High school is a weird place. You know the same people for about 13 years of your life, and make a lifetime bond with them. People create groups with people who have the same interests. Well, throughout high school I was in a few groups. There was particularly one that actually scarred me as a person and eventually hurt me so bad that they made me want to go to another school district.
I was a part of this group of girls who have been close for a long time, then I came in. Left and right, every single day, all of the friends would say bad things about each other. I got to the point of frustration of all of my friends talking behind each other's backs that I told one friend that the other was "getting tired of her," exactly as she told me. Somehow, it was all my fault that they were talking about each other and I was kicked out of their group and they never spoke to me again since. They even decided to shun me about a day or two after I came back from my trip to Italy and got them all presents.
There were so many people that these girls were associated with that I started to lose more and more friends throughout the year. I'll never forget the pit in my stomach every time I was ignored or not acknowledged in the hallways by people who I was just best friends with two days prior. Walking the hallways was one of the most difficult tasks of my day, because they were everywhere. And being in a classroom became my safe haven as I was a good student who was close with her teachers and peers in challenging classes.
This insecurity problem went on for about a year and a half (which is a lot in high school) until I realized that I was a lot better of a person than any of them were. I was involved. I was in Music Honor Society, Honor Society, orchestra, varsity softball, honors and AP classes, and the top 20% of my class of 500 students. I realized that I was a decent and determined person. I finally saw that these people had nothing on me (other than more friends). So I patiently waited for college to come while I held my chin high.
Now I'm here, at college, with more genuine friends than I could ever ask for. I am so glad I only briefly got caught up in nonsense drama and inevitably moved on as a person. I'm glad this article was short, because what they did no longer matters, and the way these girls made me feel was so much more than this short article. I finally got over it completely and can even look back and strongly say that I didn't miss a thing by not being their friend.
The funny thing about being shunned by my "best friends" is that they don't even know that they have changed me for the better. What they did to me was possibly the best thing that could've happened to me as a growing individual. I've learned that if irrelevant people weed their way out of your life, let them, and take the lesson they left with you to learn.
This article goes out to all the people in high school that are afraid to see someone in the hallway that they have a problem with. High school is a mechanism used to get into college, so do your work, stay focused, and you'll eventually get what you want. Clear your head of any negativity of anything that is holding you back. Don't let low people bring you down with them. And don't be friends with people who talk about their "best friends" behind their backs. Seriously not worth the time or energy, or in my case, Euros.
