Some Tips to Help You Avoid Relationship Problems During Stressful Times

Some Tips to Help You Avoid Relationship Problems During Stressful Times

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Personally, right now, my life is under a lot of stress. But in my relationship, we are avoiding any relationship problems. It’s the least stressful part of my life. I handle stress in my life pretty well, but I know that’s because I have a relationship that is consistently a happy and comfortable place to turn to.

When you are under a lot of stress in your life it can quickly create relationship problems in your intimate relationship. These relationship problems just add more stress in your life and soon the never-ending circle of stress makes it hard to get out of.

But if you can stop relationship problems from happening, and maintain a positive relationship even while the rest of the world is going crazy, then you have a positive and grounding place to go to and relax, recuperate, and distress.

Some Tips to Avoid Relationship Problems

1. Don’t Blame Your Partner

It can be easy to blame your partner for outside stress, even if they are not responsible. They are around you every day and if you do not accept that the stress is created by you or no one then you can quickly blame the next best thing – your partner.

2. Don’t ‘Take It Out’ on Your Partner.

It’s been said that we sometimes treat strangers better than we treat our intimate partners, and it’s true! You would never be rude with a stranger because your boss treated you horribly today, but with your partner you may be more likely to express your negative emotions and try to make them feel just as bad as you do.

3. Make Your Time Together Positive

Your partner is there for you when you need to complain and get things off your chest, but that should not be all your relationship is about! If you don’t spend positive and joyful time together then you will find that relationship problems will quickly appear.

Try spending most of your time together laughing and making each other feel good. Try talking about good things and focusing on good aspects of your life together. Bring joy to each other when no one else can and you will find that your relationship will continuously grow stronger.

Incorporate these 3 tips into your life today and you will find that your relationship will always be a great place to turn to.

Relationship problems that come from taking it out on your partner, blame, and not spending positive time together are bitterness, anger, resentment, and a constant need to fight it out. That’s not how you should spend your time with the most intimate person in your life.

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I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

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Summer = Rest?

Sometimes it feels as if we need a vacation... from our vacation.

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Ah summer: Popsicles and sun burns, mixed with fresh-squeezed lemonade that local kids are pandering to make enough money for Roman candles and Black Cats. The crack of the bat can be heard among the simmering charcoal grills and Troy-bilts humming through the ever-lasting sun. School is out and children are wild. It's a paradise.

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