Why are you putting yourself down and believing that you have failed? Yes, life is full of failed attempts and failures but that is what life is made of. You make the best of those failures and you learn from them. I have this one friend who confides in me and most of the time it's about them not believing in themselves and believing that they have failed. I wanna say to that friend but also to anyone who is reading it don't believe or think that you always fail at something and if you do fail don't put yourself down about it or stop trying!
We now live in a world where people believe they have to be perfect. Where if they have one tiny flaw they fail at everything. Children now grow up and have high expectations either from themselves, from their parents, or from society. These high expectations are never a good thing. If they are too high and aren't achievable then theoretically these children have already failed before they even tried and realized they failed. Why are expectations becoming too high for people to achieve?
From my own view I don't believe that parents or society should put high expectations on children or other people. What happened to when parents were happy with whatever their kids brought home at the end of the day like a simple drawing? When did it change to "I'm sorry but this isn't the best I believe you can do. Do it better next time." Or as always expectations are even higher in a family with more than one child. The oldest only has their parents to live up to while the younger siblings have to live up to each other. There is so much pressure so no wonder so many people believe they fail.
I used to tell my friends to just stop stressing and to just give up the fact that they always think they fail. I tried telling myself that too when I would think I fail at everything. I now realize that that was the wrong advice to give someone. To tell them to stop that is a waste of your breath and time to help because a person who always believes they fail will always believe that until they prove it to themselves that they do not fail. A piece of advice to everyone who believes they fail or to people who have friends like that is to never give up and hang in there. I know that is something cliché to say but it is true and it's the only thing that really works.
When you believe that you have failed pick yourself back up. In history, there has been many great people such as J.K. Rowlings, Bill Gates, Henry Ford, Walt Disney, and many did not succeed the first time, second time or even the 12th time in J.K. Rowlings case. It took the 13th time for Rowling to submit her works to a publishing company that wasn't even that big for her work to be published and even then it wasn't that great. However, now she is a loved author who created one of the best series. What would have happened if her or any of the other people in history stopped after the first time they "failed"?
Follow by those examples or others next time you or someone you knows believes they have failed and knock themselves over about it and are giving up. Also remember all the pressures and expectations around us each and everyday mean nothing. Do what you feel and want and live up to whatever you want to be.
