Your Opinion Is NOT Always Acceptable

Your Opinion Is NOT Always Acceptable

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Guys, it's 2019 - if there is one thing that is important in this day in age, it's learning to voice your opinion. The use of media is super convenient when it comes to having our voices be heard. From Amazon product reviews to your take on our president, we can always count on the media to repeat our thoughts onto the public.

A lot of the time, voicing our opinions are encouraged. For instance, in my classes, every single one of my professors encourages - if not requires - their students to participate in a group discussion. As someone who loves talking, this is awesome, in my opinion (see what I did there?) Anyway, that's accepted. In fact, it is our right to voice our own opinions *cough *- the first amendment* so who am I, a sophomore in college, to question that? Well, my name is Jamie, and I'm here to tell you why I am against voicing your opinion on certain topics.

As I had mentioned earlier, the media is a fantastic resource to public display your opinions on, honestly, anything. That includes the social media platform, YouTube. Many of you may be familiar with Lilly Singh, an iconic Youtuber with millions of subscribers. If that name doesn't ring a bell, perhaps her channel, IISuperwomanII will. Anyways, on June 18, 2018, she uploaded what is one of my favorite videos, "A Therapy Session For Homophobic People." I love this video for two reasons: First, my career goal is to be a psychologist (or social worker) and have therapy sessions with clients, and second, I'm a HUGE supporter of those who identify as LGBTQ+, like Lilly.

So the video is about this hate comment Lilly sees. It was a woman, Jenny, who wrote her opinion on gay people, saying that marriage is for a man and woman, only. (LOL) Afterward, Lilly pulls this person from her computer screen and has her sit down and they talk. The whole session is a mix of humor and straight up facts. There was a line that stuck with me.

Lilly and Jenny are discussing how Jenny must be "religiously woke" if she is able to communicate with G-d, being Jenny is hiding behind religion

Jenny: "Stop bullying me, I am entitled to my own opinion, this isn't fair."

Lilly: "I am so sorry that you are a victim of bullying. That...[not relavant to the quote]...but your opinions and similar ideas contribute to actual laws being made against gay people. So if you have an opinion about pineapples on pizza, I don't care. But it's illegal to be gay in some countries. Imagine the government took away your right to be yourself."

The video ended with Lilly (the doctor) prescribing Jenny with a bottle of common sense, telling her to take two tablets daily while listening to Sam Smith, warning her that side effects may include minding her own damn business. Jenny then says that sounds complicated and asks if she can go over it again over dinner. The perfect comedic ending to make this heavy content a little lighter.

But this isn't a funny matter.

Luckily we are adapting and advancing at a speed that allows humans to enjoy their basic human rights regardless of sexual orientation. But it doesn't just stop at sexuality. I tutor a class and a topic they learn about is prejudice. To allow them to further understand, I give examples:







Religious intolerance


...and so much more

I emphasize that to be prejudice is to have a certain feeling towards a group of people. To be honest, I cannot think of a more simple and better definition. Prejudice typically stems from stereotyping. Stereotyping literally means to think of other people differently, which is an OPINION.

Now, I'm not saying to stop prejudging, cause I do that and it's impossible to stop. It's human nature. What I am saying is to stop voicing your opinions if it is HURTING OR DISCRIMINATING AGAINST PEOPLE WHO WILL NOT HURT YOU OR ANYONE ELSE.

Take this scenario, for instance:

You are a straight, cisgender, white male living in a very diverse neighborhood. You have black neighbors, you have some LGBTQ neighbors, some neighbors of different religions like you, and you have neighbors who don't make the same amount of money as you do. One day, your neighbor, Peter, whose name at birth was Penelope, knocks on your door and invites you to his and his husband's annual BBQ. You smile and say you would love to go. The day before the BBQ occurs, you run to the supermarket to pick up a fruit platter as your way of saying thank you for the invite. The BBQ is in five minutes. You grab your stuff, walk down the block, and have a good ass time there. You give the hosts the platter, in which they thank you with a hug. You go in for it and carry on with your life. Congratulations, you treated these humans as humans. You are a good person.

