggle to recognize that your strength comes from within, not from those that you surround yourself with. Of course, your mood becomes a product of your environment, but ultimately, you are the person who decides how you’re going to react to the things that happen in your life. Even through all the chaos, you have managed to remain patient. At the end of the day, you are the person who makes yourself happy, regardless of how happy other people make you.

“If I was taking care of a body that was not my own, I’d believe I was doing everything I could.” This line resonates to me because I always put myself down when I feel like I’m not doing the best that I can to help other people. If I miss a family event, meeting, or have to call out of work for whatever reason, I always feel like I let everyone down. Sometimes you have to put these things to the side in order to make sure that you are okay first. Your mental and physical health will always be a priority over everything else in your life. If it were other people missing meetings or calling out you would understand where they are coming from, so don’t forget to take care of yourself in the same way. It’s not only necessary, it’s critical.

So don’t forget to remember who you are, and how strong you truly are without even realizing it. You have gone through hard times and managed to survive. You have lost important people in your life and have still managed to make connections with others. You have learned the importance of taking care of others, and now it’s time to learn the importance of taking care of yourself. The most you can do is try the best that you can. And when you slip up? Try again.
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Being Selfish Is A Good Thing

Thinking of yourself first is not being selfish.

There comes a time when you start to notice yourself slipping. Sipping away from your goals, dreams and health. It happens, and sometimes we don’t find our way back. That's why it’s important to have your best interest at heart and make your way down the path you want, not what someone else wants.

One of the hardest things to learn is to advocate for yourself. Lots of the time, we let other people use us. Sometimes we don't even notice it, because we were taught to always give. The bad part about this is that we give until we cannot give any more. This makes it harder and harder to focus on our own happiness.

We begin to get stressed out and wonder if we are still on the right track. We are continuously wondering what to do next, so we that don't hurt the people around us. Though, what a lot of people don't realize is that lifting yourself up will also lift others around you.

Being healthy is not just eating right and regular exercise; trying to stay mentally healthy is just as important. Even saying “no” to something because you know it's not right for you is sticking up for yourself. Lots of times people can get bullied into things they do not want to do or that they know is not right for them. Just remember your well being is more important than anything. Not taking care of yourself means you cannot help anyone else, so in a sense, thinking of yourself first is not really all that selfish.

Instead of always doing what others want you to do, try making yourself happy once in a while. Do something every day that makes you happy, even if it's small. You are the only one who can always be there for yourself. Every day look for the good in something, even if you have to do something you don't want to.

So go out and enjoy college; take a walk while it's sunny, drink your favorite coffee or tea, take those yoga classes every Tuesday, go see that movie you’ve always wanted to see, and have a great time doing what's best for you.

The reality is, going against the crowd is easier said than done, but it's time to advocate for yourself and make sure you succeed at what you want to do. Even if this means others look down upon you or disagree with your choices. It's not easy, but it is worth it in the end. Never feel guilty for taking care of yourself.

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