Throughout these last few months of dealing with my mom's cancer, I have learned so much. With these steps, you will be able to help out your parent/loved one as much as possible.
1. Be grateful and worry about now rather than the future.
The one thing I struggled with the most was constantly worrying about my mom's future health condition and whether she was going to live through the cancer or not. It is something I struggle with every day. Looking at her made me sad because in my mind, there was this terrible disease growing rapidly throughout her body. But I am slowly learning to live for now and to be grateful for the life she has now and how well the treatment is going for her so far.
2. Step up to the plate.
The second I heard the words “it's cancer” was when I knew everything in our lives would be changed forever. I knew that I had to step up to the plate to be able to take care of my mom through this tough time. I knew it was time to grow up and get my life together.
3. Be responsible.
Becoming more responsible was more of a challenge and still is now. I have to keep my grades good, keep up with school activities, work, learn how to spend my money wisely and take care of my mom all at the same time along with trying to have a social life. Responsibility is very hard but is a necessity.
4. Patience is key.
Waiting for test results and doctors appointments was very hard for me. I just wanted to know everything right away. I also just want my mom to get better as soon as possible! So patience for me was hard to manage but I had to do what was best for my mother.
5. Be supportive.
Without support, your loved one most likely won’t be able to get through this tough time. I am by my mother's side through everything and she knows that if she ever needs love,support, or even just some company, I will come home right away.
6. Comfort them during hard times.
Times are going to get very rough during the cancer treatment. Make sure your loved one has lots of comfort from not just you but everyone around her. Even a simple hug will do.
7. Make them laugh.
Laughter cures everything. It’s as simple as that.
8. Call often and go visit.
Sitting at home sick all day must get very lonely. A simple phone call or visit could brighten their day.
9. Don't make it all about the cancer.
When visiting or calling them, don’t only talk about the cancer. I think they understand their diagnosis. Just ask them how their day is, how they are feeling, what they did today, etc.
10. Stay positive.
Both you and the one with cancer have to stay positive. You won’t be able to get through this tough time without positivity. Stay strong and stay positive for your loved one.
Based off of personal experience, if you follow these tips, you will be able to be the best person you can be and do as much as you can for your parent/loved one.
