Stop Shaming Women Who Love To Eat And Never Gain Any Weight

Stop Shaming Women Who Love To Eat And Never Gain Any Weight

To all you "skinny" girls out there who have been told you need to eat a cheeseburger or something, this one's for you.

So, this topic hits home with me because I have personally experienced skinny shaming far too many times. I have always been underweight. I have never dieted a day in my life. Actually, I do pretty much the opposite. I hate working out, so I always played sports in high school, and since I've graduated, I've maybe worked out 10 times... in almost 3 years. I have an obsession with Krispy Kreme doughnuts and fast food. I love candy, and cookies are my weakness. I have never strived to be skinny. I have always envied the girls with full curves that can actually go into a women's clothing store and have everything not fall off of them.

I get the "you're so skinny" comment a lot, and always have. I don't mind it but to me, it's not really a compliment. Not every girl wants to be skinny. What really bothers me is the negative attitude directed at my size. The "you're like skin and bones" and "you need to eat a cheeseburger" comments make me wanna slap someone with the cheeseburger they believe I need to eat but have probably already eaten. That's not okay.

It's totally not okay to call a bigger girl fat. So why is it acceptable to make nasty remarks about a girl who eats everything in sight and can't gain weight? Saying I need to eat some more or that I look like a 12-year-old because I am so small, is like looking at a curvy girl and telling her that she needs to go find a treadmill and that she looks like a whale. It's all WRONG. Every girl — and guy, for that matter — is beautiful the size they were created. We should not feel inferior because someone thinks we should be bigger or smaller.

I got so excited when I saw the Dove commercial with curvy women on it, and saw the beautiful, full-figured Ashley Graham grace the cover of Sports Illustrated. Finally, some acceptance for women's body types that don't look like Victoria's Secret models. (And there's nothing wrong with their bodies either, I admire them all.) But now, we've taken two steps back. We finally start appreciating one body type, and then we put another one down.

Oh, and the "men don't want bones" comment is ridiculous and sexist. My boyfriend is perfectly happy with my size 2 "skin and bones." Every guy is different, just like every girl. So just because your man prefers a size 12, doesn't mean I'll never be wanted by a man because I am smaller.

How could I forget the anorexic and bulimic rumors either? Just because a girl is "skinny" does not mean she has an eating disorder. Seriously people. These accusations based on size are ridiculous.

So my whole point is it's wrong. We have finally started to accept more full-figured girls, which is awesome. Let's not ruin that by bashing the smaller, "skinny" people. Everyone should be able to be comfortable with their bodies without being told they should eat a cheeseburger.

But you know what, I will eat that cheeseburger because at the end of the day it's my body, not yours, and I'll do whatever makes ME happy with MY size.

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The Future For Those Living With HIV Has Never Looked As Hopeful As It Does In This Very Moment

The next few years appear to be promising ones full of purpose towards finally eradicating the infection from the human populace.


The past few days have seen momentous progress in the worldwide fight against HIV with the 30th anniversary of World AIDS day on December 1st, 2018. Since the beginning of the AIDS epidemic in the 1970s, over 70 million people worldwide have been infected with the malady, culminating in approximately 35 million deaths. However, the tally for today's treatment of the disease shows a far more hopeful outcome, with 37 million living despite carrying HIV and 22 million in treatment.

Recent advances in medical science and technology have lead to the proliferation of easily accessible testing procedures, a plethora of treatments including drugs such as Abacavir (a nucleoside analog reverse-transcriptase inhibitor that is utilized in conjunction with other treatments to reduce the spread of HIV throughout the blood), and pre-exposure prophylaxis as preventative measures have become readily available to many vulnerable communities to help stem the tide of infection on an international scale.

The fight against HIV has been fraught with a host of preventative and treatment plans including clinical trials of antiretrovirals (ARVs) introduced in 1985. Since HIV works by utilizing a reverse transcriptase mechanism — in effect, turning its own viral RNA into DNA — in order to integrate itself into a host cell to mass produce its desired product and thereby infect neighboring cells until an entire tissue area and body system becomes affected, reverse transcriptase inhibitors such as antiretrovirals are increasingly essential in their ability to limit HIV's ability to latch onto a host body and bind properly, thereby reducing its potential to spread and develop into full-blown AIDS.

By 1995, these various ARVs were proclaimed as a major breakthrough in the fight against the AIDS epidemic and were celebrated as a deadly combination to the fatal illness at the 11th International AIDS Conference in Vancouver.

