Things To Know Before Dating A Firefighter

Things To Know Before Dating A Firefighter

You'll learn how to tell the difference between different kinds of sirens.
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There are just certain things you are going to want to know before dating a fireman. In my experience, I had to learn along the way. But at the end of all the calls, constantly smelling his gear in the car and sometimes even cancelled plans, I sure do love my firefighter!

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You were promised a list, so here it is:

1. If they are even within 20 minutes of the station, they will always leave you to go on a call.

No matter the circumstances, if you have a fireman on your hands, he will jet to the car and be on his way.

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2. Meeting nights are not something you try and fight with them about. They are going to leave and you do not have to like it because it wasn't up to you anyway.

I have learned that these nights are not optional. Yes, other people miss them, but not my firefighter.

3. No matter where you are or what you're doing the minute they hear a firetrucks horn, they're looking for it and hoping they're not missing anything good.

You will learn the lingo. Structures, fully involved (the good stuff) smoke alarms, cat in a tree (ehh I mean they are fireman...soooo still good stuff).

4. They know the exact difference between an ambulance, cop, and, of course, a fire truck siren.

Which means that you will have to learn, too.

5. You’ll have to accept that when he has to do hall rental cleanup, you're going with to help.

You fold the chairs and he stacks them. And Im talking at like 12 a.m.,1 a.m.

6. When you come around the firehouse, there will be jokes made and they'll mess with him about you or even you about him.

Honestly it's a giant bromance going on and they prey on this kinda stuff.

7. At first, you won't really have a name to the fire guys. Until you're around long enough.

You'll just be Boyfriend's name's girlfriend.

8. The fire pager goes where he goes.

Next to the bed, in the car, next to your bed, your living room, EVERYWHERE. And even if it's not the real pager, it's the dog app that I can never remember the name of so dog app it is. (Say that really fast to get the full effect).

9. They will probably wear their station shirt/apparel at least 4-5 days a week.

AT LEAST.

10. If you've got a good one, you're always put first. The list will always go "You, the firehouse, me, everyone else."

But secretly they always want to put the firehouse first.

11. You will learn and know more stations, trucks, members, and chiefs than you will ever want to admit.

Unbelievably true.

12. When you're driving and you see a fire station, you'll have to look at it.

If its an amazing building, you'll have to remember the name. And then you'll have to tell him about it. And then you've just proved number 11 correct. Add it to your list.

13. Never make plans while he's on a call. You can never know when he'll be back.

Even if the calls are short, they could stay at least another hour washing the trucks and being boys, of course.

14. In case you didn't understand the severity of the first one, if you are on the phone and you hear the pager go off in the background, just tell him you love him and hang up.

Because if you don't, he will. "Got a call, Love you, bye." Mid-sentence is always what you want to hear.

15. You'll never want to watch "Ladder 49" again.

You will cry like a baby and then want to make him quit.

16. Outside of the stations, fireman tend to forget that fire isn't a toy and it's pretty damn hot.

*Playing with the lighter fluid or burning things on the stove*
"No it's alright, I'm a firefighter."

17. You will start your own station shirt collection.

From NYFD memorial shirts, a station from where you're vacationing even acquired old shirts of his, you will have started your own pile of station shirts.

18. You can't get angry or upset when he is unavailable because he's going to go to the firehouse for the fifth time that week, or if there's another fire prevention thing to do.

You can't be mad because he's doing what he loves and also because a man in a uniform isn't too shabby.

There are a lot more things to know before dating a fireman, but the rest you'll just have to learn along the way.

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'As A Woman,' I Don't Need To Fit Your Preconceived Political Assumptions About Women

I refuse to be categorized and I refuse to be defined by others. Yes, I am a woman, but I am so much more.

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It is quite possible to say that the United States has never seen such a time of divisiveness, partisanship, and extreme animosity of those on different sides of the political spectrum. Social media sites such as Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter are saturated with posts of political opinions and are matched with comments that express not only disagreement but too often, words of hatred. Many who cannot understand others' political beliefs rarely even respect them.

As a female, Republican, college student, I feel I receive the most confusion from others regarding my political opinions. Whenever I post or write something supporting a conservative or expressing my right-leaning beliefs and I see a comment has been left, I almost always know what words their comment will begin with. Or in conversation, if I make my beliefs known and someone begins to respond, I can practically hear the words before they leave their mouth.

"As a woman…"

This initial phrase is often followed by a question, generally surrounding how I could publicly support a Republican candidate or maintain conservative beliefs. "As a woman, how can you support Donald Trump?" or "As a woman, how can you support pro-life policies?" and, my personal favorite, "As a woman, how did you not want Hillary for president?"

Although I understand their sentiment, I cannot respect it. Yes, being a woman is a part of who I am, but it in no way determines who I am. My sex has not and will not adjudicate my goals, my passions, or my work. It will not influence the way in which I think or the way in which I express those thoughts. Further, your mention of my sex as the primary logic for condemning such expressions will not change my adherence to defending what I share. Nor should it.

