For The Girl Who's Lonely During Cuffing Season

To The Girl Feeling Especially Lonely At Night This Cuffing Season

It's officially cuffing season and you're not cuffed by anything let alone a bae.


To The Girl Who Is Lonely At Night,

I think I can speak for females everywhere when I say WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE. We've all felt that pang of loneliness around 11:30 pm. It doesn't help that literally every single one of your friends is in a committed relationship or has a boo-thing of some sorts. To make matters worse, all you ever see on social media are posts of people with their significant other with sappy captions or, even worse than that, engagement announcements. They're everywhere these days! Like congrats but please hmu with one of your groomsmen.

It's officially cuffing season and you're not cuffed by anything let alone a bae. You can't help but wonder, what the heck am I doing wrong?

It stinks because all your happily committed friends are always like, "the right person will come along eventually," or, even better, "God is saving someone really special for you and the time isn't right yet." Well, God, buddy, please let's hurry this special someone up already! It's only going to go downhill from here (probably) and I don't know if you've noticed but I am extremely impatient.

If you're like me, once in a while you will have a peak where a guy or two will show interest in you and for a moment, you'll be what today's society calls "talking." Not dating. Talking. And talking gets you nowhere. You talk and talk and talk but you never talk about what you guys are or what you want from ~whatever~ you guys are doing. Then, once it's over, it hurts that much more because most of the time, you don't know what you did wrong if they break it off with you.

Bumble, Tinder, Farmers Only, whatever you're on doesn't really help the situation since those apps are traditionally used for recreational hook-ups and not serious inquires. For the few people who have found relationships out of these dating apps, please be a bro and share your secrets!

The girl who's lonely at night isn't ugly, fat, stupid, or weird. She's a beautiful, intelligent, unique woman who is never seen for what she has to offer. She wants to have conversations with someone and have them listen to her. She wants to laugh at bad puns and make mac n' cheese and watch Big Mouth in bed. She wants to be noticed instead of constantly being invisible when she goes out with friends. And she wants to be noticed by someone she is attracted to--but that is a once in a lifetime moment for a girl like her and who's to say if it'll work out?

But who cares? Being alone at night means more space for you, you don't have to think about what you look like in that moment in time, and it's appropriate to eat sour cream and onion chips while watching a full season of Guy's Grocery Games. So really, in hindsight, there are perks to it!

So to one lonely girl to another, he's out there. I know, we hate hearing that. Waiting sucks. Everything seems like it just will never fall into place but it will. Just never lose who you are as a person. If a guy or a girl or whoever you're into doesn't like you back, then that is their loss. For now, when you feel lonely at night, take advantage of it because soon you'll probably be sharing with another human body and that means less space for you to spread out.


Another girl who is lonely at night (and eats sour cream and onion chips in bed)

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To Those Who Love Someone With A Mental Illness, Thank You

I get it, sometimes I don't know where my feelings are coming from either.


Living with a mental illness has caused more ups and downs in my relationships than I'd like to admit. I know it isn't easy for someone to watch my emotions, personality or demeanor completely change, sometimes at the drop of a hat. Some days I have a hard time getting out of bed, other days I stay up the whole night, never getting an ounce of sleep. I tend to seclude myself from friend and family activities, thinking they wouldn't even want me in their presence, to begin with. I find comfort in hiding away in my room, convincing myself that this is where everyone would rather me be. On more days than not, I contemplate my worth as a human. Am I even good enough to have loved ones in my life as I do?

I say a lot of things I don't mean. I get way too wound up and make a wrong move or make a wrong decision. I read text messages the wrong way and assume the worst. A simple "ok" is enough to make me contemplate whether or not you hate me. I always realize later that what I did was irrational, only making me feel worse. I feel for those who have to deal with my emotions on a daily basis, I really do. I get mad and sad sometimes when my loved ones just simply do not understand where my feelings are coming from. I get it, sometimes I don't know where my feelings are coming from either.

But the thing is, no matter how I feel, I always know that someone, somewhere, loves me and cares about me. It is something I often forget at the moment, but I'm constantly being reminded whether it be someone actually telling me they love me or a kind gesture that doesn't require words.

To all of those who support me, thank you for being here. I may not say it often, but I really do mean it. Even when I try to push help away, my loved ones seem to realize that I do need someone there. I need a shoulder to cry on, someone to vent to, or just someone to simply just sit in the room with. Thank you for being my rock through it all. Though you may not understand where my feelings come from, you take the time to hear me out and you accept them, talk about them, and sometimes relate to them. It makes me feel like I am not alone in this everyday struggle with my mind. You are what makes me feel normal. Thank you for staying up past your bedtime to make sure I'm okay, for late night phone calls, and for showing up when I need it most. Thank you for pushing me to seek help from a professional and for making it known that it is okay to see a therapist.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you for your support, patience, and understanding. You make me feel loved and wanted and that is all I could ask for.

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