Soon after this development, the WHO announced a "three by five" initiative focused on providing high-quality HIV treatment to approximately three million patients in low- and middle-class regions by the year 2005. It was the largest global public health initiative ever launched at the time, and it increased the number of people who were able to receive access to affordable life-saving treatment by 15-fold within a mere three-year period.

Since then, the WHO has announced a "90-90-90" target plan intent on ensuring that by 2020, approximately 90% of all people living with HIV would know of their status, 90% of all people diagnosed with HIV would receive sustained antiretroviral therapy, and 90% of those who received this therapy would be able to achieve viral suppression and subsequent recession of their symptoms.

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I'm Standing With My Trans Sisters And Boycotting Victoria's Secret

Victoria's secret has been revealed, and it's just as discriminatory as we all suspected.


In a recent interview with Vogue, Victoria Secret's CMO Ed Razek was asked about why the company's infamous fashion show does not include plus-size and transgender models. To this, he replied that the show was meant to be a fantasy, and that they include models that appeal to the markets they sell to, not the whole world.

Reading between the lines with barely a smidgen of effort, Razek meant that their goal is appealing to their cis-female, 14- to 18-year-old demographic so that those customers can better appeal to the white, cis men—the show targets, which explains all the meatless, opinion-less models.

Who cares if they promote unrealistic standards for girls with real-life bodies who aren't #TrainedLikeAnAngel?

In an effort to create that fantasy, they certainly can't be bothered to worry about the fatsos and trannies, too.

Anyone could've told Razek that secret should've stayed in the closet, but it is not altogether surprising coming from a company who only reluctantly started celebrating their top models' racial diversity and national backgrounds.

Unbeknownst to Victoria, representation for the trans community has exploded in recent years with the fashion industry leading the way. Under the influence of supermodels and activists like Arisce Wanzer, Carmen Carrera, Isis King and MiMi Tao, these women and their equals have gone from being token "trans models" to simply owning the supermodel title they so rightly deserve.

Even despite the Trump administration's most recent attack on trans rights, campaigns like Laverne Cox's #TransIsBeautiful have emboldened more trans and gender nonconforming people than ever before to be themselves in everyday society.

Victoria's Secret apparently didn't get that memo.

From a marketing standpoint, the company's stubborn refusal to change with the times is absolutely moronic. Every day, commercial brands like Arie, Gap, and H&M; come out with new lines and campaigns that cater to a variety of people of all colors, creeds, shapes and sizes.

Yet, Victoria's Secret Pink line still doesn't even provide sizes past XL.

It's this obvious exclusion that has made the popularity of their fashion show decline in recent years, for young girls and femmes can no longer relate to the content.

While the size discrimination may be attributed to the availability of the cheap, uncomfortable materials the company refuses to branch out from, Razek's comments brought their discriminatory practices into stark relief.

The CMO's opinions set off a firestorm for the company, taking heat from plus-sized and trans models alike, but many of the outraged voices from trans activists were of a similar tune.

Trans women live their dream fantasy every day by simply being themselves, whether or not that fits Victoria's Secret's cookie-cutter vision for what that should be.

By refusing to include the queer community in their beauty standards, they are ignoring what the company symbolizes to many trans women who are brave enough to be themselves.

As Victoria's Secret is one of the most accessible lingerie brands on the market, I can only imagine how young trans ladies must feel when they purchase their very first piece of lady's underwear from the retailer. For a company that represents the pinnacle of womanhood and sexuality to so many developing girls, this could be a pivotal moment in many trans women's lives.

Razek's comments confirmed that the company couldn't give less of a damn about this portion of their clientele or what their brand might have represented.

With that in mind, it's no wonder this statement is quickly becoming the tipping point in the company's relationship with young people who are only going to keep getting more progressive.

Indeed, I and many other young millennials have already started to grow tired of the brand's repetitive patterns, unrealistic fit and vanilla beauty standards for some time now. It's foreseen that the company will lose more than just their queer customer base after this blunder.

It's a shame this company is so resolutely stuck in their outdated ways, refusing to embrace the inspiration that people like Christian Siriano and Ashley Grahm inspire, when they started off as a trailblazer in celebrating women's sexuality. But it's sheer, delicious luck that this happened the same year Rihanna graced us with her presence in the commercial fashion industry.

So, in the words of the infamous Trace Lysette, I'm marching over to Savage Fenty with my dollars.

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