Something has happened to us in the past. Whether it was family related, a past relationship, or our own personal monsters, we have put up walls. These walls are put up to help protect ourselves. So before dating us, here are a few things you need to know.

1. It has nothing to do with you specifically

It isn’t your fault. You haven’t done anything to us to make us put these walls up. These were already here so do not ever blame yourself.

2. We don’t really want to talk about it

Whatever the reason was that made us put our walls up, we don’t really want to talk about it. Sometimes it might come up and we will be willing to talk about it, but other times we’d rather pretend it doesn’t exist.

3. We have some trust issues

Not going to lie, we have trust issues. Again, not your fault, but it is something you should know about us. Words are good to hear, but we need you to prove the words you are saying to us.

4. It is a defense mechanism

We snap quickly sometimes or jump to wrong conclusions. We don’t mean to, but we have been wronged before. We try and protect ourselves, but by using this defense mechanism we accidentally pick fights that really don’t need to happen. Sorry!

5. It’ll take some time to break down our walls

Without a doubt, we won’t let our walls down within a couple of days. It’ll take us a good amount of time. But I do promise, they can be broken. If you are willing to take a little time on us, it’ll pay off in the long run.