Are Soulmates Real?

Are Soulmates Real?

Is your perfect other half out there?

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Lately, a question that has often plagued my mind is the concept of a soulmate. Is there a soulmate in the world for every individual? The idea of a soulmate is a fascinating thing. The dictionary defines a soulmate as "a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner." It's quite a phenomenon that in a world of seven billion people, one individual is your ideal counterpart. As I grow older, I observe my friends in long-term relationships and the feelings that they've developed as time has progressed. It's interesting that people my age have committed themselves to another individual devotedly for long periods of time. I often wonder if I'll encounter such a love anytime soon.

When friends talk about marrying their current lovers after college, I feel panicked and wonder if the clock to find your soulmate has already begun ticking and I'm moving at a pace far too slow. It's good to believe in soulmates because it gives hope to people. If I believe that I have a soulmate in this world, I can live believing that someday everything will fall into place and my perfect partner will stumble into my life. Sometimes I wonder how love even works because it's crazy that two individuals just happened to both like each other and decided to see where this initial liking could take them. Often though, many people experience one-sided loves and it makes you wonder if you're doing something wrong compared to people who have coupled up. I'd ideally like to chalk up unrequited loves and romantic mishaps to the existence of soulmates. I tell myself that things didn't work out because it wasn't meant to be. I often glaze over the mishaps afterward and wonder why it didn't work out. I'm a dreamer and I'll paint these picture-perfect love stories in my mind which left me disappointed. However, living with the hope that soulmates exist helps.

Do soulmates exist in this world? Maybe all my mishaps and one-sided loves are the result of the world telling me it was not meant to be. The idea of soulmates gives me hope that one day, everything will work out in the end.

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In You, I Found Freedom

And I can't thank you enough.

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For over 15 years we didn't know each other. We hadn't been through anything together. But we had been through everything o our own. All the hard, tough, struggles and battles we fight silently. Then we met. And you wanted to know more. You wanted me to let you in and I blocked you out.

But you were persistent and patient. So I slowly showed you trust and let you in, but just on simple surface level things. No way in heck was I letting you into the deepest parts of my heart. But you wanted to know more. You wanted to know me more. And like before, I hesitated and avoided it. But you were patient and gentle. So I let you in a little further. I shared hard things with you, but not the really really hard and deep things. I don't share those things with anyone. But as the months went on, you (of course) wanted to know me more. And you were gentle and understanding, so I did. I let you into the depths of my heart and broke down into tears and for the first time, you fully knew me and you asked for nothing more. You were understanding and loving. And you stayed.

For the first time, I felt pure freedom.

I felt pure freedom because you wanted my whole self. Every inch and crack. I didn't need to put on certain faces to be around you. I didn't need to cover and tuck away the ugly parts. You wanted it all and you were patient in receiving it all. I found freedom in your gentleness, your persistence, your consistency, and your love. It never faltered. It's never decreased since that one day we met, when you wanted to know more. Because you knew you wanted to love me. All of me. And to do so, you needed to know all of me so that you could love all of me.

So thank you, not for seeing me, but for wanting to know me. Fully. Because in you, I am free. And a girl couldn't ask anything more from her soon-to-be-husband. For if we're meant to emulate Christ's love as much as possible, then you're doing a pretty dang good job. Because I'm free in Him just as you've let me be free in you.

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The Realities Of Dating A High Schooler While You're In College

A freshman in college dating a senior...in high school?

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I have been with my boyfriend since the summer before my senior year of high school. We knew coming into it that we would have to spend my freshman year of high school apart. Now with only 7 weeks left of my first year in college, here is my take on what it's like to date someone still going to your alma mater.

1. FaceTime is your new best friend

FaceTime is my most used app now. If I am free at night or just want to see his face, I can always depend on a call. This might sound cheesy, but FaceTime sleepovers are an *almost* daily occurrence. Even if we both have things to do, we just call each other and do our own thing. This makes me feel closer, considering the 125+ miles between us.

2. A whole other reason to come home

Seeing family and friends while being home is great. But what's better than a bigger bed and your boo cuddling next to you? Plus, I have rides to and from without having to bug my parents.

3. Different breaks

For both winter and spring break, there have been times when he is still in school while I am off. So, I am basically a "housewife" for those days. It does stink that I have to wait until after 3 to hang out with him, but at the same time, I can get some work done while he's at school. It'll probably always be like this, considering he is going to a community college at home for the next two years. But, maybe it'll coincide (fingers crossed!)

4. One foot in college, one foot in high school

Dating a high schooler and being friends with people in his grade and below, I do feel like I am sorta in high school still. I still sit in the student section at games, and workout with my friends at the high school. I'm still "popular" in some sense because of him but also because I am from a super small school. I just can't wait until baseball season!

5. DANCES!

Homecoming! Winter Carnival! Prom! Having a boyfriend in high school is great because my last dances weren't really my last ones. So now, I am looking at both formal and prom dresses!

6. People asking the dreaded question

Whenever anyone at college finds out I have a boyfriend, they always ask where he goes and what year he is. My answer is always "He's back at home" or "He's a senior...in high school". Everyone asks why I stay with him and my thinking is, why would I break up with him just because I am a little ways away? He knows that I am pursuing my dreams down here, even if they aren't necessarily with him (yet).

I don't really see the drastic differences between dating a high schooler while in college, but I am definitely not changing it any time soon!

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