Read This If You Feel Like Texting Them

Read This If You Feel Like Texting Them

Closure is something we use as a bullshit excuse to reach out, or to go see someone.


Closure is something we use as a bullshit excuse to reach out or to go see someone. The only closure you need is that they are no longer in your life for whatever reason, no matter how much that hurts to hear.

Talking to someone after months in order to gain some sort of 'closure' will only bring you back to square one of the healing process. Why put yourself back in that hurt and start all over?

It's simple: DON'T. DO. IT.

No matter how hard it is.

Everyone can get in those moods where we just want to reach out to them. We all like to talk to and be around people we have comfort with. It's human nature, even if that person isn't in our lives any longer and/or shouldn't be.

When you feel like you want to attempt to start a conversation, but know it will go nowhere, remind yourself of these things.

If they wanted to talk to you, nothing could stop them. If you mattered to them, they would still be an active part of their life.

Remind yourself of the countless messages that have gone unanswered already. Think back, to what exactly happened. Think back to the times you silently cried about it, and they did nothing about it. Think back about the hurt and pain you went thru for days, weeks, and maybe even months afterward.

Remind yourself that you deserve more. That you deserve to be loved and respected in the same way that you gave to them so freely.

Have a friend or someone you trust that you can reach out to instead and just vent. If you don't feel comfortable doing that then write a letter, or more common in our generation, text it. Then next, delete it or throw it away. It gives you an opportunity to let it all out, without allowing someone to see you struggle.

Remember: Love yourself enough to know what you do and don't deserve.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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