Stop Shaming Women Who Love To Eat And Never Gain Any Weight

Stop Shaming Women Who Love To Eat And Never Gain Any Weight

To all you "skinny" girls out there who have been told you need to eat a cheeseburger or something, this one's for you.

So, this topic hits home with me because I have personally experienced skinny shaming far too many times. I have always been underweight. I have never dieted a day in my life. Actually, I do pretty much the opposite. I hate working out, so I always played sports in high school, and since I've graduated, I've maybe worked out 10 times... in almost 3 years. I have an obsession with Krispy Kreme doughnuts and fast food. I love candy, and cookies are my weakness. I have never strived to be skinny. I have always envied the girls with full curves that can actually go into a women's clothing store and have everything not fall off of them.

I get the "you're so skinny" comment a lot, and always have. I don't mind it but to me, it's not really a compliment. Not every girl wants to be skinny. What really bothers me is the negative attitude directed at my size. The "you're like skin and bones" and "you need to eat a cheeseburger" comments make me wanna slap someone with the cheeseburger they believe I need to eat but have probably already eaten. That's not okay.

It's totally not okay to call a bigger girl fat. So why is it acceptable to make nasty remarks about a girl who eats everything in sight and can't gain weight? Saying I need to eat some more or that I look like a 12-year-old because I am so small, is like looking at a curvy girl and telling her that she needs to go find a treadmill and that she looks like a whale. It's all WRONG. Every girl — and guy, for that matter — is beautiful the size they were created. We should not feel inferior because someone thinks we should be bigger or smaller.

I got so excited when I saw the Dove commercial with curvy women on it, and saw the beautiful, full-figured Ashley Graham grace the cover of Sports Illustrated. Finally, some acceptance for women's body types that don't look like Victoria's Secret models. (And there's nothing wrong with their bodies either, I admire them all.) But now, we've taken two steps back. We finally start appreciating one body type, and then we put another one down.

Oh, and the "men don't want bones" comment is ridiculous and sexist. My boyfriend is perfectly happy with my size 2 "skin and bones." Every guy is different, just like every girl. So just because your man prefers a size 12, doesn't mean I'll never be wanted by a man because I am smaller.

How could I forget the anorexic and bulimic rumors either? Just because a girl is "skinny" does not mean she has an eating disorder. Seriously people. These accusations based on size are ridiculous.

So my whole point is it's wrong. We have finally started to accept more full-figured girls, which is awesome. Let's not ruin that by bashing the smaller, "skinny" people. Everyone should be able to be comfortable with their bodies without being told they should eat a cheeseburger.

But you know what, I will eat that cheeseburger because at the end of the day it's my body, not yours, and I'll do whatever makes ME happy with MY size.

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4 reasons how Drake's New Album May Help Us Fight Mental Illness

Increasing Evidence Points to Music as a Potential Solution to the Mental Health Problem.


Okay, You caught me!

I am NOT just talking about everybody's favorite actor-turned-rapper— or second, if you've seen Childish Gambino's "This is America" music video. Unfortunately, current research hasn't explored specific genres and artists. However, studies HAVE provided significant evidence in possibilities for music to treat mental health disorders. Now, before you say something that your parents would not be proud of, ask yourself if you can really blame me for wanting to get your attention. This is an urgent matter concerning each one of us. If we all face the truth, we could very well reach one step closer to solving one of society's biggest problems: Mental Health.

The Problem:

As our nation continues to bleed from tragedies like the horrific shooting that shattered the lives of 70 families whose loved ones just wanted to watch the "Dark Knight Rises" during its first hours of release, as well as the traumatic loss of seventeen misfortunate innocents to the complications of mental health disorders in the dear city of Parkland— a city mere hours from our very own community— it's impossible to deny the existence of mental illness. As many of us can already vouch, mental illness is much more common than what most would think: over 19 million adults in America suffer from a mental health disorder. Picture that: a population slightly less than that of Florida is plagued by hopelessness, isolation, and utter despair.

Disease in the form of depression holds millions of people prisoner, as anxieties instill crippling desperation and too many struggles with finding peace. This can be you. It could be your brother, your sister, your mother, your father, your cousin, your aunt, your uncle, your friend, your roommate, your fraternity brother, your sorority sister, your lab partner, or just your classmate that sits in the corner of the lecture hall with a head buried into a notebook that camouflages all emotion.

I hope we— the UCF community— understand the gravity of the problem, but it's clear that some still see mental illness as a disease that affects only a handful of "misfits" who "terrorize" our streets, while the numbers reveal more to the issue. In fact, 1 in 5 Americans suffers from a mental health disorder. The problem is so serious that suicide has risen to become the second-leading cause of death among 20 to 24-year-olds. While many continue to ask for more antidepressants and even the occasional "proper spanking," recent studies indicate increases in occurrence, such as one in depression from 5.9% in 2012 to 8.2% in 2015. So, clearly, none of that is working.

The Evidence:

If we really want to create a world where our children are free from the chains of mental illness, we need to think outside the box. Doctors and scientists won't really talk about this since it's still a growing field of research, but music has strong potential. We don't have any options at the moment, which means we need to change our mindset about music and to continue to explore its medicinal benefits. If you're still skeptical because of the title, then please consider these 4 pieces of solid evidence backed by scientific research:

1. Music has been proven to improve disorders like Parkinson's Disease.

Researchers sponsored by the National Institute of Health— the country's largest research agency— saw an improvement in the daily function of patients with Parkinson's Disease. This makes patients shake uncontrollably, which often prevents them from complete functionality. The disease is caused by a shortage of dopamine— a chemical your neurons, or brain cells, release; since music treats this shortage, there's an obvious ability to increase dopamine levels. As numerous studies connect dopamine shortages to mental illnesses like depression, addiction, and ADHD, someone could possibly use music's proven ability to increase dopamine levels to treat said problems.

