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Just The Tips: Friendship And Falling In Love

Weekly relationship column hosted by college experts Angie and Cass, answering questions sent in by you.

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Hello! Did you miss us? School is back in full swing and that means being able to see all your college friends again. This edition of Just the Tips covers falling for friends and finding love. As always, don't forget to send in your questions here; we love hearing from you.

1. How do you be just friends with someone you are in love with? 

Angie: This might sound a little wild, but have you considered telling your friend? After all, there are only two things that can happen. Sure, there's the possibility your friend might reject you, but friendships are resilient—it might be a little awkward for a little while, but now that you've got it off your chest and you know how your friend feels about it, you can move on with your life and your friendship. The other possibility is they feel the same way and are willing to try something with you! Either way, I don't think that you'll ruin your friendship, and after you have it off your chest, it'll be so much easier to move forward.

Cass: In all honesty, if you want to be friends with someone you're in love with, you're in for a rough time. The friendship is going to be weird because you know you feel one way but you don't know how the other person feels about you. My suggestion is to either get your feelings out in the open; if it's well received, then that's great! However, it's good even if it is not well received, because at least now you're not going to waste time pining over someone that doesn't feel the same way about you.

2. Is it true that love comes when you least expect it? 

A: I don't think you can plan for love. You never know when your next crush is walking into your life—maybe it's a cutie at the bar, maybe your friends set you up, maybe you suddenly realize you feel a little differently about your closest friend—so in that way, love is totally unpredictable. So if you're feeling hopeless or waiting early for love to fall into your life (or for you to fall in love), kick back, relax, and see what the world brings you. You never know!

C: It really seems so sometimes, but also, people can tell if you're desperate for a relationship and it is kind of a turnoff. If you're happy within yourself and just doing your own thing, then that's much more magnetic to people than someone who is insecure and looking for anyone that will love them. Just do your own thing and don't be too worried about it. This isn't something worth stressing over.

3. When is the right time to think about marriage in a relationship? 

A: Not yet!

Chances are, question asker, you're in your early 20s. You have decades ahead of you. Even if you have a significant other who you're ready to spend your life with, think about all the obstacles finishing school or getting a career started can create: changing cities, low starting salaries, high stress, and so on. What if you want to travel? What if you and your significant other have wildly different goals?

There's plenty of time to get married, and if you have a really steady and committed significant other, then your relationship will last through all of the turbulence the next few years will doubtlessly have. Go ahead and wait until you are financially stable, are confident in your job security, and you know you and your maybe-future-spouse will be able to live together comfortably.

C: Never. Just kidding, but seriously, marriage is something that maybe you shouldn't be thinking about right now. Like Angie, I'm going to assume you're in your 20s, and in college, and probably not stable enough in life to have a whole spouse. Just take this time to figure out yourself and what your values are, find out your likes and dislikes, your views on things. And maybe, just a thought, finish your degree before you try to plan a wedding. It doesn't make sense to get yourself to the altar when you can't even get to class in the morning.

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Johnny Depp Quotes For Life
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1. "One day the people that didn't believe in you will tell everyone how they met you"

2. "You can close your eyes to the things you don't want to see, but you can't close your heart to the things you don't want to feel."

3. "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second."

4. "The problem is not the problem; the problem is your attitude about the problem."

5. "Being a good person doesn't depend on your religion, your race or your skin color or your culture. It depends on how good is your heart and how good you treat others."

6. "I think the thing to do is to enjoy the ride while you are on it."

7. "I am doing things that are true to me. The only thing I have a problem with is being labeled."

8. "I was always fascinated by people who are considered completely normal, because I find them the weirdest of all."

9."Love is not blind; it simply enables one to see things that others fail to see."

10. "People cry, not because they are weak. It's because they've been strong for too long."

11. "We're all damaged in our own way. Nobody's perfect. I think we are all somewhat screwy, every single one of us."

12. "I pretty much try to stay in a constant state of confusion just because of the expression it leaves on my face."

13. "I'm having too much fun today to worry about tomorrow."

14. "Music touches us emotionally, where words alone can't."

15. "Laugh as much as you breathe, love as long as you live."

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