Once the second date is secured, there are many questions girls ask. Can I hook up with him now? Are we going to start dating? Are we still getting to know each other? Do I want a boyfriend? With so many questions, the best advice is to lay low and act like you don't want to date. Why? Because EVERY BOY is "a fuck boy until proven otherwise."

With this mentality, you are protecting yourself from getting hurt, while also appearing as less available. Which, because of the twisted cycle of the dating game, makes you more attractive. We all want what we can't have. He "can't" have you, or at least make him think that. This will leave your guy wanting you more because not only do you seem to be GF material, but he also wants to get your attention.

How I Did It, Day 3:

In my experience, since I didn't hook up on the first date, this guy was enthralled not only by the fact I was unavailable mentally, but also physically. On our second date, I mentioned things like I was so busy tomorrow and stuff so he knew I had a life outside of me trying to secure a date. I still believed this guy was a womanizer, until on the second date at the end he asked if I had any past relationships, which I answered: "2, one long-distance and one briefly in high school." This response made him think I was inexperienced now and a "good" girl, whatever "good" means. Within this conversation, I was able to get a sense of who this guy is and, ultimately, began to chip away at the "fuckboy" mentality I held toward him. After giving him this chance to prove himself worthy, we planned a third date.

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