For When You Feel Like You Are Stuck In Limbo

For When You Feel Like You Are Stuck In Limbo

Take that leap of faith, and move on to the next stage of your life.
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I’m pretty sure we have all experienced it in one way or another at some point in our lives. That feeling, that frustrating feeling, when you feel as though you are stuck and waiting for something to happen. You are not moving backward, but you are not moving forward either. You are standing still. You are in limbo.

Being in limbo, or perhaps at a crossroads in life, is one of the most frustrating feelings we go through as people on this earth. Whether you are going through a time of personal transition or if you are dealing with a relationship issue, being in limbo simply is not a good feeling. In fact, it can lead to a lot of anxiety, distress and uneasiness.

This is why I’m here to tell you that you need to get out of limbo, even though that might mean taking one of the scariest leaps you’ll ever have to take.

That situation, the one where you feel like there is nothing but you can do but wait, is actually in your control. You might feel as though it’s not, but I promise it is. You might have to wait for a physical thing or change to occur, but you can change the mindset you have about what you are going through.

You can remind yourself that you might not have the power to change the situation, but you can change how you look at it. You can actively think in a hopeful way, excited for change to occur, without waiting for it to happen.

That person, the one you love who is putting you in limbo, does not deserve your time or love any longer if they are placing you there. It is simply an unfair place to be, and you deserve someone who is certain of your value in his or her life.

You deserve to be treated better than to have someone put you in an uncertain, uncomfortable place where you can no longer hold on but at the same time can not move on. You are stuck, but you deserve to be free.

Even though you may believe that limbo is, in fact, a comfortable place because you aren’t choosing a certain path over another, I can almost always guarantee that you will feel better once you choose to take a step instead of stand still. You will realize how strong you are for being able to move on from whatever is keeping you in limbo.

While limbo might feel like the only option at times, I can assure you that it is not. You have the control to take that step or to change those debilitating thoughts. While it might be scary, you can’t stand still anymore. It’s preventing you from enjoying the present moment, which can be pretty wonderful if you let it.

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Our generation is so caught up in this notion that it's "cool" not to care about anything or anyone. I know you've tried to do just that.

I'm sure there was a brief moment where you genuinely believed you were capable of not caring, especially since you convinced everyone around you that you didn't. But that just isn't true, is it? Don't be ashamed of this, don't let anyone ridicule you for having emotions.

After everything life has put you through, you have still remained soft.

This is what makes you, you. This is what makes you beautiful. You care so deeply and love so boldly and it is incredible, never let the world take this from you.

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You are the girl who will give and give and give until you have absolutely nothing left. Some may see this as a weakness, an inconvenience, the perfect excuse to walk all over you. I know you try to make sense of it all, why someone you cared so much about would treat you the way they did.

You'll make excuses for them, rationalize it and turn it all around on yourself.

You'll tell yourself that maybe just maybe they will change even though you know deep down they won't. You gave them everything you had and it still feels as if they took it all and ran. When this happens, remind yourself that you are not a reflection of those who cannot love you. The way that people treat you does not define who you are. Tell yourself this every day, over and over until it sticks. Remind yourself that you are gold, darling, and sometimes they will prefer silver and that is OK.

I know you feel guilty when you have to say no to something, I know you feel like you are letting everyone you love down when you do. Listen to me, it is not your responsibility to tend to everyone else's feelings all the time. By all means, treat their feelings with care, but remember it is not the end of the world when you cannot help them right away.

Remember that it is OK to say no.

You don't have to take care of everyone else all the time. Sometimes it's OK to say no to lunch with your friends and just stay home in bed to watch Netflix when you need a minute for yourself. I know sometimes this is much easier said than done because you are worried about letting other people down, but please give it a try.

With all of this, please remember that you matter. Do not be afraid to take a step back and focus on yourself. You owe yourself the same kind of love and patience and kindness and everything that you have given everyone else. It is OK to think about and put yourself first. Do not feel guilty for taking care of yourself. You are so incredibly loved even when it doesn't feel like it, please always remember that. You cannot fill others up when your own cup is empty. Take care of yourself.

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He Was Too Worried About The Future That He Forgot To Live In The Present

I just wish he could be present, even when everyone around us is in a rush.

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I know this guy. . . or maybe I don't because he's always changing. He's always on the go. He never sits down. He never takes a break. He's so focused on his future and all of the obstacles he has to overcome to get there, that I think he forgot to live in the now.

And it would be selfish of me to say, "Forget the future! Worry about today!" because in the long run, our today's are building our future too. It's all a little messy, and it's all a little complicated. . . but there has to be a balance.

I wish he would take the chance to get to know those around him. Enjoy the simple things in life every once in a while and quit holding back because he doesn't know where he's going to end up.

There's a difference between letting your future possess you and letting your future shape you. We're all on the same boat at this stage - unsure. We don't know what we want, we don't know who we'll become, we don't even know what we're really working for. Yeah, some of us have ideas and expectations about our futures but the reality of life is that we don't know what life is going to hit us with. We just have to be okay with a different tomorrow.

There's a lot I don't know about him. There's a lot I wish I knew. Thing is, I've accepted that I won't. Our time is limited here, and although he may stay here for the extra schooling he needs, he'll be even more focused then than he is now.

Throw away your responsibilities just once. It doesn't have to be every night or every week - but give it a shot. See where life takes you when you aren't worried about the future for just one second.

Life is neat and while some of us are so glued to our technology and social media, others of us are taking in the moments as they come. He may be looking down at books and writing assignments, but if he were to look up for just one second he could see how much he's missing out on.

I know he's going to get where he wants to be someday, I don't doubt that. I just wish he could let others in his life on his process of getting there. And if he were to ever stumble upon this and know this is exactly about him, I just want him to know can say hi. He can talk to me.

You meet people, you set different expectations, you have new experiences.

You focus on your studies for four years and then you continue them or you finally begin life. Don't rush, don't wear yourself out. In the end, I just wish he could be present, even when everyone around us is in a rush.

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