Why It's Important To Love Yourself

Why It's Important To Love Yourself

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In life, we are our harshest critics. Most of us are more willing to believe the negative statements thrown at us than the positive ones because we're conditioned into thinking that no matter what we do, there is still a better version of ourselves out there. The pressures to fit in are great and we try to emulate what we see around us and reflect those ideas onto ourselves. What we tend to overlook is that the one person that has to be happy with you, is you.

Constantly striving to be better is ambitious and wonderful, but we have to realize that even if we come up short of what we dream, we are still great the way we are. Instead of looking at yourself and thinking of all the things that could be better, think about the great you've already done and how wonderful you already are, and build onto those ideas. Without a steady stream of self-worth, we become workaholics--constantly working on our careers. our bodies, or any other aspect of ourselves without appreciating what we have. As a result, we lose sight of what's important--both to us and around us.

Think about the people you admire the most. Are they the people who constantly put themselves down, count themselves out and worry too much? No. They are the people who seem happy with themselves, and that confidence inspires trust and admiration from the people around them. Think about it, have you ever had no idea what you were talking about but tried to seem smart and because you sounded like you knew what you were talking about people believed you? If you act like you're great, people around you tend to think so also. A good sense of charisma can get you far in life because those who surround you feel like they can trust you because you trust yourself.

I know we live in a world where competition is everything and fitting in is a must, but try to look past that and make the best of the cards you were dealt. Always keep in the back of your mind that while we improve, that desire for improvement can't dominate our lives. Be happy with yourself--even if it's forced at first--and see how others respond to you, how they are drawn to you, and how much more likely you are to see your own worth.

Confidence is sexy and happiness is contagious. It's a lesson all of us can learn from.


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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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The 14th was hard but the 15 was pretty cool.

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I previously wrote an article titled "Dreading This Day All About Love" writing about my plan for Valentines Day, and lets just say it didn't go as planned. I did eat chocolate but I was just crying like no ones business (probably because break ups are not fun and being alone on Valentines Day after almost 4 years of not being alone just kinda hit me hard). I was supposed to go out with someone on Valentines day but I didn't think it would be fair to go out and me not mentally be their, that wouldn't be fair to him.

So I told him "I really cant do this today I am a mess. Maybe tomorrow I wont be such a mess," (and let me add he was understanding of this and was cool with it, which is something I haven't seen from anyone else I have talked to most would just get pissed off and tell me to figure my crap out and still come out. So that was pretty cool). Plus I got class so I am gonna hit up the crepe shop anyway since I haven't been able to get my weekly crepe due to the snow (for people who don't know Western Washington got hit with a huge snowstorm. Which means I didn't have school and I couldn't have my crepe). He replied "care if I join?" and I said "well you know where I'll be at noon tomorrow" (since that was were the first date happened).


this is a crepe I got from Savor a crepe shop downtown Tacoma

So the 15th came and I was excited for a crepe but also like second date. Getting to the second date threw me for a loop (because honestly I have been on a few first dates and then the second one ever happen ) so I was low key nervous but once we started talking about Bandersnatch it was smooth sailing. I even forgot my phone on the table and this snazzy person grabbed it for me (signs of a cool cat person, just pointing that out). Got some coffee since we were both dying and then just walked around talking.

So yeah my Valentines Day sucked, but let me just say the day after Valentines Day was pretty good. Taking my mind off of stupid things for a bit and just talking about random stuff. This is what I learned, some days might be complete crap, but you never know what the next day will bring ya.

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