An Open Letter to The Friendship I Walked Away From
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An Open Letter to The Friendship I Walked Away From

Some Friendships Are Toxic

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An Open Letter to The Friendship I Walked Away From
Hannah Hurdle

This was hard for me to write; it took me a long time to finish. I wrote several drafts before I finally decided on this. There is so much more that I could say about this situation, but I think that this is everything I need to say. You made me feel like my friendship wasn't valuable. There were times I felt like I couldn't talk to you because you didn't care what I had to say.

You treated me like I was replaceable. Like I was an old rag doll you were done playing with. A toy you would put up on a shelf because you didn't want to get rid of it, but you weren't interested in it right now.
You only wanted me around when you had no one else. I was suddenly worth your time again. The person you went to when you were upset because you felt like you didn't have anyone else. It was hard because I didn't know why you only wanted to be my friend sometimes. You made me think friendship was like a part time job.

I realize now that you see friendship as something that is interchangeable. It doesn't matter to you who the friend is. You were happy if it was me or someone you barely knew. You went through cycles of friendships only coming back to me when I was your only option. You thought I'd always be there no matter how you treated me because I always had been. I always thought you would change. I thought one day you would realize that the way you treated me was wrong. The only apology I ever got though wasn't an apology at all; you didn't think the way you treated me was wrong.

I let you make me feel like my friendship wasn't valuable. That it wasn't important enough to put much thought or time into. I let you treat me that way because I thought you were my best friend. I didn't know the way you treated me wasn't normal. I believed that deep down I meant something to you. I truly believed you always thought I'd be there. Now I don't believe that's true. I don't think you care at all that we aren't friends anymore. I don't believe that you will change, and I don't think you can. If you don't see a problem with the way you value friendship, how can you? I was the only person who put up with the way you handle friendship this long. I haven't needed you for a long time. It's just now though that I've come to realize that it's not worth it anymore. At some point in life, you realize that some people just aren't good for you anymore. I stuck it out as long as I could, but I had to do what was best for me.

I want you to know though that I wish you the best in life. I hope you surround yourself with people who lift you up and inspire you to be your best. I hope you make the right choices and don't do things you'll regret. I hope you are happy now because even though you didn't value my friendship, I valued yours. I want you to know that if you ever need me I'll be there; I'm just a phone call away. We aren't friends anymore, but we used to be. At some point, we used to be and even if it didn't mean something to you it meant something to me.

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