Ghosting. This isn’t something new for our generation. How many so- called ‘relationships’ have we all been in that ended without actually ending? How many restless nights did we lay awake wondering what in the world we did wrong? How did this happen? Why did this happen? Was it something I did or said?
Well ladies, buckle your seat belts and hold on because you are in for a rocky read.
Stop thinking about him.
That’s what our hook up culture is all about now- who can care less in the relationship. I don’t know about you, but I am totally, one hundred percent, DONE.
So make it happen. Stop allowing yourself to be that girl. You aren’t.
You are SO much better than that.
He left, and that is his loss, not yours. He’s the one who should be wondering what it was he did wrong. Why he ever let you go. And constantly wondering about what you’re doing.
Take it from the girl who allowed herself to be sad for entirely too long - he isn’t worth the time, tears, or effort. If he wasn’t able to see what he had when it was right there in front of him then he definitely shouldn’t get another shot at the prize. So delete the pictures, un-follow on social media (you don’t want to see the new girl anyway), and for God sake-don’t send the text.
Let him miss you.
Let him wonder about you. Let him think you’re living this incredible life that he knows full well he isn’t a part of anymore. You could still be crying in your sweatpants, sitting on the floor eating ice cream and watching every sappy chick flick you can think of, but he doesn’t need to know that. He doesn’t need to know the effect he’s had on you. And he certainly doesn’t need to know that he’s the one who cared less.
I’m a firm believer in the idea that someone will come into your life and prove to you that there are people who believe in the importance of relationships and that there is such a thing as a “good guy” but until then, I’ll be my own knight in shinning armor. And at the end of the day I am the one who is in control of my feelings, and you should be too. So put down the phone, stop the social media stalking, and get out there and be your own knight. And I promise you won’t be disappointed in yourself.