Now take this scenario:

You are a straight, cisgender, white male living in a very diverse neighborhood. You have black neighbors, you have some LGBTQ neighbors, some neighbors of different religions like you, and you have neighbors who don't make the same amount of money as you do. One day, your neighbor, Peter, whose name at birth was Penelope, knocks on your door and invites you to his and his husband's annual BBQ. You smile and say you already have plans for that day, even though that was a lie. Peter say's "alright, enjoy your plans. Hope to see you around," and walks away. You kindly wish him well and shut the door as he walks away. On the inside, however, you shivered and thought "I would never enjoy my time there knowing they're trans." But you keep that thought to yourself. You didn't lash out on Peter, and more importantly, you didn't take it to the internet to recap this encounter and adding how disgusted you were - because you know that these are friendly people. You may not agree with their lifestyle, but that doesn't mean you have to rain on their parade by berating them either. Congratulations, you treated this human as a human. You are a good person.

The bottom line is that we're all equal. Plain and simple. No matter how you feel towards a group of people, the fact that they are a human being is what comes first. As long as they're not causing any damage, why must you intervene? Just move on with your life because no one has time for this - we left that negativity in 2018.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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Abortion Bans Are Only A Small Part Of The Republican War On Women

These bans expose the Republican Party for what it truly is.


This week, several states passed laws that ban abortion after six to eight weeks of pregnancy, before most women even know that they're pregnant. The most egregious of these is Alabama — the state has banned abortion except for in cases of danger to the mother. Exceptions in the cases of rape and incest were actively voted against by the state legislature. Under the new law, any doctor who is caught giving an abortion would be sentenced to 99 years in prison, and the woman would be charged with murder.

Apart from the fact that this explicitly violates the decision of Roe v. Wade (which is the point), this is only a small part of the slow but steady degradation of women's rights by Republicans in the United States. To anyone who believes that this is simply about people being "pro-life" or "saving the children," then tell them to look at what happens after the fetus is carried to term.

Republicans oppose forcing fathers to be involved in the lives of their children that were forcibly carried to term, desires to cut food stamps and make it more difficult to feed said child, cut funding for affordable housing to make it more difficult for them to find homes, cut spending to public education so these children can't move up the social ladder, and refuse to offer the woman or her child health insurance to keep them both healthy. What about efforts to prevent pregnancy? Republicans also oppose funding birth control and contraception, as well as opposing comprehensive sexual education. To them, the only feasible solution is to simply keep your legs shut. They oppose all of these things because it is, in their eyes, a violation of individual rights to force people to do something. The bill also makes women who get abortions felons, and felons can't vote. I'll let you finish putting those two together.

If you view it from this framework, it would seem like Republicans are being extremely hypocritical by violating the personal freedoms of pregnant women, but if you look at it from the view of restricting social mobility for women, then it makes perfect sense. The Republican dogma of "individual rights" and "personal responsibility" is a socially acceptable facade that they use to cover up their true intentions of protecting the status quo and protect those in power. About any Republican policy, ask yourself: does this disperse power or consolidate it? Whether it be education, healthcare, the environment, or the economy, Republicans love to keep power away from the average citizen and give it to the small number of people that they deem "deserving" of it because of their race, gender, wealth, or power. This is the case with abortion as well; Power is being taken from women, and being given back to men in a reversal of the Feminist Movement of the 1970s.

Republicans don't believe in systemic issues. They believe that everyone has the same opportunity to succeed regardless of what point they started. This is why they love capitalism so much. It acts as some sort of great filter in which only those who deserve power can make it to the top. It's also why they hate social policies; they think that helping people who can't help themselves changes the hierarchy in a negative way by giving people who don't "deserve" power, power. Of course, we know that just because you have money and power doesn't mean you earned it fair and square, and even if Republicans believe it, it wouldn't change anything because it wouldn't change how they want to distribute power.

In short, Republican policies, including abortion, leave the average American with less money, less protection, less education, worse health, less opportunity, fewer rights, and less freedom. This is NOT a side effect. This is the point. Regardless of what Republicans will tell you about "inalienable rights" and how everyone is equal, in reality, they believe that some people and groups are more deserving of rights than others, and the group that deserves rights the most are the ones "that will do the best with them." To Republicans, this group consists of the wealthy, the powerful, and the white — the mega-rich, the CEOs of large companies, gun owners and Christians.

So, who do Republicans think deserve power and give it to? People who look and think like them. This, however, begs the question: Who do they want to take it from?

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