For a lot of children of divorce, they wish for their parents to one day come back together and reunite their small happy family. I have a different opinion.
Growing up I always had my mother and my father, but they divorced when I was so young that Mom and Dad have always been two separate entities to me. I never grew up thinking that in order for me to have a family that they had to be together. In fact, I thought I was lucky to have such an extended family.
My parents have taught me many things throughout the years. How to be happy I think is the most important one. Happy is not a state that comes easy to every person. For some people happy is a constant work in progress, a daily choice, or a course of action. Many members in my family have struggled with the idea of being happy, and how to get there.
Whether my parents know it or not, they are a constant source of inspiration for me, and since going to college have taught me a lot about what life is and how to be happy.
My freshman year my mother got married to a wonderful man named Pete. He is a blessing to have in my life because on their wedding day I could see the love. It's like in the movies when the couple finally gets together, and you know, that no matter how horrible things get, it will be better because they have that person. There is no way to describe the feeling when you see your mother with that look in her eye. You become instantly grateful for the person who makes her feel safe and comforted. To know that at least while your away, she wont be lonely. That she has a person to adventure with, and to laugh with.
I got lucky because the wonderful man came with an amazing family and three new siblings for me, bringing the total children up to five. Life is never perfect, but it can be, in those moments, bliss.
At the end of my junior year, my dad had to go through a drastic change. After having a not so faithful step-mother, he decided it was time to divorce and change. Granted his feelings are more complex than I could accurately write, half because I am his daughter and still feel bitter, and half because his journey is for him. Yet, through this divorce I saw my father, my real father, It was like I suddenly knew where I came from. Like he found a missing piece of him, which ended up being really healing for me.
He has been going on a sort of self discovery, doing things he loves and doing them by himself. He to me at least seems so much happier and more like himself, which is a true blessing to see as his only daughter.
I guess I wanted to write this to show that whatever life course you embark on, you are not wrong.
If you want to get married that is not wrong. If it doesn't work out that is not wrong. If you want to be single on purpose that is not wrong. And if you just don't know yet, that is not wrong.
Life is so much more personal and convoluted than that. So you do you. If anyone tells you otherwise, delete them from your life. They are not worth your time.
Just find what makes you happy, be aware that that might change, and go with your own flow. Allow yourself to change.
