Unfortunately, we live in a world where everyone is told they have to be thin. The goal is to be the prettiest, thinnest, and have the "best body." I know we are all getting tired of it. To be honest, lust like almost every girl, I have struggled with my body image. From gaining the freshman 15, to losing it, to some coming back, I've definitely struggled with how I feel about my body.
However, nothing is more annoying than when girls who know they are skinny and are just seeking compliments go, "ugh, I feel so fat today." I get it. We all have those days where, yeah, maybe after a few too many chips dipped in queso, we feel a little large. But those who just say it so their friends will go, "What are you talking about you're so thin," drive me insane. I'm sorry, but GIRLS NEED TO STOP DOING THIS. The ones that target their friends, who struggle with their body image, to give them compliments are the worst. Sometimes you do need reassuring that you look okay, aka "does this shirt make me look large." But don't tell someone how bad you look to fish for compliments. When stick thin people complain how they feel so large, it makes you question how they see you, which makes you feel bad. Also, when people say, "Are you really going to eat all of that?" when you don't order something like a salad. Friends should not do this, they should build you up, not break you down. This can lead to eating disorders, which really ruin people's lives. Is it really worth it?
I personally cannot keep up with the "phases of what body type is acceptable." The labels "thick," "thin," "athletic," "big," etc., have been known to describe girls builds as to what it is acceptable to look like and what "guys like in a girl." That's not fair either, because we constantly compare ourselves to other girls and other body types that we can never achieve. Yeah, I'm sure everyone looks at other girls and goes "Wow, I wish I had her body," but you've gotta work with what you have. Everyone is built differently and working out and eating healthy can change your body, but ultimately, you were born with your body and can't really change body type that dramatically. Going from kid sizes to adult sizes, I completely skipped over that 00/0 size. I'm just going to blame that on my thighs, which developed from years of field hockey and lacrosse. Everyone is going to have a part of their body they don't feel is "hot." Instead of focusing on that, focus on the parts you do like and feel confident about!
In the end, it's all about accepting your body type and feeling beautiful no matter your shape or size and stop comparing yourself to others. And don't put others down because they do not look a certain way. Ladies, let's stop breaking each other down and start building each other up!
