How To Treat A Woman 101

How To Treat A Woman 101

The basics on how to keep your girl.

Our generation was never really taught by the older generation how to treat a woman. A lot of us have seen our parents split up because of numerous reasons such as cheating, neglect, or a lack of a relationship to begin with. Too many young boys have to go through life without the presence of a positive male role model to tell them how to treat a woman; they never had someone to treat them chivalry. All they've seen is the constant disrespect, so how can they treat a woman correctly if they've never seen it?

How do they learn when the music that they listen to tells them that all women should be treated like hoes? That all women are just tools for pleasure. That's not true. If nobody else will tell them, I will. Women are everything. We came into this world through a woman. They have so much wisdom and knowledge and experience that we can't even fathom. They're fragile beings that deal with periods and child bearing. A woman gives up their whole life to retain their partner’s name, leaves their families, gives up their time and love, yet they don't even get the respect they deserve. I jut don't get it. They deserve the world.

Growing up, my father was semi in my life. My parents were together for roughly 20 years before they divorced. My dad wasn't a bad dad, I love him, but I don't think he did everything right or treated my mom the way she deserved. See, I have a strong independent mother and I look at her with respect and even if my dad really didn't teach me, I taught myself.

I've always been the hopeless romantic. I love those books where the guy does everything in his power to get the girl. I love seeing a girl smile. A girl’s smile has to be one of the most precious things you can ever see. I love flowers, cute picnics, sappy things, teddy bears. Everything. I get called soft or a sweetheart by male peers but I don't mind because I was raised correctly. See, my mother taught me to hold a door open for women. My mother taught me that as a man, I should walk on the outside of the road and the woman on the inside so that in case a car got to close the woman would be safe. See my mother taught me, that I shouldn't be the reason why a girl cried and if I was that I better bust my ass to make everything right. My mother taught me this, even in the absence of my father. I wanted to become that ideal man. I wanted my significant other, whoever she may be, to be so giddy and happy because of me.

Guys, let me lay some things to rest. There are a lot of promiscuous women out there, yes, but taking advantage of them is not the right thing to do. Those girls aren't looking for a good time all the time; I bet you most of them, if not all, are just looking for the love they deserve, but have never experienced. The same love that a male role model has never shown them. Be that man. Be that one guy that's different from all the rest and treats her with respect. You guys all want the dimes, but all the dimes are in disguise. Every girl is a dime if you know how to extract her potential.

Treating a woman correctly isn’t that difficult:

1. You have to treat her like you’re still trying to get her.

That means consistency. You can’t talk and entertain her one day, and then ignore her the next. If you are going to try putting forth the effort, then give it your all. Half-assing is not going to get you anywhere in life.

2. You need to build up her trust.

Whether it is a friendship or a relationship, all bonds are built on trust. If you have no trust, then you have nothing. You have to be patient because most likely some guy ruined the girl and she has developed trust issues. Even if that is not the case, building trust takes time. You can’t just demand it and get frustrated when it isn’t given to you. How would you feel if a stranger asked you for one hundred dollars and they’ll pay you back? It makes you skeptical, correct? Because you can’t just trust somebody off their word right off the back because, remember, there has always been someone before that has tried.You can’t just tell someone to trust you, you have to back it up with actions and give them a reason to trust you.

3. Develop chivalry and learn to take care of her and not advantage of her.

Open her door for her, buy her flowers, or just ask her how her day was. Do the little things. Build a healthy foundation. Communicate with her, tell her about herself. Get to know her on a more intimate level and stop letting sex be your number one priority. Don’t ever hurt her intentionally. I cannot say never hurt her because that’s impossible, but damn it clean any tears that you have caused. If you guys are ever arguing, apologize. Even if you’re right, apologize to make it better. It is all about compromise. Sometimes you have to put your pride on the side because it will get in the way and ruin your relationship.

4. Treat her with respect.

Treat her the same way you would treat your mother, or the way you would want another man to treat your daughter. Never lie to her. I mean you’re not going to get away with it anyway because women network and they have super human senses and they find EVERYTHING out. Just remain honest with her at all times. The faster you learn that, the easier your life will be. Make her happy.

5. Listen. Listen. Listen.

You have to pay attention and listen because she has a lot going on in her life and she doesn’t need the added stress of a boyfriend, yet she deals with you anyway; so at least give her a place of comfort. Be her haven. Let her know that even if the world is against her, you will always be by her side.

