If you're reading this And Get the 2:30 a.m. 'u up?' Messages, you should dump him

I'm just kidding, but I caught your attention, right?

I think I have cracked the code.

I am about to be a junior in college and have been through my fair share of frat boys. Lucky me, right? After every single ending, I sat back and asked myself, "What did I do wrong?" To be completely honest, it wasn't until a few weeks ago that I finally woke up, looked in the mirror, and realized I wasn't the problem at all.

It has taken loads of self-confidence to get to this point, but before you think I'm cocky, just read my article and then you can decide for yourself, deal?

After a breakup, it's easy to think that your life is over and all of your confidence that had been built up over the past few years is lost.

While I attempted to mend my heart, I found myself going for guys that I knew were just complete and total jerks. This is what I believe to be an epidemic at my school because this happens to so many girls. I think girls my age, including myself, forget just how much power we have. We must remember that men are natural born hunters, and if they want us, they'll show it in a more meaningful way than just by texting us at 2:30 a.m. saying, "U up?"

Once we realize our value and true inner beauty, we will realize that a boy and the attention of a boy are not what we need to feel whole. Boys should be our accessory, and it is easy to forget that.

Obviously, it's so much fun to have a boyfriend, and I would never encourage someone to break up with a guy that is awesome to them. All I am saying is by being only 20-years-old, I have found that these are some of the few selfish years that we have, so why spend them obsessing over a boy that doesn't give you half of what you deserve?

I have found that the best things come to those who don't seek. SO, if you are reading this and feel incomplete because you don't have a boyfriend, snap out of it. You don't need one. No one is you, and that is your power. Women are incredible, and when you have a team of women, you're unstoppable.

I think this moment for me right now is all about having fun with my girlfriends and figuring out who I really am, trying different foods, testing my own limits, and becoming a better me.