“Confidence is the basic internal belief that a person can and will succeed.” – Kuehl and Tefertiller

I know I’ve written a little about confidence before but I decided to write about it again because quite honestly, here lately I’ve been struggling with it. Sometimes you feel like when you got it, you got it and when you don’t, you don’t. Since I realized that I wasn’t very confident in myself I realized that your confidence has to do a little with your happiness.

If you’re happy in general regardless if you aren’t confident about your weight, school, job, or whatever in your life you can give yourself the tools to have a positive mindset that can lead you to confidence. A positive mind is so unbelievably powerful. I wish more people would see that. I’ve read a quote about if people knew what their thoughts could do they wouldn’t think negative thoughts, or something like that but it’s true. When you set your mind to something, you’ll probably do it. Saying something out loud is like dedicating yourself to something. Someone who is happy should feel confident in himself or herself. Your happiness radiates to other people and makes them feel positive everyday and you probably didn’t even realize it. Try it. One day genuinely smile at someone, not that half awkward smile but a REAL smile and I bet you that person will smile back. Something I try to do is compliment someone everyday. I think about how good it feels to get a compliment so why not try to make someone else feel good about themselves? Making other people happy should make you happy! My last comment on happiness is to take all of the negative people out of your life. Who knows? You may be the negative person in the group. If that’s the case try to listen to what your friends have to say and instead of picking only the negative things out, try to say something positive and if you can’t think of anything positive, don’t say anything at all. Don’t be another weight on a persons shoulder. You personally are not the weight but your words will stick in their head and remind them why they feel in a crappy situation in the first place.

I think confidence is something that is built by the self. Someone else can’t create it. A friend can tell you a million times that you’re not fat or you are a good player or you’re the best at something but if you look in the mirror and you can’t see that or you can’t feel that in your mind, it doesn’t help. You know you have good friends that support you and love you and that’s a good feeling but confidence building really does start from within. When you build that confidence and your friends start saying those things you’ll feel like they’re complimenting you and not just trying to make you feel better. Build your confidence so you can stand tall and want to look yourself in the mirror. If you want to make a change, DO IT. It’s not going to be easy, it’s going to be hard and it’s probably going to suck but doing it yourself and knowing you were capable of making those changes for yourself is going to be the best feeling. So stick with it and look at yourself everyday in the mirror and say,” I can do this and I want this.” If you really want it and you mean it you’ll do it and shortly confidence in yourself will follow.

My point in this whole thing is not to build your confidence just from reading this but to bring you to believe in yourself to make a change. My plan in my writing is to always inspire, enlighten or to educate. I hope this article has touched you in one-way or another. You might have read this and thought of something totally different and that is fine, as long as you picked up something. Life is too short to not love yourself so don’t wait any longer. Your biggest opponent will always be yourself. When you’ve figured out how to take control of your negative thoughts and turn them into positive ones, you will gain the confidence to move mountains.