For When You Feel Like You Are Stuck In Limbo

For When You Feel Like You Are Stuck In Limbo

Take that leap of faith, and move on to the next stage of your life.
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I’m pretty sure we have all experienced it in one way or another at some point in our lives. That feeling, that frustrating feeling, when you feel as though you are stuck and waiting for something to happen. You are not moving backward, but you are not moving forward either. You are standing still. You are in limbo.

Being in limbo, or perhaps at a crossroads in life, is one of the most frustrating feelings we go through as people on this earth. Whether you are going through a time of personal transition or if you are dealing with a relationship issue, being in limbo simply is not a good feeling. In fact, it can lead to a lot of anxiety, distress and uneasiness.

This is why I’m here to tell you that you need to get out of limbo, even though that might mean taking one of the scariest leaps you’ll ever have to take.

That situation, the one where you feel like there is nothing but you can do but wait, is actually in your control. You might feel as though it’s not, but I promise it is. You might have to wait for a physical thing or change to occur, but you can change the mindset you have about what you are going through.

You can remind yourself that you might not have the power to change the situation, but you can change how you look at it. You can actively think in a hopeful way, excited for change to occur, without waiting for it to happen.

That person, the one you love who is putting you in limbo, does not deserve your time or love any longer if they are placing you there. It is simply an unfair place to be, and you deserve someone who is certain of your value in his or her life.

You deserve to be treated better than to have someone put you in an uncertain, uncomfortable place where you can no longer hold on but at the same time can not move on. You are stuck, but you deserve to be free.

Even though you may believe that limbo is, in fact, a comfortable place because you aren’t choosing a certain path over another, I can almost always guarantee that you will feel better once you choose to take a step instead of stand still. You will realize how strong you are for being able to move on from whatever is keeping you in limbo.

While limbo might feel like the only option at times, I can assure you that it is not. You have the control to take that step or to change those debilitating thoughts. While it might be scary, you can’t stand still anymore. It’s preventing you from enjoying the present moment, which can be pretty wonderful if you let it.

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Bailey Posted A Racist Tweet, But That Does NOT Mean She Deserves To Be Fat Shamed

As a certified racist, does she deserve to be fat shamed?
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This morning, I was scrolling though my phone, rotating between Instagram, Snapchat, YouTube and Snapchat again, ignoring everyone's snaps but going through all the Snapchat subscription stories before stumbling on a Daily Mail article that piqued my interest. The article was one about a teen, Bailey, who was bullied for her figure, as seen on the snap below and the text exchange between Bailey and her mother, in which she begged for a change of clothes because people were making fun of her and taking pictures.

Like all viral things, quickly after her text pictures and harassing snaps surfaced, people internet stalked her social media. But, after some digging, it was found that Bailey had tweeted some racist remark.

Now, some are saying that because Bailey was clearly racist, she is undeserving of empathy and deserves to be fat-shamed. But does she? All humans, no matter how we try, are prejudiced in one way or another. If you can honestly tell me that you treat everyone with an equal amount of respect after a brief first impression, regardless of the state of their physical hygiene or the words that come out of their mouth, either you're a liar, or you're actually God. Yes, she tweeted some racist stuff. But does that mean that all hate she receives in all aspects of her life are justified?

On the other hand, Bailey was racist. And what comes around goes around. There was one user on Twitter who pointed out that as a racist, Bailey was a bully herself. And, quite honestly, everyone loves the downfall of the bully. The moment the bullies' victims stop cowering from fear and discover that they, too, have claws is the moment when the onlookers turn the tables and start jeering the bully instead. This is the moment the bully completely and utterly breaks, feeling the pain of their victims for the first time, and for the victims, the bully's demise is satisfying to watch.

While we'd all like to believe that the ideal is somewhere in between, in a happy medium where her racism is penalized but she also gets sympathy for being fat shamed, the reality is that the ideal is to be entirely empathetic. Help her through her tough time, with no backlash.

Bullies bully to dominate and to feel powerful. If we tell her that she's undeserving of any good in life because she tweeted some racist stuff, she will feel stifled and insignificant and awful. Maybe she'll also want to make someone else to feel as awful as she did for some random physical characteristic she has. Maybe, we might dehumanize her to the point where we feel that she's undeserving of anything, and she might forget the preciousness of life. Either one of the outcomes is unpleasant and disturbing and will not promote healthy tendencies within a person.

Instead, we should make her feel supported. We all have bad traits about ourselves, but they shouldn't define us. Maybe, through this experience, she'll realize how it feels to be prejudiced against based off physical characteristics. After all, it is our lowest points, our most desperate points in life, that provide us with another perspective to use while evaluating the world and everyone in it.

Cover Image Credit: Twitter / Bailey

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10 Things You Have To Do To Feel True Happiness

It's the little things.

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There are times when we forget to stop and live in the moment. The stress that we constantly feel seems as though it will never stop. By going to these places and doing these activities, I have always come back focusing on the positive and believing that I can overcome anything.

1. Lie on the grass and look at the stars

When I lived in the city, I would look at the sky most nights, hoping that more stars would be there than the night before, but it was always rare. Once I started college in Long Island, almost every night is filled with stars. The dark night is filled with specs of glittering spots. I've always been with my friends and sisters of my sorority at night but they never notice until I tell them to look up. Everyone's reaction is the same: Woah. They always look so happy and calm, so can you imagine laying down and just staring? So satisfying. Gives us a state to reflect on ourselves and life itself.

2. Go to a concert

When you go to a concert the one thing that the audience can always relate to is the feeling of the booming bass in your chest and your ears needing to adjust after the show's over. Going to a concert truly amplifies the happiness of feeling your favorite tunes in your bones. It affects you more and reminds you how close you are to the artist themselves.

3. Ride a bike and track where you go

Riding a bike allows you to feel the air outside, gives you the feeling of total control, is faster than walking, and is the closest I've felt to flying. Observing what is throughout the streets and being able to go into very tight spaces calls for many discoveries to be made. All the meanwhile getting the exercise you need. I also usually track where I go and it is nice to see how far I've gone and which neighborhoods I had gone in so that if I see something that I want to revisit, I can check after. The app I use is called "Strava."

4. Take a walk during the sunrise

Waking up early to see the sunrise is tough enough for many of us but the benefits are immense. The best is when you wake up from a sleepover early with friends and take a walk to watch the sunrise. Witnessing and being able to share beautiful moments with friends is definitely a time I feel true happiness

5. Try new foods with friends

The best way to bond with others is to discover and love something new together. Food is always the path to making or mending relationships.

6. Write down important events in your life

There are so many memories that you won't remember in detail when you grow older. If you write out the exact moment and how you felt, looking back can help you reflect on how you were in the past and how you want to change.

7. Go on a road trip with loved ones

Road trips are also part of the way you can go on adventures in your life. To discover new places with others and the memories that you can make will largely impact your life in a good way.

8. Get a pet

There are many statistics saying that people have become happier due to their pets. These fulfillments include their social needs.

9. Discover your passion

To work towards something you are passionate about helps you be productive and discover things that you would like to do in your occupation in the future.

10. Reach a high point on a hike

I encourage everyone to at least experience a good hike. A hike where the endpoint is at least 10 stories high. You will never feel freer than at the top overlooking the world from a higher perspective. To see how small everything is seems to remind you your troubles are not as large as they seem.

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