You feel hurt. You feel treated unfairly. More than likely, you feel treated unfairly by someone whom you never suspected would treat you that way. That's why it hurts so much right? So in rebuttal to feeling hurt, we sit around and constantly search for answers to how we could be treated that way. Whether it was intentional or unintentional, you wonder if it was a reflection of your character firing back at you or theirs? It's hard to deal with. With everything you do, you're wondering why and whether you actually deserved it or not. But you can't ask them, right? Because you're holding out on them with all the pride you have so you don't look like a victim. We get this surge of anger, and we don't at all want to approach this person(s) and simply confront the issue. No, we just want to let all of that pent up anger and remorse simmer inside of us and constantly think about how ticked off we are. How dumb is that? But it's human nature, and, as humans, that's what we naturally do.

Now we are going to complain about how they hurt us, how they did it and why we think they did. Which the reasoning for that is usually something to the effect of "because they're a piece of crap." Then we look for every flaw and every past mistake they've got to make us feel better. And we want people to totally agree with us about how much they suck and tell us that we're "better than them anyway." Our friends and family are there for us and listen to us complain about the situation for days on end. They take every step they see necessary to try and calm us down. They want us to feel better when we're crying about it. They want to take our side and agree with us when we're angry about it. And while we're spending our time upset about what happened to us, they're spending their time trying to make us better.

So think about how weird it is that we spend all of our time dedicated to being sad, mad, hurt, etc. and obsessing over the situation when we don't owe anything to the people who hurt us. We're already hurt in some way by either them as a person, realizing something we may have done wrong, or by the situation that took place itself. So why do we sit around and obsess about that when we have people around who want nothing more than to see us back to our normal selves? They want to see you smile and feel happy and grateful about life again. Not to mention, it probably gets annoying that you tie every conversation topic back to your problem at hand. But they don't care because they care about you.

So as you're spending your time thinking about how to quit being angry and upset, think about someone to whom you do owe something. We owe being happy again to the people who stand by us when we're not happy. You owe your resurfacing smile to your best friend who asked you to come over three nights in a row for frozen pizza and to listen to you complain. You owe that new pep in your step to your mom who came home with your favorite Chinese takeout just to help you feel better. We need to remember that we don't owe all of our time to someone who made us feel hurt. We owe it to ourselves and the people who care about us. So if you can't find the inner strength to pull yourself out of your whiny, moping, feeling sorry for yourself that someone else sucks stage, then do it for the people who stepped in to help put happiness back into your heart. You can't keep letting the thoughts of sadness and spite override the good that so many wonderful people are trying to put back into your life.

So don't feel hurt anymore. Feel happy that when you are hurt, there's an ocean of people waiting to fix it.