Women Over 50 Dating

Women Over 50 Dating

Challenges + Opportunities
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Women over 50 are faced with a set of challenges that are related to their particular circumstances. Either being divorced or widowed in addition to where they are in the 50 plus age range.

One thing for sure, they are entering a turning point in their life. A woman after fifty dating must get clear about her values and her objectives when reentering the dating scene.

In other words deciding if she wants marriage, a long-term relationship (but not tying the knot) or just a boy toy?

Single women over 50 need to reclaim their own worth and values as mature females. Part of that process is identifying what standards they want to set for the men they date.

This can be an exciting and freeing time for any senior woman dating as she takes back her power and becomes a confident alluring feminine woman.

When it comes to getting back into a marriage, some women feel gun shy, especially after finally getting out of a bad relationship.

An AARP study found that most women in the over 40 to 50 plus range filed for divorces due to physical or emotional abuse, infidelity, or drug and alcohol abuse.

The spouses were taken by surprise when their wives ended the marriage feeling that their husbands would most likely never change. So it’s easy to see why many of these women are not eager to risk again the trap of marriage after their experience.

Nevertheless, most senior women dating find after a certain amount of time of being a single gal they begin to crave the comfort that a loving and caring relationship can bring. At that point, they can decide if they are best suited to an exclusive long-term relationship or if they will be most satisfied to remarry if they can find Mr. Right.

One other challenge that mature women will face is where and how to meet the type of men she would want to spend this next phase of her life with. If she gets a solid vision of who this man would be, then she will be more successful in putting together a strategy and plan for how to meet these types of guys. And that is when the hard work will start to pay off.

Finding a good man requires more than luck or fate. It is important for women over 50 to open up as many channels as possible for meeting available men. Friends and family is one channel. Others are through volunteer organizations and group sports. In addition to that there are “how to” classes, such as how to invest in real estate or learning how to become a wine aficionado, are just a few examples.

In summary, for mature women, the challenges will turn into opportunities if you stay focused on your goals and go after them with gusto. The truth is this could be the most exciting time of your life. The balls in your court, all you need to do is take on the challenge!

I would love to hear what your experiences have been when re-entering the dating world after 50 and what was your biggest challenge? Please leave your comment below.

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They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

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You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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12 You Should Know About Your Significant Other After You've Been Dating 12 Months Or More

You have multiple food orders memorized.

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Dating someone for a year+ means that you are bound to know things you might not have known in the early months of the relationship. You also might act differently than you did at the beginning of the relationship.

Here are 12 things you know when you've been dating for over a year.

1. Clothing size, shoe size

This one you can probably be able to figure out early in the relationship. But, you start to keep in the back of your mind and think of that person when you see clothes or a pair of shoes they might like.

2. You can guess what they are going to text back

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3. You have multiple food orders memorized

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4. You have that one TV show you can put on and neither of you will complain

And that is "The Office."

5. You don't get jealous

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6. You know likes and dislikes

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8. Their successes make you just as happy as it makes them

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9. Your friends are his friends and his friends are your friends

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10. You have your favorite restaurants

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11. You've met everyone in the family and extended family

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12. You know extremely personal things about each other

That you would not necessarily share with the public.

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