2. Listening to the music has the potential to activate your brain's "reward center."

In 2013, Valorie Salimpoor and fellow researchers conducted a study that connected subjects' pleasure towards music to a specific part of the brain. This key structure, the nucleus accumbens, is the body's "reward center," which means all of you have experienced its magical powers. In fact, any time the brain detects a rewarding sensation— drinking ice-cold water after a five-mile run in sunny, humid Florida, eating that Taco Bell chalupa after a long happy hour at Knight's Library, and even consuming recreational drugs— this structure releases more of that fantastic dopamine. So, with further research into specifics, doctors may soon be prescribing your daily dose of tunes for your own health.

3. Listening to Music may be more effective than prescription anti-anxiety medication.

In 2013, Mona Lisa Chanda and Daniel J. Levitin— two accomplished doctors in psychology— reviewed a study wherein patients waiting to undergo surgery were given either anti-anxiety medications or music to listen to. The study took into account cortisol levels, which are used daily by healthcare professionals to gauge patient levels. This "stress hormone" was actually found to be lower in patients who listened to classical music rather those who took the recommended dose of prescription drugs. Sit there and think about that for a second: these patients actually felt more relaxed with something as simple as MUSIC than with chemicals that are made specifically to force patients into relaxation before surgery. Why pop a Xanax when you can just listen to Beethoven?

4. Music may release the chemicals that help you naturally relax and feel love.

Further studies continue to justify music's place in the medical world as results demonstrate increases in substances such as prolactin— a hormone that produces a relaxing sensation— as well as oxytocin— the substance that promotes warmth and happiness during a hug between mother and child. So this study basically showed us that music has the potential to actually make you feel the way you did when Mom or Dad would embrace you with the warmest hug you've ever felt.

The Future:

The evidence I present you with today is ultimately just a collection of individual situations where specific people found specific results. There are a lot of variables when it comes to any research study; therefore, data is never truly certain. We should take these findings as strong suggestions to a possible solution, but we must remember the possibility of failure in our search.

The neurochemistry behind the music and its medicinal properties is just beginning to unfold before the scientific community. In fact, extremely qualified scientists from the National Institute of Health— the organization that basically runs any important medical study in the United States— continue to remind us of the subject's youth with the constant use of "potential" behind any and all of their findings. Therefore, it's our responsibility as a community to look into this— not just that of the scientists at the National Institute of Health.

We're all surrounded by music. It's at the bars. It's in our ears during all-night sessions at the UCF library. It's keeping us awake through East Colonial traffic at 7:00 AM while hordes of students focus on their cell phone screens instead of the paved roads ahead. It's in the shoes we wear, the actions we take, and the words we say. IF YOU'RE READING THIS: it's accessible to you. So, don't be shy, and try to play with your Spotify account, or even just on YouTube, and gauge the power of music. As more and more of us see the light, we can promote the movement and carry on as more research comes out to support us.

Drop the bars, drop those addictive pills that destroy your body slowly, and pick up your headphones and press PLAY.

Just relax, close your eyes, smile, and live.

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It’s 2018, So Please Stop shaming other girls

A response to an article,"To The Ladies: Put Some Clothes On!"


When I first read an article titled, "To The Ladies: Put Some Clothes On!" I was genuinely very upset.

The article expressed that girl's boyfriends won't approve of them, parents won't approve of them based on what they wear and that they can't be surprised because they brought it upon themselves.

What upset me the most was not what was said but that the article was written by a female in college.

Someone who most likely has been exposed to instances on the news and on a college campus of Sexual harassment, rape, blatant disregard for the female thoughts, and undermining of females with powerful careers.

She states, "Don't expect to have a lasting relationship when you dress like you aren't in one."

That actually stung that someone thinks this way about relationships and specifically about other females.

Since the start of 2018 I have seen all over social media and from my friends that it is "The Year Of The Woman." And let me tell you, I was so excited to hear this.

It finally felt like the equal rights movement was making tremendous headway and all types of open conversations were being held.

After all, the whole point and drive of this movement was just to be treated fairly right? I don't hear anyone walking around saying 'Put on a real shirt!' and 'Maybe don't dress so slutty then.' Being said to guys. Ever.

So I ask this girl, why is you saying "You can wear what you want; it is your body. But don't expect your boyfriend to approve." okay?

What about the phrase "you can wear what you want," something we say over and over again to women to build their confidence and self love, sound like something you can say as a cover up for shaming girls on what they want to wear and post?

Trust me when I say that I respect other's opinions and that they are entitled to them. I do not, however, respect girls who shame other girls. Simple as that.

In June of 2018 social media is no longer just a platform built to share things with your friends, it now largely is used to open conversations and affect change.

Talking positively about other women and making them feel validated without the "Approval" of their boyfriend, family, and friends is what we should be and have been trying to instill in women and in the younger generations growing up.

Things are tough enough socially still being a woman, especially one of color, or a minority. Cam't we just play nice?

So this is what I say to the girl who wrote the article: I hope you take the time to sit down and talk with people of different views from you often, I think you'd be very surprised to get to know these girls who happens to post the photo on your instagram feed and "in the middle of all the vacation photos is one of a girl in little to no clothes."

(Which sounds a lot like they posed in a bikini on the beach because that is what you wear to the beach...a bathing suit)

Clothes shouldn't define a woman's life or career so please stop discussing their clothes like they do and support their work instead, spread confidence!

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