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Stereotypes Of Being A Military Girlfriend

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Dec 18, 2019

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Stereotypes Of Being A Military Girlfriend

Yes, I have a boyfriend in the military. No, we're not getting married anytime soon.There are tons of military girlfriends out there. Every military S.O has a different story, but we all have the same stereotypes. Not only do we have the same stereotypes, but we all have the same struggles.

"You’ll be giving up your dreams to be with him. "

Do people do this? Yes. I know multiple people who start dating someone in the military and give up their own dreams so they can marry them and move around with them. Personally, I'm not doing that. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and we've both agreed that even though we're together, we want to do our own individual things. I'm going to college and succeeding in my own goals and he's by my side to support me.

“When’s the wedding?”

My boyfriend left for Japan on Nov. 22. I was telling some of my friends at school how I missed him after he had left and my teacher said. "if you miss him, why don't you just marry him?" I thought he was kidding but he wasn't. Not every military couple gets married as soon as possible. Yes, a lot of military couples get married super young but not all of them do. Side note, even if the military spouse life was the life I wanted to live, getting married to my boyfriend wouldn't make me miss him any less. My boyfriend's in the Navy so he lives on the ship and works in the ship. I would never be able to even be with him! I'd still miss him! When he got deployed I wouldn't be able to go with him. When he gets a new home station, I wouldn't be able to travel with him. Us getting married wouldn't make me miss him any less.

"Your military significant other must be cheating on you."

This is a constant thought from people who aren't or never have been in a military relationship. Yes, cheating happens, but it's a possibility in every relationship, not just long-distance relationships. It's not that hard to have self-control. If you start to get feelings for someone else, then break up with your current S.O. For some reason, people associate cheating more with military couples than ordinary couples. That's ridiculous. It can happen to anyone.

"You’re only together for the benefits."

Back to the marriage point made earlier, everyone not only assumes you'll be giving up your dreams and getting married hella fast, but you don't actually love them. Of course, there are benefits to marrying someone in the military, but very seldom do people get married just for the benefits. Are some people materialistic when it comes to their military relationship? I'm sure there's at least one person that's only with their S.O for their money or benefits, but that one person should make up for everyone else.

Being in a relationship with someone who's in the military is hard, but loving them is so easy.

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“When’s the wedding?”

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"You’re only together for the benefits."

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