Crashing and Surviving

Crashing and Surviving

This isn't the glamorous Gossip Girl kind of accident.

A week before midterms, a week after failing my license exam for the second time, and a morning I spent looking pretty. It was a meaningless, snowy morning that turned into a blood-stained coat, a car's funeral, and my favorite tights in the trash.

It was the usual morning. I was ready early, trying to brush the snow off of the car window, my brother was running late. My brother and I ventured to the high school (which was about 10 minutes away from our home) at 7:20 a.m. As we reached the end of the road, an uphill climb, we slid through the intersection. I looked to my right but by then it was too late- the SUV rammed into my door. Taylor Swift's Out of the Woods screamed into my ears in slow motion as we spun across the intersection. I can remember yelling "My side!" repetitively and trying not to cry as I heard "Are you okay, Cameron?" I glanced over and noticed a familiar face. That familiar face was in the other car. I refused, in full panic mode, to exit the car because it required me to move over broken glass. I did anyway as my brother guided me out while I was searching for my phone.

Luckily enough, we were surrounded by houses and an old man let us use his phone to call our mom to let her know we had been in an accident. Three hours, two x-rays, an ambulance ride, and a text from the boy that had lovingly ignored me for so long, I had broken my shoulder and our car was toast.

The month following, I had lost the use of my right shoulder until it healed enough to be removed from my sling. I had post-traumatic stress consistently for three weeks, and sporadically up until this past summer. I relived my accident in class, cried myself to sleep, and felt a radiating pain that no longer existed. I was terrified in cars and I consistently pretended I had a brake on my side of the car when I got uncomfortable. I was anxious and if I didn't have to be in a car, I didn't go.

Me rocking my sling as well as bed head.

I lived in the school therapist's office as well as guidance. I relied on other people to uplift and breathe life back into the one that felt crushed. But through time, I recovered mentally and physically. I became a more careful driver, more alert, and my cautious nature restored. It's okay to go slow when you're nervous. It's okay if a car is further away, never turn or cross when you don't know if you'll make it. If someone you're with is driving erratically, find a close location and tell them you don't feel safe. Driving isn't a game and it isn't a life lesson. Never push yourself to do uncomfortable things when you're driving. If you're scared, don't do it.

The movies always glamorized car crashes or made the characters always brush them off. I thought it would be no big deal, just another accident. It wasn't an accident, it was the beginning of a life change.

Never feel guilty for feeling weak after an accident or mistake. Use your resources of people and doctors. Seek help. Don't give up. It's okay to be shaken but don't let it prevent you from living again.

Cover Image Credit: Rawle C. Jackman

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A Letter To My Go-To Aunt

Happiness is having the best aunt in the world.

I know I don't say it enough, so let me start off by saying thank you.

You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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The Lazy Girl's Guide To The Gym

Also, everything else you should know if you're a slightly out-of-shape girl (like me).


With my freshman year coming to an end, I realized a lot of things. I made new friends, I found new hobbies, and I learned a lot of lessons. One of them being that the "Freshman 15" is very real and very scary.

While my friends and family have attempted multiple times to convince me that I'm just being dramatic (I am), I still want to make a change in my lifestyle or I will, in all seriousness, be on track to the "Sophomore 20".

Here is a list of my best gym and healthy lifestyle tips that I am slowly attempting to live by this summer in order to resurrect Emily's 18-year-old body and health.

1. Increase water intake.

2. Find a gym buddy.

3. Start off with cardio.

4. Don't stop on your cardio until you're dripping in sweat.

5. Chug a LOT of water an hour before the gym.

Do not do it right before, or you will be in pain.

6. Eat light beforehand but just enough to hold you over. 

7. Plan out what your routine will be BEFORE you get there.

My routine: Elliptical for a mile, Stairmaster for 10 minutes, ab HIIT workout for 10 minutes, 5 more minutes on Stairmaster.

8. Buy healthy foods while you're feeling motivated.

9. Find a gym that isn't too far from your house. 

10. Don't get mad at yourself if you don't see results in a day.

I know this is a hard one.

11. Try fitness classes. 

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