As a 20-year-old girl who graduated from Libertyville High School in 2014, I can honestly say that I am disappointed in the way my high school has replied to a certain situation.
About a week and a half ago, ESPN did a feature with Rebecca Dabrowski. The video entailed this 19-year-old and how she was sexually assaulted during a water polo game. She was on an all-boys team at McHenry High School and was currently playing against Libertyville. She had said a male opponent, who had also been ridiculing her and teasing her in a previous game, touched her under the water by moving her swimsuit to the side.
There is a currently a video showing her scream and struggle while the action took place. I have also seen posts on Facebook by peers saying they were at the game in the stands and watched it go down. They heard her scream, along with her mother, and it was piercing.
Mid-video, while watching this myself, I couldn't believe what I was seeing. I couldn't understand that a high school I went to, first, kept it from our town and society for so long, and secondly, did nothing about it. In their response, that was just released, it said that the coach removed the student from the game when it happened, but just as a precaution and not as an admission of guilt.
Precaution? You can't be serious! Not only that, but no foul was called, no infraction was placed, and the student could've freely continued playing the game.
Rebecca states in the video that it was her senior year. The next day was her last day at her high school, and she was absolutely terrified to go. It wasn't until later that the Buffalo Grove Police Department investigated.
The boy told the police that he never truly, intentionally touched Rebecca inappropriately and if he did, it was not intentional. I thought about this statement for a while. I understand that water polo is an aggressive sport, I do. I understand that there is kicking, tugging at suits, and lots of aggression under that water. But no one can tell me that what he did was an accident. I get that I wasn't there. I get that none of us truly know what happened, but what I do get is how it feels.
No one, and I repeat, no one, mistakenly moves a girl's swimsuit to the side with one hand and then with the other uses his fingers to be inside her. Yet somehow, the police reviewed only the video and came to the conclusion it was unintentional. And that was that.
In the letter replying to the situation, D128 and Libertyville stated, "District 128 would like to assure our parents, students and community that the safety and well-being of all students is our highest priority." I'm not trying to ridicule my own high school. I'm not trying to bash them, yell at them or tell them how horrible they are. I went there. I know that there are amazing sides to that high school, but I also know the bad ones. I'm also not trying to do the same to the police department.
What I'm trying to get across is how my town and others handled this situation was not okay. The way it was handled makes us and the whole D128 and lake county seem as if we do not take sexual assault seriously when we should. The fact that the boy said he didn't do it, and that was that, case closed, makes me sick. This girl was sexually assaulted in front of a group of people, and we did nothing!
LHS, I am absolutely disappointed and sickened to hear that not even an apology was stated to the girl whose life has been changed, whether the event was true or not. All you did in this response was talk about what you did, and honestly, a reply as to why you haven't brought it up to us at all in the past year. How about, "I'm sorry, Rebecca, for any troubles and struggles you have gone through because of this." I truly believe there are staff at LHS who would agree with me, and I will say that this response just proves that things like this happen all the damn time and we just don't hear about it. I pray that when they do, LHS and all of Libertyville take it seriously.Rebecca, I am truly sorry for everything you have had to face, and I'm also sorry for the way my high school has handled the situation. You need to know that we stand with you. You have really shown my town and others that what happened was not okay, and I thank you for being so brave in showing us what occurred. You have truly changed a lot of people's lives in a good way.