Why Every Girl Needs To Take Time For Herself

Why Every Girl Needs To Take Time For Herself

Making "me" time is a must.
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As my second semester of sophomore year is starting and my classes are going at full speed, I can not help but to look at my schedule and cringe a little on the inside. My heart starts racing as I look at all of the social obligations, assignments, due dates, and to do lists all crammed into my tiny day planner. In order to brace myself for the crazy week ahead, I begin frantically searching trying to find room to schedule some much needed "me" time. I made sure to do this because in the past if I did not make time to gather my thoughts, calm down and have fun, my week would end in disaster.

I know some of you can definitely relate to this because today our culture is so fast paced, and judges you on how productive you are each day. People are always rushing around from place to place trying to get things done. Whether in college, when you have sorority or extra-curricular activity commitments and lots of work due for classes, or in the adult world with work deadlines and family commitments, life can seem a bit overwhelming. When trying to get everything done, no matter how old you are, the anxiety never seems to go away. Anxiety seems to have control over us, and as you get older it causes numerous health problems. That is why it is so important to make sure you have time to make for yourself and wind down.

While trying to juggle all of the numerous items listed on our daily to-do lists or all of the deadlines coming up, focus on slowing down and taking your time to do each task effectively. Forget about the fast paced culture and just worry about doing the best that you can. Once you do that, you can not worry about the rest.

Make time to do your favorite things in the middle of all of the crazy. Watch Netflix, eat the Ben and Jerry's, hang out with friends and by doing this I promise you will do better on your assignments and make all the deadlines.

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.
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Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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My Body Is Mine And I Will Do What I Want With It

Nobody is entitled to tell me what I can and cannot have on or do with my body.

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Today, I went and got my second tattoo and my boyfriend of over a year and a half went with me to hold my hand the entire time. I could not thank him enough for being there with me.

To some people, it may not seem like a big deal but this time almost two years ago, I was with a boy who would not allow me to get anything tattooed on my body.

"Allow me."

He told me whenever I talked about getting tattoos how ugly he thought they were and how he didn't want me to ruin my body because he thought I was beautiful and sexy the way I was.

Today, sitting in the tattoo shop with my boyfriend encouraging me throughout the process because he knows how long I've wanted this tattoo, I realized what it's like to have someone who truly supports me through anything by my side. Not someone who only loves me for how I am now, but how I will continue to be in the future.

Thinking back on the whole thing now, it's crazy how much I let people dictate what I did or didn't do. I didn't cut my hair short, I didn't get any piercings, I didn't dye my hair, all because the person who was supposed to support me decided he only loved me for what I had to offer.

To everybody who thinks they're entitled to tell me what I can and can't do to myself, fuck off.

This is my body, nobody else's.

I don't belong to anybody, I don't owe anybody anything.

To tell me what to do is an insecure boy's way of trying to hold some sort of power over me. I don't have to do anything I don't want to and, as the sole owner of my body and mind, I don't care if you don't like something about me. I don't do anything to please anybody else but me. Just because I am with somebody does not mean that a person holds any power over me whatsoever. A relationship is about supporting each other and helping each other flourish into the best version of ourselves.

Tampering someone's growth, telling them that who they want to be is ugly because of what they chose to do with their own damn body is not a relationship. That is toxicity in one of its purest forms. I know a few couples who are like that and it saddens me to know that either of the people within the relationship is refusing to be who they want to be because of their partner. A relationship is about support.

To the boy who made me feel insecure and controlled me in every way he possibly could, I hope you never find another relationship until you can grow up. You manipulated me and controlled me and the way you treated me I still cannot get out of my head. But today I was able to break free of the binds you put on me and modify my body in a way you said would make me ugly. I have never felt more beautiful. To the man who stands beside me and supports me in every decision, I make for myself, thank you for being the rock that helps keep me stable and the extra push I need when I'm scared.

Getting this tattoo was a lot harder than my first because I was scared to be ugly. You helped me realize what a real relationship is and I've never been more grateful for another human. And to all of the girls and guys out there who are denying yourself anything because of what other people say, whether it be clothes or shoes or tattoos or piercings or plastic surgery, anything that you want to do.

Nobody is entitled to your body.

Nobody else lives in your body.

This life is all about making yourself happy.

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