Hey! I don't know how to address you, because I haven't had to make a new friend for months.
Now I'm thrown into this new school and city with thousands of new faces that I'm expected to make friends with. So please, pay me no mind as I still don't know how our friendship dynamic is. I don't even know what my dynamic is. I can't even introduce myself properly.
It's going to take me a little bit of time to figure your lifestyle out: how you want to communicate, how much time you want to yourself, how you socialize, etc. I tend to put others' needs before mine, so please, just do your thing. I'm not assertive, I won't start arguments, I won't get flustered at you or any of our suite mates.
I just like being alone and keeping to myself sometimes.
In relation to that, please don't mind if you can find me most of the time wrapped up in my bed with noise-canceling headphones on full blast connected to my MacBook that's been on for the past six hours. I'm a bit of an introvert, and having alone time is important to me. This dorm room is the most private place I can be, since, as we both know, I didn't get the individual bedroom I wanted, so please understand where I'm coming from here.
I hope we share some things in common. Anything. I went and chose a roommate randomly, so I didn't know exactly whom to expect. I truly hope that there is common ground between us. Because I honestly want to be close with you. If we're going to be spending a few months, maybe years together, I want them to be enjoyable. It's convenient sometimes to have a roommate, as I've learned through college orientation, where I forgot my key in my dorm room and my roommate came back with her key to heroically let me back in.
I'm not that forgetful. Or at least, not all the time.
There are going to be times when I get very sad, and I'm going to be alone more than usual. I am planning on being homesick, on being worried, on having the occasional anxiety attack. That might be when I need you the most. I need you to accept me. I need you to understand that I might not be at an emotionally stellar place, and that it doesn't make me any less of a person. I just get anxious sometimes, and it's difficult to share a bedroom with someone when I get that way. Like I mentioned, my bedroom used to be an area of seclusion, but with someone else sharing the same one, I don't want you to be uncomfortable.
But I want you to know that I am here for you too.
We're both human. We both need an area of seclusion sometimes. I want you to know that I am here to help you through this brand new college experience, through all the highs and lows that will come with freshman year. If you get homesick, I am here for you. If you get worried, I am here for you. If you get anxious, I am here for you. If we're going to be in such close quarters, we are going to have to make it through this adventure together.
Thank you for being my roommate, and I hope that we can make this journey a marvelous one.
