Everyone Is Deserving Of Love, So Don’t Let Not Being In A Relationship Discourage You

Everyone Is Deserving Of Love, So Don’t Let Not Being In A Relationship Discourage You

We all have a love story in the making, you may have just not reached your chapter yet.


The human mind longs for love, acceptance, and affection, whether it be from peers, family, or a significant other.

For as long as I can remember, we have been completely shaped by this idea. We grew up watching movies of 'damsels in distress,' hearing songs about wanting a boy or girl to like us back the way we liked them, or simply just watching television shows centered around wanting to be accepted by other people.

These things have shaped the way we think about ourselves, and unfortunately have made us feel like we need those things to be completely satisfied and happy with ourselves, especially when it comes to our love lives.

We see cute couples on twitter, and for the most part, we are extremely happy and overjoyed for those people. However, on the flip side, we start to long for those things ourselves and grow discouraged when we aren't wrapped in someone's arms, or laid up with the man/woman we so desperately want to reciprocate our feelings.

It turns into "Why don't I have a man/woman to do this for me?" or "Why is everyone getting cuffed except me?" and we start to compare ourselves to each other. We start to feel like something must be wrong with us, simply because we aren't in a relationship too.

But, here's the thing: Every single one of us is deserving of that same love we see in movies, television, and on social media, and one day we will all get to experience it.

Relationships are not all rainbows and butterflies though, and what we see portrayed on Instagram and/or Twitter are often just fragments of a person's overall life (might I add, they're usually the best parts of someone's life, highlighted on a social media platform so everyone can see).

We never know what may really be going on in a person's life or relationship, we just see what they want us to see and because of that, we hold our standards of how we should be treated based on what we see on social media—when often times those standards are unrealistic for the average person.

We need to stop comparing our circumstances, and we need to stop being envious other peoples' situations.

The thing is, I used to be that way. I used to constantly wonder what I was doing wrong, and why other people seemed to have it better than me when it came to relationships, but I realized that everything started with me.

When you start to invest in yourself and enjoy the things that were set in front of you, whether that be your schoolwork, your projects, or your individual talents, everything else will fall into place.

I have wasted a lot of my energy and many of my tears on people who were never meant to be a part of my life in the long run, but all of those tears brought me to where I am today.

Understand that each and every one of us has a love story in the making, and the people in the past are just that—old chapters that you will never go back to. Focus on the chapters to come, and the people you will meet. Don't block your blessings, but manifest in them.

Just because you haven't met the person of your dreams yet, doesn't mean you never will, because the right people will always fall into your life at the perfect time.

Your chapter is coming.

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To The Boy I Almost Fell In Love With, We Weren't Ready For Each Other

I don't think we were ready to be what we wanted to be for each other.


Hey you,

Look who's showing affection now.

I know you've been wondering if I'd mention you. I didn't think I would, period. Not this soon, that's for sure.

I'll start by saying neither of us meant for each other to play even a little bit of a role in each other's lives. Not as meaningful as we did, at least.

But no matter how unsure I was, no matter how many times I wanted to block you and leave everything unsaid, I couldn't help fighting through it just to know you.

The time we spent together never felt like enough. And I can't even speak in past tense because you're still here sometimes. Like when I think of your smile and how every part of me craved and waited anxiously for it to make an appearance, especially if it was because of me.

I used to think of it more, back when I thought you'd realize you made a mistake. Back when I thought we'd pick up where we left off.

I knew when I met you I wanted to show you every side of me. But what caught me by surprise, just like most things about you did, is that every time a layer of mine shed, yours did as well.

There are pieces of me, naked and raw. Physically and emotionally, locked away in your brain that nobody else will ever see. At least not in the way you did.

The purpose you had in my life was slight, in the long run. But regardless, you had a purpose and I want you to know that. I forgive you. I hope you know that me, out of all people, knows we can't control ourselves sometimes. Sometimes, we fuck up. Most of the time, it makes no fucking sense. All of the time, we'll try to figure it out and never will.

I don't think I'm falling in love with you anymore.

I'm sorry for saying I've never felt that way before about anyone, that was a lie.

I'm also sorry for being 8 shots deep when I said it.

That morning, I wanted us to cross paths again. I didn't think for a second you'd ever make me an option. I kinda thought I was your exception, your "just this once" because that's what you were to me.

This morning, I'm not sure we serve a purpose in each others lives. Not yet at least. Or ever for that matter. I don't think we were ready to be what we wanted to be for each other. And because I don't wanna reach out to you personally, I want you to know that I can't wait to see both of our many dreams come true.

I'm thankful for all of the little trips we took, stories and giggles shared, secrets whispered, ideas we cultivated, heart palpitations, and everything in between.

I won't forget.

I also won't cowardly push it away, like you're doing.

I don't blame timing, the universe, karma or any of that bullshit for the way things turned out.

At least on my end, I knew when I met you it wasn't forever. I think at the end of the day we both knew we were going to be the inspiration we needed to keep moving forward. Maybe a little more inspiration than we bargained for.

And maybe a little more forward than we bargained for, too.

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How College Changed My Relationships

Living three and a half hours home isn't always easy, a lot has changed.


At eighteen years old I was still young and naive about leaving home. Athens, Ohio was going to be this wonderful place where I always had a good time and I would be unstoppable. Literally, unstoppable. How could anyone tell me what to do in my own dorm? That was my space... DUH. I have family in both Pennsylvania and Michigan so going to school seemed like no big deal to me. My mom and dad always packed us in the car to see family, to me three and a half hours didn't seem too far. Along with changes within myself, many personal relationships changed as well over the course of this year.

Mom, my number one fan and my gossip buddy was hours away from me! Of course, we talk on the phone, shoot each other texts and silly screenshots, but it's not the same. It can be difficult to maintain that "close as can be" relationship over the phone. I wouldn't consider myself to have gotten homesick until very far into the semester. There is nothing like your mom taking care of you when you're sick! Our time apart has only made our time spent together more special, our laughs a little louder, and our hugs a little tighter.

Ryan, leaving your BEST FRIEND behind made making new friends a little awkward. I felt like I was cheating on our friendship, we literally have tattoos for each other and now we have to make new best friends?!?! Our contact with each other would decrease and pick back up when one of us had something juicy to talk about. She was busy with school and soccer, and I with school and friends here. At the end of the day, we always knew we had each other back through thick and thin, that's how best friends are. We could understand that every minute we had couldn't be spent on the phone finding out what was going on hours away. I have to tell you though, there are always a few tears saying see you soon when we head back to school.

Tyler, going into college in a relationship was definitely a difficult road ahead for the two of us, but we cared enough for each other to take on that road together. The first ten months of our relationship were spent within 20 minutes of each other and most of those ten months we were by each other's side. By no means was it easy to not see you every day when had the freedom to do so over summer. As the months passed, times got easier and harder and we are still figuring out how to make the distance work. It's a whole different level of effort with a significant other. I hope for better and easier times, only the happiest future.

God, coming to school I wanted to reconnect with God and become more spiritual. I had looked at some options on campus but didn't make the time needed for the one person I should have. I regret this decision the most, which I rarely regret in life. College feels like I'm moving 100 miles an hour and I can't catch a break. There is a heavyweight I cannot lift on my own and the only guidance I can ask for at this moment is yours. I know that my change in relationship with you is the answer.

At the end of the day, I'm thankful for all this year has brought me. With summer coming I hope to spend quality time with those I love and let them know how much I appreciate them.

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