I know my own truth, I am not afraid of it, and I will not omit or change pieces of myself to make you feel more comfortable. (You can quote me on that.)
Are you one of those people who says sorry for everything? And then when people tell you to stop being sorry, you apologize again? Or, perhaps you are always trying to explain yourself to people. Maybe you try justifying that subtweet you posted or why you don't like one of your classmates. Maybe you make excuses for why you didn't do dishes. That groutfit you wore to class? Obviously you can explain!!
If you do any of the above, this article doesn't apply to you.
Nope, this is an appreciation post for all the brave men and women who are unapologetically themselves.
You are the kind of person who wears sweats to class when you feel like it. But you also get super dressed up in an adulting costume when you feel like doing that instead. Makeup? Uhhh ain't nobody got time for that. Who am I trying to impress, anyway? Besides, I'm beautiful. *flips hair* It's hot out? Imma walk around in a sport bra and shorts, or maybe a really super big T-shirt with no pants. I dunno, man, it's whatever you're feeling at the time you know? Sorry if you have guests over or if the window is open... oh well?
There are times a member of the unapologetic populace needs to deal with someone looking for an apology. They might send a text pages long or give you the cold shoulder, waiting to get a rise out of you. I'll be the first to stand up and say an apology should never have to be solicited- if we apologize for something, it's going to be when we know we did something wrong. I know I messed up, I am going to fix whatever it is, I'm holding myself accountable to it. But if someone expects an apology for something you did while you were just doing you, and you succumb to it, what do you end up apologizing for? You're apologizing for being yourself. For doing something you thought was right. For standing for something. Do I sound sassy sometimes when I text you? Probably, but that's how I talk, and I'm not gonna apologize for how I talk.
The world needs to know, don't expect an explanation. I owe no one an explanation for anything. Do I need to justify something? Like hell I do. I am not sorry you forgot about something and assumed I would remind you- do I look like an alarm? Why did I go out with my other group of friends instead of making plans with you? I dunno, because I wanted to? See, the unapologetic type simply doesn't see why we should waster time explaining ourselves- if you don't like something, take it or leave it.
Listen, if you are an apologetic person it's all good! We CAN get along, I promise! But if you're going to come to an unapologetic person with a problem, you need to come with some sort of validation behind what you are saying, AND a solution. If you don't like something I do or say, come to me with a way we can solve it or at least an intention to work it out together. Otherwise, you are simply just whining, and we probably stopped listening, because listening to BS is a waste of time and energy that could be directed at something else.
Mama didn't raise no fool, no m'am, she did not. I know my place in this world, I know where I'm going and how I'm getting there. I know the kind of people who work well with me, and the kind who do not. I am not sorry if you are not in the same place about your own business, but let me do me, and go about it in a manner I please. When you're done wasting energy on the unapologetic people who moved on a long time ago, then we may coexist and be all namaste together, like the mature adults we all are.