6. Tell her she is beautiful.

Tell her that a thousand times because she will never get tired of hearing it. Appreciate her and everything she does. Even if you guys don’t talk all day, never miss a day to tell her good morning or good night. Even when she is mad at you, never let her go to sleep upset with you and thinking you don’t care. If you ignore her just know you are teaching her she doesn’t need you in her life.

Be decisive. Take initiative. Make plans, take her on dates. DO NOT be like everyone else. Be yourself. Know who you are and make sure you be a man and take charge. Don’t say “I don’t care we can do whatever you want to” that doesn’t cut it. Be faithful. Infidelity is a growing problem in our generation, don’t fall victim to it. No matter if another girl is prettier or smarter than your girl, she will never be better. The grass always looks greener on the other side, you never know what you have until it is gone. Don’t make that mistake and don’t mess her up like that because you weren’t man enough to retain your urges or at least break it off with her. There are no excuses. To conclude, you should protect her like a daughter, love her like a wife, and respect her like she is your mother. If you treat your girl correctly, you will never have to worry about her wanting anybody else. Learning how to treat a woman isn’t hard you just have to put forth the effort to learn how to.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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Thanks To The Jonas Brothers, I Never Regret Not Dating A Teenage Boy

Ya'll made it drama free.


All thanks to three guys from New Jersey, I never regret not having a boyfriend in Middle or High School. I started listening to the Jonas Brothers when I was in 6th grade. I was awkward, I wanted to fit in simply because I was the minority in my mostly white school district. I also wanted to feel more independent since I was reaching the ripe age of 13.

Eventually, certain things came to me where I was able to gain that independence. I had no problem talking to certain adults simply because I would just be myself, and they would have absolutely no issue with it. Then came Nick, Kevin, and Joe. They already had one album out called 'It's About Time', and too contrary belief became a classic for them to date. Eventually, as they made their approach to the Disney Channel, their popularity increased more and more. Soon enough, everyone knew of them. Even if they didn't even listen to their music, they still knew about them.

I was what you called the stereotypical 'fangirl.' I was overly protective of them whenever I would hear any guy in school call them 'gay' 'ugly' or 'untalented'. In fact, I'm very thankful that social media was not as big yet. I could not imagine going off as much as I would imagine. But there were other ways to vent. I still had some of my friends relate, but even with that, a good portion of them would tell me to stop being obsessed with them. But that only allowed my obsession to grow.

Everything that they did was a news update for me. I had to keep up with them ALL the time, no matter what the condition was. I had to know what they were doing every single day. Okay, not to a point of stalking but you get the picture. My point is that no other boy mattered at the time other than them. Joe was my favorite one so I had to keep up with him the most. Especially when he was dating someone. Yes, I will admit that some of Joe's exes were not my favorite, yet I shipped the hell out of the other ones. But I will say now that as a grown woman I am no longer interfering with his relationship. I was always wondering what it would be like to even go on a date around that age.

I never went on one considering how weird teenage boys truly are. Some of them want a girlfriend simply just to have one, and others just had their hormones go all nuts. The reason why I wasn't heavy on dating during that time was simply that I was trying to focus on myself and who I truly was. I did not want to deal with any of the drama that came with a relationship because I had a lot more than I needed to worry about.

Yes, did I want a guy that I thought was hot to date me of course! But it turns out looking back on it, I'm grateful that I decided to not give him the time of day. Considering that nowadays he's not exactly the right person to be with anyway. Even in general, I'm glad I never had to worry about fighting with another girl about another guy. A total complete waste of time, and not worth sacrificing anything.

I realized that there was so much more to life than just having a guy like you. Even if you did get those weird feelings every time he was around. Also if it was the other way around where a guy liked you, and you just didn't like him back. What a complicated web the teenage years hold. But back to the Jo-Bros. I'm grateful that these guys were in my life because it distracted me from the realities of how teenage boys truly are. You know, the ones that don't sing to you and tell you-you're beautiful every five seconds.

I'm grateful for all the memories that I had with these guys, especially making endless books and PowerPoint presentations on why I loved them so much. Although I'll still keep up with them once in a blue moon, it doesn't mean that I'll forget my first love. Just because I'm not in a room where they've plastered all over the walls anymore, doesn't mean that I didn't cherish those times when I would beg my mom to get me the latest teen magazine. If they were not in it, I didn't want it! Plain and simple everyone remembers their first teen crush. But I'm grateful that these three brothers allowed me to not get distracted by the teen dating scene. Also, I think it helped out my father as well.

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