What Long Distance Has Taught Me

What Long Distance Has Taught Me

Based on popular belief, you learn a lot.

In life, we learn many different things — whether it's learning to ride a bike or solving a question on a math test or learning from your first heartbreak. These lessons build ourselves into stronger beings, but the one situation in life, when you know you won't have your significant other around a lot, is long distance relationships, better known as an LDR. I've gone through two long distance relationships, but the most recent was the best of all. When a person thinks of long distance, they think of long Skype calls and constantly checking their phones to see if they received a text or phone call from their other half.

My boyfriend and I didn't meet over the Internet because we (somewhat) knew each other from high school and after a few years of no contact, we both decided to try a relationship. Almost two years later, we are still together and happier than we could ever be. Here is what long distance has taught me, and what it can teach you.

Long distance has taught me patient. Believe it or not, but the one who is farther from you will be missing you the most and wanting to see you at this very moment. My boyfriend was a Marine, and it was stressful. Although I was used to my previous long distance boyfriend giving me constant attention, there was a completely new world I have yet to discover. The military wasn't just part of his life, but it ran it too. Patience taught me that he would call or text me back when he had the chance, not when it was convenient for me. It also taught me that no matter what, to always have hope and faith in the distance, no matter how much either one of us conjured the thought of giving up.

Long distance taught me hope. Dating military can be a frightening experience, I won't deny that, but it can be rewarding as well. Rewarding because you have a boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé, or husband/wife, risking their life and sacrificing themselves for their country. Hope taught me to look positively at the future and not burden the things your significant other has to offer. It has also taught me to look at the bright side and not always worry.

Long distance taught me faith and loyalty. Have faith and you shall prosper. Faith taught me not to look at the negatives or cons of a long distance relationship, but to trust in my long distance partner and listen to his concerns and allow myself to believe that he's not being unfaithful. Loyalty taught me to trust him and get to know him as often as possible, even if we weren't able to talk for long periods. Now trust me, in the military, not talking for long periods is quite normal. It might be normal for other types of long distance relationships as well. Loyalty taught me to wholeheartedly dedicate myself to the relationship. No matter how much I missed him, or wanted some form of affectionate contact, I barred myself from using any sort of social media and texted him "I miss you" when I had this feeling.

Long distance has taught me forgiveness. No matter what the struggles might be, or perhaps any missed events, the apologies and understandings must come out of hiding. taught me to be OK with any sort of event, that was acceptable, that occurred that'd prevent us from communicating.

Long distance taught me communication. Yes, communication is a must in long distance relationships, and sometimes the best won't always have great communication. This taught me to be more open and to come out of my shell a little more. This taught me to be open to any problems or emotions that I was feeling. This has brought us closer.

After the distance had ended, he returned back home for good. The final lesson long distance taught me was independence. This distance has taught me that it is OK to be independent and not have to always rely on the other being there. However, when it came to small or big things we were a part of, we expected each other to be there and support us, even if it was in spirit.

Long distance has long been deemed as one adventure that is meant for the strong. If you are strong and able to give long distance a try, then do it. Let long distance teach you lessons that can strengthen yourself and your relationship. Remember, true love always wins.

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Will they finally make it or will they be captured once again?

Mr. Brooks Point of View:

I jolt awake with a searing pain in my leg and hold back a scream as to not wake Rebecca. I look to my left to see her angelic face and notice she is still sleeping. I don't want to wake her but I need to check my wound, so I quietly get out of bed. I gently remove the old bandage from my leg and notice it's not healing but getting worse. It looks infected with yellow puss leaking from my leg. I need to change the bandage so I rip the bottom of my shirt and tie it tightly around my leg. I really need to go to the hospital in order to stop the infection from spreading. I need to wake Rebecca so I go to her side of the bed, lean down, and kiss her passionately on the lips. She slowly wakes up and gazes at me while smiling, "Is that your version of a wake up call?"

"Only for you."

"You can kiss my again if you'd like."

"As you wish." I lean down once again, and our lips connect with such intensity and neither of us pulled away, the kiss only deepened. Until I realized the real reason I woke her, I then pulled away and said, "I could kiss you forever, but we really have to go because my leg is getting worse."

"Yea, and we also need to keep ahead of Justin and his gang." We both get dressed and head out to find the nearest hospital.

Rebecca's Point of View:

I hold up Mr. Brooks as we make our way through the woods and come to a clearing. There's a brook blocking our path, so we have to walk through it. "Be careful, there are many rocks and we don't need you to hurt yourself even more." We track across the brook and, I loose his grip and he falls in the water. He tries to get up but falls once again. "I think I sprained my ankle." I help him to his feet but his pant leg got caught on a sharp rock and ripped a small piece of his jeans off. We carefully walk through the brook to the other side. After what feels like hours we finally reach what looks like a small town and try to find the nearest hospital. We finally reach one and enter through the emergency doors. A nurse quickly assists us and asks, "What happened to him?"

"It's a long story, but he has a bullet wound in his leg that's infected and needs to be attended to as soon as possible." The nurse quickly grabs a wheelchair and takes him back to the emergency ward. I pace in the waiting room to hear the news from the doctor. An hour later the doctor comes out and says, "Mr. Brooks is going to be fine. We surgically removed the bullet from his leg and were able to clean the infection before it was able to spread. You may see him if you'd like."

Justin's Point of View:

After getting all of my members gathered together we head out to find our hostages. One of my members point towards a clearing and find a cabin. I walk though the door to find the smell of freshly burned wood and an unmade bed. "They couldn't have gone far! Split up and look for any tracks or signs of them!" I take a small team with me and spot two sets of footprints which we follow to a clearing. I find a piece of clothing floating in the water and pick it up. "This has to belong to one of them, we're getting closer to finally finding them." I just hope we find them before the boss finds out we lost them.

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Dear ML

But you should have known

I should have known when you would get angry with me when I would lock the car doors.

I should known when you hid me from the world for 6 months because you didn’t want to be seen with me whether you admit it or not.

I should have known when I was embarrassed when I made a mistake because once again, whether you admit it or not, you were laughing at me. I suck at pool and instead of wanting to help me, you laughed and told all of your friends that you didn’t want me on your team because i sucked. You put your ego and need to be “cool” and I was further isolated from you.

I should have known when you refused to want to talk to me on my bad days when i didn’t know who i even was because it was too much and reminded you of her.

I should have known when you ditched me for your friends, gave up our alone time to see them and all the times you knew i didn’t want to be out til late or the times I was not in the mood to see anyone else but you, and still ended up with you and your 5 friends in a cold basement where you sat as far from me as possible.

I should have known when you had a “girl friend” sleepover your house when your parents were away and once again, whether you admit it or not, something more happened.

I should have known when your actions pushed me towards someone who values me more than you.

There were so many signs that I ignored because for once, i let my guard down. I loved you blindly and never saw the little things that I never knew mattered til I was sitting in his car in his friend’s driveway when he said “if you feel awkward, we’ll leave right away” or how he always introduces me as his girlfriend to people who might already know. You’ve harbored so much anger to me and calling me a cheater when you refuse to accept the fact that it was your actions since the day we met that always stayed with me.

You're mad at me for being happy. You're mad because you can't see the fact that you pushed me away. You're mad because you know deep down that you should have known how much love i had in my heart and now you're the one who's bitter and alone.

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