Why is everyone in such a hurry for their “first time”? Maybe saying everyone is a bit of an over exaggeration, but it seems like a lot of young people these days, more than back when I was younger, are just in such a hurry to have sex. Why? If you ask me, I think we should all wait.
Waiting to have sex has such a negative stigma around it. Again I pose the question, Why? What is so bad about saving yourself or simply just waiting for the one person you love and know you’ll be with forever? Absolutely nothing. Waiting to have sex also does not mean that you have to be affiliated with or practice any certain religion.
They say hind sight is a bitch, and I guess that is why I find myself sitting here, writing this particular article. Waiting to have sex is something I certainly wish I would have done. I thought I was in love, and I thought the guy loved me back, and that there was a real chance for us, and boy oh boy I could not have been more wrong. Sex was just that, sex. The physical act of penetration. And let me tell you, that is definitely NOT all that it should be. Sex should take place when both parties have emotional connections, not just because you're attracted to each other. You're sharing parts of yourself so private, and why would you want just anyone to see them?
But I see that now. There is so much more to a healthy relationship, that just makes sex so much better. Respecting each other beyond the bedroom, and showing each other you love one another in other ways no matter how big or small, enhances the quality time in the bedroom. Trusting each other, and loving each other through the good and bad times. The chemistry and connection that two people work on building together for months on end, enhances the love in the bedroom as well. Sex should be a decision between two consenting adults, that have more feelings for each other than a simple physical attraction. And to me, this makes the “first time” better than any one night stand for physical attraction.
Sex should not be something that we just go all willy-nilly and share with everyone. I mean if you do, then OK too, that’s your choice, but do not try to influence others to do the same. When someone says they are waiting for the right person, respect that rather than laughing in their face about it. When someone says they’re waiting for their special someone, don’t tell them they’re going to die a virgin, or ask how old they are and act surprised when they tell you. It’s their choice, just as sleeping with whoever you please may be yours.
We as humans have the amazing ability to express our love for each other in more than just words, and we should not take advantage of that. We, as men and women, need to respect ourselves, our bodies, our emotions, and our values enough to say that waiting is the choice I make, or do not make. But sex is and should always be a choice.
My advice, if you’re unsure, always, always, ALWAYS, just wait. Wait until your feelings for the other person have become concrete, as well as their feelings for you. Do not do something with someone just because you feel like you have to, or you feel like that’s what they want, or you feel like you’ll disappoint. Because if your partner makes you feel any of those things for simply wanting to wait, then it’s probably not someone you should be sharing something so intimate with. The right person will not care how long they wait. Period.
