"Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better." - Dr. Steve Maraboli
Whether it's relationships, job opportunities, or ideas you propose, we have all dealt with the scary response of "no." Your heart drops to your stomach and your head becomes filled with questions, wondering why you weren't good enough. It's a weird feeling, rejection. You feel like you put your heart out on the line, you gave the best version of yourself, and yet, it's not good enough. As Dita Von Tesse once said, "You could be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be someone who hates peaches."
I believe there is a reason for everything. I believe that by the time your 80 years old, sitting wherever you're sitting, you are where you are meant to be. Everything that happened in your life led you to the person you finally grew to be, each experience becoming a building block in the creation of your unique self. Has there ever been a moment you look back on where you think, Man, I'm glad that didn't work out? I have had more than one of those, and I think that's important to remember every time you are faced with rejection.
It's not that you're not good enough, it's that you are not the right fit at this moment. Sound a little better? I remember my first job that I applied to where I got a response of, "We have gone with other candidates." Man, was that a slap in the face. Growing up, I was used to always being accepted, whether it be sports or friends. Then you graduate into the real world and realize life isn't quite as nice. But, that's not always a bad thing. Looking back, there are now multiple jobs I have not gotten that have led me to a position that I eventually loved and was grateful my path guided me to the opportunity.
Denial can not only lead to better circumstances, but it can create a stronger version of yourself. Which is never a bad thing. It gives you the chance to learn how to control your emotions in times of chaos. So, you have been rejected. You now have two options: Fill your mind with negative emotions of self-pity and frustration or keep pursuing your goal. Instead of letting the ego get in the way with, Well why wouldn't they want me?! Instead, figure out your next plan of action. What is your ultimate goal? There is more than one path to take, just because one road is blocked doesn't mean you need to turn around and go home. Find a different route.
Life doesn't always work out the way we think we want it to, it's best to learn how to go with the flow of what the universe throws at you. I noticed how much happier my well-being was when I figured out I can't control everything. I realized that life will have its many ups and downs & it's all about your reaction to the situation. Your reality is your perception. The first moments of rejection are always the hardest, so feel offended for a moment, then pick your head up, realign your priorities, and execute a new plan. Soon, you will be rewarded. And all your hard work and perseverance will have you feeling strong and proud.
