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Read This If You Feel Like Texting Them

Closure is something we use as a bullshit excuse to reach out, or to go see someone.

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Closure is something we use as a bullshit excuse to reach out or to go see someone. The only closure you need is that they are no longer in your life for whatever reason, no matter how much that hurts to hear.

Talking to someone after months in order to gain some sort of 'closure' will only bring you back to square one of the healing process. Why put yourself back in that hurt and start all over?

It's simple: DON'T. DO. IT.

No matter how hard it is.

Everyone can get in those moods where we just want to reach out to them. We all like to talk to and be around people we have comfort with. It's human nature, even if that person isn't in our lives any longer and/or shouldn't be.

When you feel like you want to attempt to start a conversation, but know it will go nowhere, remind yourself of these things.

If they wanted to talk to you, nothing could stop them. If you mattered to them, they would still be an active part of their life.

Remind yourself of the countless messages that have gone unanswered already. Think back, to what exactly happened. Think back to the times you silently cried about it, and they did nothing about it. Think back about the hurt and pain you went thru for days, weeks, and maybe even months afterward.

Remind yourself that you deserve more. That you deserve to be loved and respected in the same way that you gave to them so freely.

Have a friend or someone you trust that you can reach out to instead and just vent. If you don't feel comfortable doing that then write a letter, or more common in our generation, text it. Then next, delete it or throw it away. It gives you an opportunity to let it all out, without allowing someone to see you struggle.

Remember: Love yourself enough to know what you do and don't deserve.

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10 Shows Netflix Should Have Acquired INSTEAD of Re-newing 'Friends' For $100 Million

Could $100 Million BE anymore of an overspend?

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Netflix broke everyone's heart and then stitched them back together within a matter of 12 hours the other day.

How does one do that you may wonder. Well they start by announcing that as of January 1st, 2019 'Friends' will no longer be available to stream. This then caused an uproar from the ones who watch 'Friends' at least once a day, myself including. Because of this giant up roar, with some threats to leave Netflix all together, they announced that 'Friends' will still be available for all of 2019. So after they renewed our hope in life, they released that it cost them $100 million.

$100 million is a lot of money, money that could be spent on variety of different shows.

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What Do You Do When Tragedy Strikes Your Former Home?

In my desperate attempt to figure this out, I'm writing about it.

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On November 8th, I woke up with a voicemail from my mom. It went a little like this,

"Hey, it's Momma. I'm sorry it's really early your time, but I wanted to have you hear from me before you got the news on. There was a mass shooting in Thousand Oaks last night at a country bar about ten minutes from where our house was in Moorpark. There are 12 people dead, the shooter is dead, and a cop. It was college night at the bar, so anyone over 18 could go in. There were students from multiple colleges there, that's all they know so far. It's just horrible." And so on. I made it about halfway through the voicemail before I pulled out my laptop.

A thousand thoughts ran through my mind. This is what is referred to as one of the safest towns in America. This town was a short drive away from my home in Moorpark. These people are mostly my age. Then, the worst one occurred to me. What if when they display the victims' pictures, I recognize a face?

According to USAToday, the Thousand Oaks shooting is the 307th shooting on the 311th day of 2018. Are we supposed to allow ourselves to be desensitized to this gun violence? I sure hope not. I'll save you the agony of listening to how the rest of my day went. Long story short, I watched the news and cried more than I'd like to admit.

As the day carried on, I watched the pictures come up on my computer screen. I scrolled through social media and looked at my friend's posts of their friends being safe. Somehow, that did not calm me down. I watched the victim's faces pop up one by one on my laptop, and I listened to the stories.

All country music lovers, all college students, all heroes who helped save the lives of others before they lost their own. It was not until Friday that I realized I did recognize one of the faces. I logged onto my Facebook to get rid of a notification, and there it was. A picture of my childhood swim coaches, and Noel Sparks. Now, I understand that it's been years, but that doesn't make it any better. Each victim of the shooting had so much more life to be lived, and my heart breaks for each one of them. I send all of my love to the family, friends, and everyone affected by the Borderline shooting.

Not even a day later, there was news of a fire that is rapidly spreading. According to CBS News, The Woolsey fire has burned 98,362 acres of land and is only about 57% contained. While this fire has only 3 confirmed fatalities, the second fire that is burning in California has taken the lives of 56 people and burned 140,000 acres of land. I can spit out as many facts as my fingers can research, but it doesn't change the fact that my heart aches for my former home. When all of this tragedy happens and I'm 1,835 miles away, I have never felt so helpless. I donated to the victim's families, but I have not found a way to make sense of this in my mind. Why do these things happen? There's no concrete answer to this question, so am I going to wonder it forever?

If you would like to find a place to donate to the Borderline victims' families, click here. If you would like to find a place to donate to the victims' of the fires, click here.

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