To conduct your questioning of my politics by inferring that my sex should influence my ideology is not only offensive, it's sexist.

It disregards my other qualifications and renders them worthless. It disregards my work as a student of political science. It disregards my hours of research dedicated to writing about politics. It disregards my creativity as an author and my knowledge of the subjects I choose to discuss. It disregards the fundamental human right I possess to form my own opinion and my Constitutional right to express that opinion freely with others. And most notably, it disregards that I am an individual. An individual capable of forming my own opinions and being brave enough to share those with the world at the risk of receiving backlash and criticism. All I ask is for respect of that bravery and respect for my qualifications.

Words are powerful. They can be used to inspire, unite, and revolutionize. Yet, they can be abused, and too comfortably are. Opening a dialogue of political debate by confining me to my gender restricts the productivity of that debate from the start. Those simple but potent words overlook my identity and label me as a stereotype destined to fit into a mold. They indicate that in our debate, you cannot look past my sex. That you will not be receptive to what I have to say if it doesn't fit into what I should be saying, "as a woman."

That is the issue with politics today. The media and our politicians, those who are meant to encourage and protect democracy, divide us into these stereotypes. We are too often told that because we are female, because we are young adults, because we are a minority, because we are middle-aged males without college degrees, that we are meant to vote and to feel one way, and any other way is misguided. Before a conversation has begun, we are divided against our will. Too many of us fail to inform ourselves of the issues and construct opinions that are entirely our own, unencumbered by what the mainstream tells us we are meant to believe.

We, as a people, have become limited to these classifications. Are we not more than a demographic?

As a student of political science, seeking to enter a workforce dominated by men, yes, I am a woman, but foremost I am a scholar, I am a leader, and I am autonomous. I refuse to be categorized and I refuse to be defined by others. Yes, I am a woman, but I am so much more.

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You Were Not Always Like This

Be kind and compassionate to those who are where you once were.

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In my past article I Don't Have It All Together, I talked about how no one has it all together. This is something I know and I believe, but I had to get a little reminder.

Let's take a look into my journal.

Someone whom I love dearly gave me a prayer request, and I prayed. But, as I was praying, I was saying one thing with my mouth and my heart was saying something completely different. I was thinking why asking me for this specific prayer request when you already know that this way lead to destruction and you choose to do it anyway. I could hear the Holy Spirit whispering so loud REMEMBER YOU ONCE LIVED LIKE THIS.

Of course I did exactly what a "righteous" person would do, I started to defend myself. I started to compare my old ways to theirs and I was like I did not use to do such things. As if my sins were "okay". If you have any experience with the Holy Spirit convicting you of something, you will know that it didn't stop there. I was so bothered. I started to flip my bible because I could remember a verse about "you once lived like this", But I couldn't remember where to find it. I knew it was in the new testament specifically a letter from Paul, but it was just hard to find at the moment. I went to my bestie "Google" buddy wasn't helping either. I went back to the bible and still nothing. All of a sudden, I remembered the keywords, and Google came through.

Colossians 3: 7 You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived.

I saw the word, yet I was still defending myself. Then, I realized that it didn't matter whether my sins were different or not, I was still a rebel against God, and I was doing things that He was not pleased with which is exactly why I needed saving, and I still do. I need His grace and Mercy every second.

I had to ask God for forgiveness and I decided that I will be praying for that person harder because the same way that God called me out of my grave is the same way that He can call them too.

God works in mysterious ways friend! I started this growth plan at my church and one of my goals is to memorize scripture. I had told myself that I would memorize at least one verse a week "baby step." I never thought the first one I would intentionally memorize would be from a conviction.

I shared all this with you because I know that sometimes we get carried away and we forget where God took us. It also has a lot to do with where our heart is with God. I would say that I never want to lose sight of my salvation story because I don't want to ever think that somehow I deserved the finished work of Jesus. In that scenario, I had that mindset, but I had to quickly realized that the same grace I needed is the same grace that everyone else in the world needs. The same God that brought me to light will bring them to light as well. I am not proud at all with what happened; that is not why I am sharing this with you. I am sharing with you so that you REMEMBER.

No matter where you are in life, remember that you were not always this person. You are a parent, remember how you once used to a rebel against your parents. You are a teacher, remember how you once used to think that teachers were unfair. You are a husband or a wife, remember how you used to be annoyed being single. You are a well-known writer, remember how you used to seek other people to validate your work. You are a supervisor now, remember how you used to dislike certain things about supervisors. You consider yourself successful, remember when you used to doubt yourself. The list could go on and on. But, what I really want you to remember is the word of God because maybe the examples I give, you can't even relate to them. But, listen to the word of God. Colossians 3:7 " you used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived".

You were not always who you are today. Maybe you are a better version of yourself maybe you are not. But, do not mistreat the others that are where you once used to be. Be kind and compassionate, encourage them, share your story with them. I believe that testimonies are powerful. So, do not pretend that you always had it together because the truth is, none of us have.

People will relate to your weaknesses more than your strengths, so share that and let your strength empower them.

Xoxo,

DD

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