There is no doubt that humans are social beings. Day in and day out we crave the interaction with others no matter how long or short that said interaction is. Without it, what are humans? We become lost, isolated, and rejected. According to a study conducted by Holt-Lunstad in 2010, "Those with adequate or high social relationships–friends, family, neighbors or colleagues–were found to have a 50 percent greater likelihood of survival than their friendless counterparts." Thus, humans require adequate social interaction in order to function and succeed in our daily lives.
Far too often, individuals witness a pairing or so of others with each other. But the situation is drastically different than expected. Rather than provide one's full undivided attention to the other, someone is on their phone or simply trying to respond with something that is purely their own.
Meaning is lost digitally. Digitally communicating through whatever medium fails to provide the necessary body language we as human rely on so extensively. Meaning is lost through these messages, as well. How often do people become enraged because they could not interpret a text's sarcasm? Far too often. It is artificial. It does not provide individuals with a full picture. And so, it is imperative to make real in the flesh interactions worthwhile.
The problem is, if you really want to be with someone and enjoy their company, then why act closed off to them? Yes, this is OK in casual environments but it's important to remember to listen especially if the other is in need or is simply looking to spend quality time with you.
When we listen to respond solely we are neglecting to let the other individual fully express themselves. Responding only shows we care about our own input rather than reflecting upon what they say.
Active listening promotes quality conversations and permits individuals to become closer through an extended understanding. Not everyone can perfect this and it not the expectation for such to be achieved; however, it is worth noting that people should attempt to practice at points through their lives especially to those they deem important.
We all need to be heard, we all matter, and we all are human. Being human demands we are social beings destined to care for the needs of others and our own. In order to establish close connections and valuable relationships, listening allows individuals to do so.
Remember to always to try to have fun with those you care about. Enjoy the time as it lasts and look to maintain those strong bonds moving forward. Society may be moving digitally but never fail to remember the importance of pure physical human interaction through speaking.
It does not have to every day or every single time. Once in awhile, simply put the phone down. Once in awhile, simply turn off your response reflex and just listen. You may be pleasantly surprised to see what aspires afterward.
