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To Skinny People Who Tell Fat People They're Not Fat

We know you mean well, but you're being offensive.

Katelynn Rought
Aug 09, 2016
SUNY Fredonia
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To Skinny People Who Tell Fat People They're Not Fat
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First and foremost, knock it off. I'm serious, stop it, right now. You do not get to tell people that the words they use to describe their bodies are wrong just because you aren't comfortable with it. I'm sure you mean well, but by telling a fat person that they're not fat, you are telling them that you think fat is bad and that they're bad for being fat.

Society tells us that fat is an insult, and it's understandable that you don't want your friends insulting themselves, but saying "you're not fat, there's just more of you to love" is way more insulting than fat could ever be. By telling you that I am fat, I am telling you that I accept my body and love myself enough to reclaim this insult. In order to lose weight I have to love myself enough to want to eat right and exercise and I can't love myself if you're telling me that what I see in the mirror is wrong. I don't wear size 18 jeans because I'm "big boned,” I wear them because I. Am. Fat. I know that my weight will start to cause health issues if it is not addressed soon, I know that my 280 lbs are putting too much pressure on my joints. I know that I have a problem and you telling me that I am not fat is telling me to just sweep the problem under the rug and pretend that everything is okay.

I know that you tell me I'm not fat because you love me, but you're insulting me, you're insulting the number I see on the scale, and you're insulting anyone who has ever struggled with their weight. Don't invalidate me, don't invalidate my struggle, don't invalidate my experience. If we are going to have an open and honest discussion about body image and health, you need to accept that from time to time I will use the word fat to describe myself, and I'm not using it to insult myself, it's just a word that accurately describes me, just like the words tall, brunette, and green eyed describe me.

My body should not be taboo. I should be able to describe my body without my friends telling me that I'm wrong. I know you mean well, but please stop telling fat people to stop calling themselves fat.

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