Do you find yourself getting into more awkward moments than most normal people? Do you experience days when you are the most awkward person in the world and then days when you are a social butterfly? If you have been looking for a way to label yourself, knowing you are not super shy but also not super outgoing, you may be an outgoing introvert. Yes, they are two polar opposites, but if you find yourself relating to any of the things listed below, you may very well be an outgoing introvert.
Dating...
Dating is extremely difficult. When a guy meets you around your friends, it is so easy to be yourself because you are with the people you are the most comfortable with. But once it is you and him alone, it is completely different. You want to talk and be funny, but no words come out. Your biggest fear is having your crush think you are weird or obnoxious. So you think of hilarious conversation starters that you never say out loud because you are too nervous. Then you go home and say to yourself, “Why the heck was I so nervous?” Now your crush thinks you are either super shy or have zero interest in him. Perfect.
Your friends are your shield.
You are just as outgoing as everyone else when you are with your friends, but when it comes to one-on-one time with someone you are trying to impress, you freeze. Most of your friends tell you how funny you are, and all you can think is, “Why can’t I be like this all the time?” With people you do not know at all but aren't trying to impress, having a great conversation is no problem at all. Because who cares? It's not like you will ever see them again. On the other hand, when you are talking to someone you don't know and want to impress, your ultimate goal is to make them think you are "cool." But instead, you kind of end up forgetting what words even are.
Sometimes you are just not in the mood to be social.
There are days when you don't feel like talking to anyone. There are also days when all you want to do is be with your friends doing something fun and meeting new people. There is no in between. On the days you don't feel like doing anything, everyone asks if you are mad or upset and the answer is almost always no. You are not mad at anyone; it is just one of those days when you feel like being left alone. And on the days when all you want to do is go out with your friends, they are either all in or find you extremely annoying because you just keep repeating, “I’m bored, let’s do something."
If someone does not talk to you first, you will probably never talk to them.
Unless you are with your close friends, you only talk when you are spoken to. Some people may think you do not like them because you don't talk to them, but that is really not the case. You are just one of those people who only talks when someone talks to them first or when you have something really important to say. That being said, if no one talks to you, all that's left for you to do is transform into a ball of awkwardness.
Awkward moments.
And with those awkward moments come awkward memories. You replay an awkward moment a million times in your head and think, “Why did I do that? WHY AM I SO AWKWARD?” Times like these make you believe you should be on “Awkward.” You shouldn't just be on the show; you should be the main character.
You like your bubble.
Don't get me wrong. You love cuddles from your boyfriend and hugs from your best friends, but if you don't really know someone and they keep touching you and hugging you, it makes you super uncomfortable. You literally met them two seconds ago. Why do they feel the need to be all over you? I feel you. It's not like you have anything against them; it just takes a while for you to warm up to people.
Being the center of attention is not your thing.
You love having fun and you are all about parties and hanging out with your friends, but you HATE being the center of attention. It makes you feel uncomfortable.
That is all. I am just going to go back into my ball of awkwardness now. Thank you. Goodbye.
