To Those Who Are Looking For Closure

To Those Who Are Looking For Closure

You know how hard it can be to wonder if a chapter in your life is really over.
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This is for the ones who feel stuck with unanswered questions. Who are dealing with a situation in their lives that has reached a point of stagnation, the kind that disturbs your peace and seems to disrupt the balance in your life. For the ones who are waiting. Waiting for a change, waiting for movement, for an answer…for something they wish was within their control.

Maybe it’s a romantic interest leaving you confused about the status of your relationship. Maybe it has to do with a falling-out with a friend. Whatever your situation, you know how hard it can be to wonder if a chapter in your life is really over. Maybe you feel as though you’re looking for some kind of sign that it’s okay to move on even if it means facing the unknown. Maybe you’re wondering what the outcome will be. You can feel something important to you coming to an end and—or you believe it already has come to an end—but without some physical form of finalization, it can seem totally foggy and confusing.

Never getting emotional closure from people or events of the past is how people wind up with regrets. You know this. I know this. I can think of a few regrets myself about my own past. And, just recently, some friends (I think?) I met in college, with whom I felt I’d left things in a weird state, all but disappeared from my life, and I find myself wishing I’d gotten closure, wishing I’d told them what they needed to hear, wishing I’d made right what I felt needed to be made right.

Here is what I can tell you: Good for you for questioning things, for not wanting to let things stagnate and become complacent. It means you’re figuring out what’s best for you, what you deserve and what you need to live a fulfilling life. The unfortunate part is, getting the closure and the answers you are looking for is extremely rare. Many relationships end without their proper closure, and very few difficult situations ever get formally resolved. We are all confronted with big changes in life, and they are almost never easy. The best way you can deal with a lack of closure is just to step back and take each day as it comes, without too much judgment or expectation. Let your thoughts on the subject come and go and try not to dwell too much on your questions. I’m working on this myself right now. You’ve got to try and stay immersed in the things that are most meaningful to you to give your heart and mind a break. It may not happen all at once, but I promise there will come times when everything starts to make a little more sense.

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A Day In The Life Of A Girl Who Struggles With Anxiety

Anxiety affects different people in different ways, and does not define who they are.
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Anxiety sucks. You never know when you'll feel it but, when you do, you TRULY feel it. You may not know this, but just because it's bad at one point and some people have extreme cases, it doesn't have to be the same for everyone. Anxiety is a disorder that effects different people in different ways, and does not define who they are. Here's what my daily routine looks like in a nutshell.

I wake up, eat, go to class, do homework...just average stuff. Every day goes on as normal, or as normal as it gets. What you don't see is that I'm constantly questioning myself and overthinking the simplest of actions.

Oftentimes, I struggle to hold a conversation with someone I'm not very familiar with because I'm scared I'll say the wrong thing that'll come back and bite me in the ass, or that the other person is not genuine and that they're gonna go behind my back and say nasty things about me.

Now I know that other people's behavior doesn't have any control over how I live my life, but I'm not going to deny that it hurts me emotionally. In fact, I use that emotional pain as motivation to go out and do my best. The best revenge in life is success. If someone else feels intimidated by how well I'm doing, then I know I'm doing something right.

But to make difficult situations slightly more bearable, I surround myself with close friends and others that I trust will have my best interest in the event something goes awry. Generally though, everything works itself out without calling for desperate measures.

Contrary to popular belief, living with anxiety doesn't mean that a person is constantly living through a panic time. A few times I may experience panic attacks, but they're usually mild and go away in time. My anxiety doesn't interrupt my daily life and doesn't keep me from doing the things I love.

Whenever it starts to, I always remind myself that everything happens for a reason and just because I don't feel well in one moment, doesn't mean that I'm always going to feel that way. It usually subsides rather quickly.

I am not defined by my anxiety, and in fact having anxiety helps me be more aware of my surroundings and to be more considerate of others. Whenever someone else has an issue, I will listen to them and help them calm down. My experience allows me to be more empathetic towards people and to be of assistance to them in ways others cannot. Anxiety attacks are really uncomfortable, but they don't go on endlessly. Like Axl Rose sings, "Nothing lasts forever in the cold November rain".


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You Pledged To Never Do Drugs But Now Addiction Is In The Air

This generations wave of addicts
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Can I hit that? Is that a juul? Oh my gosh, that's so cool! Can I hit that?

Do you remember the time you pledged to never do drugs in elementary school? Or maybe that time in middle school when they had the D.A.R.E assembly? You swore you would never get involved with drugs because they showed you a lung that was black from smoking cigarettes. You have seen the ads about vaping, how we think that big tobacco companies are not aiming towards kids even though they have flavors like bubblegum, cotton candy and any kind of fruits you can name.

It is often overlooked. We don't really think there is a problem, but there is. Every party is filled with clouds, the smell of sweetness is in the air. The urge to hit someone's juul is crawling around the room. It's no wonder why sickness spreads so fast on college campuses. If you have a juul, vape, or suorin, or whatever device that can blow out smoke -- you know what I mean. And not to mention all the drunk sorority girls who basically beg to get a hit. "Can I hit that?"

The addiction is literally in the air.

I never even knew what a juul or suorin was until college. I knew what vapes were but I thought they were harmless.

These things that are supposed to help people with their nicotine addiction ultimately started a whole new wave of addicts.

It's hard to resist -- I get it. Everyone around you is doing it and you think, "What is the harm in trying it once?" You start learning little tricks, how to french and ghost inhale, how to do O's, and suddenly you find yourself investing in one of these devices.

And it's not cheap. Especially if you're illegally buying it from smoke shops who don't I.D

You begin investing in these devices, constantly hitting it every so often, you don't even realize you're getting addicted. You're even addicted to the motions of putting the device to your mouth.

And of course, it's all fun and games until your nicotine level goes from a 3 to a 50. It is easy to get addicted and it seems completely harmless because there are no studies on what the long-term effects of these have.

This generation's problem is the wave of vaporized smoking devices. If you have not been a part of this wave -- you are in good standing.

If you are a part of the majority who is already addicted, there is hope for you!

It is easier said than done, but think about it. Juul pods cost a crap ton, for what, only 4? You know those go by extremely fast -- especially if you bring that to a party. Vapes itself range from $50-$300, that is if you actually get a nice one. Plus on top of that, you pay $20 for juice that burns your mouth if it leaks.

Imagine how much money you can be saving when you stop feeding your addiction.

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