We all have those days (or weeks... or months... sometimes even years) where we may not feel the best about ourselves. Sometimes all it takes is a few simple steps to change how you feel about yourself for the better.
Step One: Look At Yourself In The Mirror (I Mean Really Look)
When we look at ourselves in the mirror, what is the first thing we notice? That one eyebrow that’s just barely different than the other? The acne scars we have from when we were 13? The fact that we may not have a totally flat stomach? Stretch marks, love handles, whatever it is, I guarantee you, no one else notices it like you do. No one notices things like that until you point them out. So don’t point them out, learn that these things make you, you. We’d be boring if we all looked the same, right?
Step 2: Put On Something That Makes You Feel Confident
We all have that one outfit, whether you are a guy or girl, that you put on, look at yourself, and go, “Damn! I look good.” And when we put that on and say that in our heads (or out loud if you’re like me, haha) then you instantly feel so much better about yourself. Remember this feeling, this moment in time where you love yourself, and when you aren’t feeling too sure about yourself, reflect back on that moment and remember, you’re beautiful (or handsome for the guys).
Step 3: Do Something That Makes You Feel Good
Whether it’s taking a walk, going to the gym, watching a movie in bed, or hanging out with your favorite people, do it. Doing something that makes you happy releases endorphins that make you feel better and happier. Feeling positive in general helps you feel good about yourself. Whenever you feel down on yourself, go do what makes you smile!
Step 4: Out With The Negative, In With The Positive
I know from personal experience, surrounding yourself with the wrong people can make you feel awful about yourself. You may not see it now, but you will eventually figure out who is good for you and who isn’t. And trust me on this one, the day you figure that out, get rid of the toxic people that put you down because they may say they’re your “friends” but real friends don’t make you feel worse about yourself. Real friends pick you up when you're down, make you feel loved, and make you feel good about yourself. You don’t need toxic people in your life, replace them with positive people who love you for you.
Step 5: NEVER Change For Anyone... Except Yourself.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to make changes in your life. But don’t make them for the wrong reasons. Never change yourself for a guy or girl. If they don’t want you for you, they aren’t worth your time. Change something about yourself when you know for sure that is what YOU want, and only you. If you want to start going to the gym more, great, go for it. But don’t do it because someone made a comment about how you look, do it because you want to be a healthier version of yourself. If you want to stop wearing makeup, do it because you want to, don’t do it because someone said you shouldn’t wear it. Change feels so much better when you decide it’s what you want.
Don’t let anyone ever tell you that you aren’t good enough. You are always good enough, despite what anyone else believes. Their opinions of you don’t matter, the only one that matters is yours. You’re perfect the way you are, never forget that. ♡
